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When your nightmares are no longer dreams

#SeparationAnxiety #attachmentanxiety

My school counsellor has been my biggest supporter for the past few years, and she is also my FP. She is my role model and I have a really intense attachment to her, so it’s hard to wait more than even a week to see her for just an hour... she has been away for the past two weeks, and, and I also know that in the next half a year I will be finishing up all together with her... and it is a super scary thought for me. I have always had dreams at night that I have gotten pulled away from her, where either she abandoned me by choice or (most of the time) it is another force that pulls both of us apart - trusting now that she wouldn’t leave me sooner than she needs to no matter what happens... and when I had those dreams that I lost her, or that I got the news that I had would loose her, I’d wake up “It’s only a dream... fewf...” now that I and the rest of the city, and mind you, world, has been bombarded with emails from ( my) work and school that everything is basically closing down “Unil further notice” which could be weeks to months, I had one of those dreams again where I lost her... I could t see her anymore... only when I woke up this time, it was not only a dream...
I have been having a panic attack and meltdowns or 5 each day... unable to tame that child in me, after all the skills I’ve learned, despite all that I am doing (getting out to bike, creative stuff, to-dos to keep me busy, etc) and the separation anxiety due to not being able to see my therapist because of this COVID-19.... it’s super eating me up really badly and I am just wanting to “die” sometimes which is the start of unsafe thoughts or self harmful thoughts!!! ahhh I am trying my best!!! I just can’t do it without her yet! I miss my therapist I need her back!

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I am having issues with my anxiety and it is affecting my relationship. I am a recovering alcoholic and have almost a year sober. However, I have caused some damage and am trying to learn how to relate with other people.
I seem to have attachment issues and I want to find better ways to cope because I love my bf and I want to do right by him.
I get anxiety about when he goes to hang with others so he hasn't been doing that and it has been getting in the way of our time together, because he resents me for it. It isn't that I think something bad will happen, but sometimes I feel like he is leaving and not coming back. I have had people in my life (family, friends, boyfriends) leave and drop me like I was worthless. And I was lucky to find a guy that respects me and thinks I am worth something. I know I am not being fair by getting so attached when I get scared. Please help! :( I really want to learn to cope aand maintain a healthy relationship. I really want to learn to respect his boundaries without my fear getting in the way. What helps you with anxiety of abandonment or catastropizing normal social situations? How do you deal with boundaries in a healthy way? #Anxiety #attachmentanxiety #boundaries #Addiction #Alcoholism #relationship

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Sunday poem #poemoftheday #attachmentanxiety

i am trying to be better but sometimes i admit that i am still scared of everything. some days i wish i could just let my guard down to someone i could trust myself with, but often i feel so hard to be closed to someone due to my attachment anxiety. i feel so hard to connect with someone, and i never have relationship for more than 3 months. i ruined my relationship cus i have hard time to believe that i was loved so i hurt my partner

if anyone could tell me how they cope with attachment anxiety pls tell me. thnx alot xoxo

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Sunday poem #poemoftheday #attachmentanxiety

i am trying to be better but sometimes i admit that i am still scared of everything. some days i wish i could just let my guard down to someone i could trust myself with, but often i feel so hard to be closed to someone due to my attachment anxiety. i feel so hard to connect with someone, and i never have relationship for more than 3 months. i ruined my relationship cus i have hard time to believe that i was loved so i hurt my partner

if anyone could tell me how they cope with attachment anxiety pls tell me. thnx alot xoxo

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Attachment Anxiety

If anyone I date shows too much interest in me I get terrified. It's like I have a massive magnetic pull where I have every impulse to run away - I don't even know where it comes from especially since I will like the person and I always crave intimacy. My BPD treatment has been very successful so far but this issue still remains. #Anxiousattachment #BPD #attachmentanxiety

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