Open Letter

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Lauren

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@lauxren

SafeSpace 2y

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When men make you feel unsafe

This is to the men who think it is okay to try to pick up women on this platform.

This is not a dating site. This is not the place for you to pop up in my inbox with a "hello" in the hopes that I will entertain some kind of conversation with you. What are you hoping will happen?

I would be more inclined to think this an actual conversation popping up if I had a random man or woman who is part of one of my communities messaging me with real concerns, or reaching out to discuss a common illness and find support.

This is a safe community of people who struggle with very real illnesses and disabilities. A space where people come when they are vulnerable or want to share their thoughts, maybe foster some positivity. I come here to find support and a safe space where I know others understand what I am going through.

Shame on you for your revolting lack of manners and empathy. If you want to pick up women who are clearly in your class - go visit your local dive bar or sign up for a cheap dating site. But don't, DON'T, feel that it is okay to step into my safe space and try to hit me up.

#SafeSpace #OpenLetter #Harassment

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ReactiveAttachmentDisorder 2y

An Open Letter: To my Mom

Dear mom,

I’m forgiving you for an apology that I’ll never get from you and that hurts the most.

I keep trying to forgive you for blaming me, and neglecting my needs. I’m forgiving you for not being there for me and for all the times I cried myself to sleep because of you. I’m forgiving you for making me parent your kids and myself, and take care of you as well.
But it’s so hard when you will never admit that you did those things, or that you were wrong.

Even if you did admit that you were wrong, it wouldn’t do me any good, because I can’t take back all the hurt you’ve caused or the bridges you’ve burned.

I know that you loved me, and that you did the best you could, but it wasn’t good enough. I deserved better, and I still do. But you won’t listen to that, and I know that you will never be able to do better than what you have done.

I’m forgiving you for an apology I will never get. I’m making amends for you, and trying to heal my own heart. I guess it makes sense, since I was my own parent anyways, that I would have to parent myself through adulthood, a time when we should be closer than ever, yet I still find myself walking on eggshells around you.

I’m forgiving you so hard that it hurts. It hurts because you went there. It hurts because of your judgment and rejection. It hurts because I needed you, and you didn’t care. It hurts because you should have been my mom.

I’m forgiving you, and forgiving you, and now im crying through a damn Lumineers song.

But I forgive you, mom.

Because you are my mom. ❤️

#ReactiveAttachmentDisorder #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Depression #Anxiety #OpenLetter

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ItsOKMan 5y

The Other Gender.

Young men or men in general are just as important as women. They are valid. Their stories should not be seen as a lie or attention seeking. They have struggles. They need love. To all the men out there who think they can’t be vulnerable: You can. I hope you will, because you’re worthy of being listened to. You are worthy of getting help and becoming better. You’re worthy of feeling handsome again. You’re enough. You’re loved. Please don’t give up. We may not know each other, but I haven’t given up on you. I won’t. I never will. #ItsOKMan #MensMentalHealth #OpenLetter #Disability #ChronicIllness