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    Would you consider changing your name?

    <p>Would you consider changing your name?</p>
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    I finally See the Truth

    I’m 34 years old and the lightbulb in my mind has finally gone off. I was raised by a narassist with a victim complex. My mom was my best friend for most of my life but after a verbal attack recently that was unwarranted it all clicked. Long story short I was exposed to covid so i isolated and missed my parents 40th anniversary. 3 days after their anniversary I tested positive. My mom went on the attack for not showing up for them on their day. I stayed any for your safety but I’m a horrid person for that? Then once I did test positive I was met with “well I haven’t been able to smell and taste for months” she’s never had covid. It all clicked this isn’t the first time something like this has happened it just the latest. I suffer from depression and anxiety. I have a suicide attempt in my past (which has never and will never be talked about with my family). What the hell do I do? Why am I just not seeing this? I feel so lost and broken. #Depression #toxicfamily

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    I am having a rough weekend. I am dealing with high temps where we live causing my POTS symptoms to be really severe....which means just being exhausted overall. Then, my toxic bio family has been contacting me again after we have repeatedly told them to leave us alone. They are shaming us for not talking to them and calling us horrible people.

    These people literally act like family is incredibly important to them but in the same breath will berate and attack you and other members of the family. They are gossips, slanderers, and just overall mean people. They are also partially responsible for the state of my health because they neglected my health needs all of my childhood. I have been told repeatedly that had I received care younger my body wouldn't be this bad now. So, I want nothing to do with people who don't love or respect me. It absolutely sucks to be treated so horribly.

    My brain is stuck in a place where I so desperately wish I had a healthy core family....people who loved and cared for me. People who treated me with respect and decency....rather than those who acted like life was a system to get what they desires for themselves. I don't understand what I did wrong to make them hate me so much. The passive aggressive approach they took this weekend hurt me to the core. I am stuck right now and I don't know how to stop the spiral. I am sitting here sobbing over a family that will never change. Blaming myself for never being good enough....for people who literally treat strangers better than they treat their own family.

    But I am stuck there. It sucks and it hurts to not be loved by the people who literally brought you into this damn world. Even though you want nothing to do with them it still hurts. So so much.

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    Toxic environment vs. therapy?

    I was wondering if living in a toxic environment defeats the purpose of taking meds and receiving psychotherapy? Is it possible to recover while living with other people who are abusive? Should I remove myself from where I'm living now and then try therapy or should I pursue therapy regardless?

    #toxicenvironment #Abuse #DomesticAbuse #DomesticAbuseSurvivors #toxicfamily #Trauma #CPTSD #PTSD #MajorDepressiveDisorder #Anxiety #Therapy #Psychotherapy

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    I’m finally done with my f’d up family

    Just had to tell someone. I’ve had an unhealthy relationship with my mother and stepfather for years I’ve just put up with but this week it got to the point I can’t take anymore, so we stopped talking. I feel relieved. I may reconnect with my
    Mother down the road, but they haven’t been supportive of my health issues and I’ve been a great daughter. They never appreciated me. They’re going through another toxic separation and maybe divorce and at 34 yrs old I want no part of it. I was part of the last one and it sucked. My mom bombards me with constant negativity each day through texts I wake up to. She got rid of the dog I gave her after complaining no one visited enough so she needed a dog. She doesn’t examine her own behavior when truthfully both her and her husband are wretched. They never supported my journey in getting better and just acted like I was in the way. I’m finally done with the abuse and toxicity. I don’t really care if I ever see them again. #ToxicPeople #Toxicmom #toxicfamily

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    Is it safe for a 31 year old woman with BPD to move out of her parents’ house?

    My family is codependent, they have mental issues and try to manipulate me to do their will, I have lived to please them and at times myself, also manipulating them. I’m done tolerating this vicious cycle. There’s only so much I can take. I have some money saved up, but have no clue as to how much I need to survive for a month- I have a super strict diet, need to pay therapists, psychiatrist and medication, and am fucking scared to move out and be responsible. #help #toxicfamily #Independence

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    Nothing has been okay for me lately. My dad died on May and I feel like all these good and bad feeling keep coming up and I’ve just been so out of it my disassociation has been through the roof. I need some advice. Help!!! #Depression #dissociativedisorders #BPD #toxicfamily

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