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Boundaries and Parents

Finding out I was psychologically abused by my parents has been one of the hardest things I've ever had to face. Setting boundaries with them was even harder. Finally, cutting them out of my life because they're too wrapped up in their own toxic mess has been heartbreaking.

The self doubt, shame and guilt that has come from this whole journey has been debilitating. I haven't wanted to go to work, I have barely been surviving.

Constantly thinking that it was all my fault and maybe if I wasn't around my family would be different or I'm a horrible daughter for treating them this way, for cutting them out, for not speaking to them.

I've still have a long, long way to go. For anyone out there struggling with this too, I'm not going to lie, it is difficult and it is painful.

But I wouldn't change this struggle for anything. I found my inner child and I am learning to cherish her. I have an imagination again, I'm laughing genuinely for the first time in a long time. And that is beautiful. #PTSD #Parents #Alcoholism #pyschologicalabsue #MentalHealth #boundaries

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Sorrow losing my life

My husband is having executive and other kinds of thinking problems, and I don't know who I'm talking to . I get so sad and depressed and sorrowful. I don't have any friends anymore. Oh that's not true I have one and it's just a very long long road that I'm on it. It's sad and it's only gonna get worse and I miss him. I don't know how to talk to him I don't know how to communicate to him, I guess I just need to agree and I guess I'm so afraid that he may do some thing that would be financially really messed up or he's so gullible and he was always that way to begin with but he believes everything everybody tells him he always does, but he doesn't believe me, his best ally his best friend that just ache and hurt. I've been suicidal lately again I just want to give up. I'm just tired. Don't know what to do. Nobody in my family my daughter, or my son will help because I don't know why I know my daughter has a full plate with her alcoholism and her husband, who is very demanding in their five year old who is just Off the walls and my son has three kids two businesses and isn't even in our state right now. What's the point? What's it all about Alfie Sia?

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Concern re treatment for friend

I have a special friend who has lived through an extremely abusive and traumatic life and has severe alcoholism as well as very severe BPD to the point where she's placed caring people's lives in tremendous danger when going through massive psychotic splits. Its at a level where she's going to promote her own greatest fear of getting arrested sooner than not if she's not helped.

She recently relapsed in terms of her severe alcoholism and hoping she can find a way to make that transient...however, she's also come to the realization that she's had BPD for many years and that it's deeply harmed multiple lives.

She definitely wants to treat it. But is at a loss as to how to find NY providers that truly understand BPD. And that also take medicaid as she Unfortunately, does not have private insurance.

Insights would be much appreciated as untreated she's at the precipice of horrific outcomes. BPD fuels the alcohol, which then also fuels extreme BPD rage. And she's been hospitalized half a dozen times in regards to alcohol in the last 9 months alone.

Feel like she's too close to dying. If alcohol detox needed again, im worried her bidy cant take it. Shes only in her 30s and treating her tormenting BPD symptoms is likely so critical to finally progress to a happier place, but she does not know how to start given the limitations.

Any useful insights would be much appreciated. 🙏

#BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #BPD #BPDRage #help #seekingtreatment #treatment #Crisis #Crisis


#Addiction #NicotineDependence #Alcoholism
I've been smoking and vaping for 3 years, vaping more but falling into cigs.. I rely on alcohol at points to just avoid my thoughts.. more often than i should and im just 22, knowing i use it as an escape.. I want to stop but I keep coming back to my escapes, it's so hard but I know it could be worse. I'm stuck trying to quit smoking, what gets you through? How can I stop myself from buying my habits I don't want?

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I'm new here!

Hi, my name is nitanutt. I'm here because I am a active substance user trying to get clean again for the bazillionth time. I have managed to get clean for short spurts like 6 months here or 2 years there but I haven't found complete recovery yet and all and all there is something i cant quite figure out. I feel it begins in the very early part of my life and is stemming from my childhood however i cant remember all that much from my youth but i feel like there is still something I have repressed deeply and as a result i haven't been able to address it and never fully heal and conquer my chains of suffering. I come from a same sex upbringing in a time when being gay was not at all acceptable. I suffered abuse from my peers and parents and never had friends like normal kids. I don't remember much growing up but I didn't do sleepovers ever and felt very alone growing up and was subject to my parents addictions and alcoholism as well, in addition to raising up my younger sister alone as if i was her mother. I am here just to learn if my behaviors as an adult were from my childhood and looking to feel like i am not alone anymore and would like to know if i am normal in the given circumstances. It would be nice to learn there are other people who have survived the same things with similar life experiences. Learnig how they have coped without substances would also be super beneficial for me.

#MightyTogether #Depression #Anxiety #BipolarDisorder #PTSD #ADHD

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I'm new here!

Hi, my name is walkingontheceiling. I'm here because I suffer from bipolar disorder, and alcoholism and mini-strokes have affected my brain and body. I've had years of physical and mental therapy. I'm the embodiment of "not all disabilities are visible".
#MightyTogether #BipolarDisorder #Anxiety

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We are in need of a new co-leader for MHC to encourage, empower, & support our members. I make a APPEAL to current members - PLEASE read below!

We are currently looking for a new Co-Leader for the Multiple Health Challenges group. We are growning fast and just passed 2,200 members. This is really exciting to me, however to be honest, I have been very frustrated that there is less activity recently and as our membership grows steadily the number of comments & replies has actually diminished. Our old co-leader Chris is no longer with the group and we need to have others step up and make up for her commitment to regularly respond to posts and comments. This means a collective effort from everyone in the group! I have had numerous layers of serious physical & mental health challenges recently and not been as active as I would like in order to step back and focus on self-care. This is a time having another co-leader to pick up the slack is essential!

My last post about hobbies was actually first posted 16 months ago (when we had at least 1,000 less members) and it got over 200 ❤️ & 👍and 100 comments then! It got only ONE this time. And Laura made a great post about disability after that and it got only two responses as well. When new members open up and post to introduce themselves and then get very little response that is even worse. I fear that new members will see this and not be active moving forward. This is OUR group everybody and it functions best when members support other members. We all have our varied health histories and with them the knowledge and wisdom we’ve garnered along the way! PLEASE let’s share these with each other. Without this empathy and understanding this group is falling short of what I first envisioned when I started the group and what it’s capable of.

For a co-leader I am looking for someone to welcome new members, comment or respond to posts and other comments & replies, and make new posts to the group. It is important for the group to have distinctly different voices to support people because people might relate more to either of us. What is a really good situation is if we both respond to the same posts, welcome new members from different perspectives and provide voices for people that are accessible and relatable. There is a commitment needed that you monitor activities on the group regularly and can respond pretty quickly.

Offering your own posts provides more content for the group. I can assist and support by offering to look at your new posts for feedback and editing before you post if you would like, will comment on your posts to get the responses going to best support your efforts, and I can help finding memes or images.

I look at potential leaders' history of posts and/or comments that have helped and supported others in the past. Willingness to be honest and open about your own health challenges is crucial to best support people.

You will get access to the Community Leaders group and your name will have a “Group Leader” tab next to it up top on your comments and responses so I think people pay attention especially to your activity and wisdom shared from your personal experience. Would you consider joining me on this journey? Let’s have a DM chat to discuss this! Thanks for considering taking on this role!

In service,

#Depression #Anxiety #MentalHealth #ChronicPain #ChronicIllness #Chronicpainwarrior #Disability #BipolarDisorder #BipolarDepression #BipolarIIDisorder #Bipolar1Disorder
#ObsessiveCompulsiveDisorder #ADHD #Schizophrenia #AspergersSyndrome #Autism #Dementia #Concussion #Addiction #AddictionRecovery #Cancers #TraumaticBrainInjury #BrainInjury #LossOfAParent #Grief #Suicide #ChronicFatigueSyndrome #DistractMe #HIVAIDS #MightyQuestions #DownSyndrome #IfYouFeelHopeless #Hope #Deafness #neckpain #BackPain #CongestiveHeartFailure #Migraine #COVID19 #PeripheralNeuropathy #LymeDisease #Diabetes #EatingDisorder #Headache #Stroke #Cancer #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Fibromyalgia #Disability #thankful #grateful #CocaineDependence #drugaddiction #Alcoholism #PTSD #EmotionalHealth #physicalhealth #PainAcceptance #Acceptance #relief #Selflove #Selfcare #MentalHealthHero #TheMighty #RareDisease #MightyTogether #RareDisease

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What is the Difference Between Inpatient Treatment and Intensive Outpatient Programs?

Which one is right for you?

To begin with…

In the realm of and treatment, individuals seeking help have a wide range of options to consider. Among the most common choices are inpatient treatment and intensive outpatient (IOPs). These offer valuable support for those battling substance abuse, disorders, or both. However, they differ significantly in their approach, setting, and level of care. In this article, we will explore the fundamental differences between inpatient treatment and intensive outpatient programs, helping individuals make informed decisions about the most suitable treatment path for their unique needs.

Inpatient Treatment

Inpatient treatment, also known as residential treatment, involves individuals residing within a structured facility throughout the duration of their treatment. This setting provides a highly immersive and supervised environment designed to address acute issues related to and mental health. Typically, inpatient range from 28 days to several months, depending on the severity of the individual's condition and the treatment center's recommendations.

Structure and Support

Inpatient treatment offers 24/7 care and supervision. Patients are monitored closely by a team of medical professionals, therapists, and counselors who ensure their safety and progress throughout the recovery process. The structured nature of inpatient care helps individuals establish a routine, emphasizing healthy habits and coping mechanisms.

1. What Happens When You Go through Drug or Alcohol Detoxification?

For people suffering from drug or alcohol addiction, inpatient treatment often includes a medically supervised detoxification process. This ensures the safe and gradual withdrawal from drugs or alcohol, minimizing the physical and psychological discomfort associated with withdrawal symptoms.

2. What are Individual and Group Therapy?

Inpatient treatment provides an array of therapeutic modalities, including one-on-one counseling and group therapy sessions. These therapy sessions delve into the root causes of or issues, offering patients the opportunity to gain insights, build coping skills, and develop a strong support network with peers going through similar challenges.

What is an Intensive Outpatient Program (IOP)?

Intensive Outpatient (IOPs) are a step-down level of care that provides more flexibility compared to inpatient treatment. IOPs are designed for individuals who do not require 24/7 supervision but still need intensive and structured support.

Outpatient Treatment offers Flexibility

One of the main distinctions between IOPs and inpatient treatment is the level of flexibility offered. IOPs allow individuals to live at home or in a supportive environment while attending therapy sessions during the day or evening. This enables patients to continue with work, school, or family responsibilities while undergoing treatment.

1. What is the Time Commitment for Substance Treatment?

In comparison to the extended stays of inpatient treatment, IOPs typically require patients to attend therapy sessions three to five times a week, for three to four hours per session. This level of commitment ensures individuals receive the necessary support and therapy while maintaining some level of independence.

Focus on Relapse Prevention

IOPs place significant emphasis on relapse prevention strategies. Patients learn essential coping skills, stress management techniques, and how to identify triggers that may lead to a potential relapse. This focus on prevention equips individuals with the tools they need to sustain their progress beyond the program's duration.


In summary, both inpatient treatment and intensive outpatient serve essential roles in and treatment. Inpatient treatment offers a highly immersive and structured environment with 24/7 support, making it suitable for individuals requiring intensive care and a safe space to focus solely on their recovery. On the other hand, intensive outpatient provide flexibility for those with stable support systems and the ability to manage their daily responsibilities while receiving intensive therapeutic assistance.

Ultimately, the choice between inpatient treatment and an intensive outpatient program should be based on an individual's specific needs, the severity of their condition, and their support network. It is crucial for individuals seeking treatment to consult with healthcare professionals or specialists to determine the most appropriate treatment plan to embark on the path to lasting recovery.#drugaddiction #drugrehab #d rugtreatment #alcoholtreatment #Alcoholism


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How can I substitute the urge?

I've recently started struggling with a disfunctional way of soothing my mind, which is taking whatever at hand, from mainly alcohol to various meds, in a sort of compulsive way.
In the past I struggled a lot with self-harm urges and now it seems to me to be the same pattern here.
When the urge arrives, then, sometimes I asked myself what to do instead able to soothe me the same, and I answered self-harming. Which I don't want to do again.
There must be an alternative, but I need hints.
Waiting until the urge goes away doesn't work. Distracting myself neither.
I now decided not to touch alcohol in any case, even in casual social occasions.
I have my opinions and am aware it's not healthy for neither my mind nor my body, but the urge is there and knows nothing apart from the fact that the feeling I get from the misuse attracts me so much I can't say no to it.

#Alcoholism #SubstanceAbuse #SubstanceMisuse #Alcohol #AlcoholAbuse #Anxiety #SocialAnxiety

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