Blurb: What if you start thinking of pain as a tool to heal? See it. Feel it. What does it have to teach you?
Ideally, you feel your feelings. From anger to disgust. Joy to jealousy.
But what happens when you’ve been told you shouldn’t feel the way you feel?
What happens when you’ve been taught not to trust your emotions?
You stop listening to how you feel.
All that energy you should be letting go of gets stuck in your body as held pain—pain that ends up running the show. For example,
That time in middle school when your mom read your diary aloud to your friends?
If you haven’t processed those emotions, you’re still carrying that trauma. That’s why you get triggered all over the place. You don’t realize your current trust issues have everything to do with the pain you experienced back then.
But, you can use your pain to heal.
That’s a thing?
The truth is, feeling your feelings is how you heal.
Why the heck would you ever want to lean into your pain?
Because pain doesn’t go away if you ignore it.
Pain compounds in on itself throwing lessons back on you over and over again until you decide you’re ready to let go and heal. (Or until the fear of change doesn’t seem so scary by comparison.)
“But I don’t want to feel my feelings. Can’t I just bypass them and pretend everything’s great?”
You could try.
And you might even have some success pretending you “don’t get angry” or that “you are happy” (even though you can’t stop obsessing about the undone tasks on your to-do list, the number in your bank account, and how you’re going to plan the family reunion you won’t admit you don’t even want to go to).
But the thing about emotions and pain is that they show up in surprising ways when you least expect them to.
The lingering back pain that won’t go away – no matter how many chiropractic adjustments and massages you pay for?
Often, my clients wonder why their chiropractic adjustments won’t hold.
Because they often carry psychic wounds or pain from the past that they’ve never dealt with. Those need to be brought into present time and shifted before the adjustment will hold. Same goes with past lives. They can hold things in muscle memory that keep your body from connecting with its optimal health and vibrancy.
The addiction you have to true-crime podcasts?
Maybe you didn’t feel safe growing up and you’re desperately trying to feel what you were raised to believe was reality.
The loneliness and pang in your heart that comes up every time you read a romance novel?
Likely, it’s telling you you’re hungry to love yourself even more fully. Or maybe you’re co-dependently leaning on others, creating some fantasy that doesn’t exist, hoping they can give you something only you can give yourself. ????
If you haven’t faced your past, you can’t release the physical, mental, and emotional pain you’re dealing with today.
Trying to get yourself to change can feel impossible. No wonder. You’ve spent your whole life avoiding, pretending, and denying you have these emotions.
How the heck are you supposed to see that you’re walking on eggshells around others when you don’t know you’re doing it? You don’t realize you were taught that a woman isn’t supposed to be happy unless her spouse, children, boss, neighbors, and OBGYN are happy first.
By using your pain!
Any time pain comes up, it’s showing you what’s up for you to heal.
Next time pain comes up for you, don’t run away. Lean in.
Follow these 6 steps and see if it doesn’t make a real difference in your life.
Send your judgments packing.
Read the full story here: www.ritahenry.com/got-pain-use-these-6-steps-to-heal