apologies

I feel like I'm the only one in my family capable of saying "I'm sorry". I say "I'm sorry" too much, honestly, I know that and I'm working on it.. but I feel like most people I encounter, even outside of my family, are either too uncomfortable to say it or don't think of it. If I say I've been hurt by something, people either disappear or blame me for my hurt feelings (too sensitive
, or I'm making it up because they don't remember it [because I often address things later than in the moment which is something I need to work on], or I'm just being crazy).

I understand that a person can not be sorry for something.. but it does hurt when I go to someone and say "I felt hurt because of what you did" and it gets passed over or worse.

Am I toxic for searching for apologies or are they toxic for never saying any... I don't know to be honest.

#imsorry #apologies #toxicfamily #Depression #Family #Support #processing

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When people who can’t apologize say/do something that hurts someone, they love to say things like:

“I’m sorry you’re so sensitive.”
“Stop trying to make me feel bad.”
“I won’t apologize for who I am.”
“I am not going to change for you.”
“Stop making everything about you.”
“I’m happy with who I am.”
“Well you hurt my feelings too.”
“I think we both messed up.”
“Why can’t we just move past this?”
“Why do you have to make an issue out of every little thing?”
“You’re ruining what could be a nice day together.”
“I’m sorry that this is something that hurts your feelings.”
“Do you think this actually about how your parents treated you?”
“Maybe you just need to eat something?”
“I’m sorry you need someone different than me.”
“I think you’re being manipulative.”

Can you think of any others?

I have such a hard time with this. People always tell me all the time: “don’t ever apologize for who you are.” But what if you despise the person you are? What if you overthink every single conversation with anyone you come into contact with? Even your closest friends,family? I haven’t been able to get a hold on this. It’s something I believe I’ll forever struggle with. Has anyone ever overcome this?