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    Anxious Attachments, FPs, & Being Too Reactive

    I'm having issues with getting too attached to people, even when I think I'm not.

    I suppose I do tend to "favourite" certain people. It's not fun.

    They usually tend to be very emotionally unavailable.

    If someone tells me that they're busy all the time, it makes me think I'm a nuisance and should just leave them alone.

    I have minor examples of "splitting" them as well.

    I don't usually lash out, but I say very passive-aggressive things that I later regret. It's always rooted in me feeling like I'm an annoyance.

    I just came out of a very strong anxious attachment to someone earlier in the year.

    I wouldn't wish it on anyone. The lows are so agonizing that the highs aren't worth the pain.

    #DependentPersonalityDisorder #Anxiety #AnxietyAttack #Anxiousattachment #FearOfAbandonment #personalitydisorder #Favouriteperson

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    Anxious/avoidant mess

    I need some support. Can anyone with avoidant attachment type clue me in a bit? My husband is that way (and also an alcoholic...) and I’m anxious attachment which is just a recipe for hurt feelings. We had an argument last night—I need more attention, he needs more space. But somehow he’s always the one that gets what he wants and I’m left in emotional pain so intense I feel it physically in my stomach. I sat in the shower having dark thoughts about how this reinforces my complex that I’m not worth loving or caring about, that I’m stupid for having feelings, and then my brain spirals and starts saying that I’m fat and ugly and hysterical so no wonder he doesn’t ever want to spend time with me....last night was the second time I ever considered harming myself but I’m too chicken to do that either.
    #Anxiousattachment #avoidantattachment #alcoholic #codependant #narcissisticfather #imsuchatrainwrecklol

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    Anxious attachment abandonment question

    How do you guys deal with anxious attachment abandonment? I get such bad anxiety about every guy I date that they’ll leave me and cheat because I was abandoned by my father and cheated on by my ex husband. I get super triggered when I don’t get text back. What do I do? :( #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Anxiousattachment #Bipolar

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    Archive of My Mother

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    Attachment Anxiety

    If anyone I date shows too much interest in me I get terrified. It's like I have a massive magnetic pull where I have every impulse to run away - I don't even know where it comes from especially since I will like the person and I always crave intimacy. My BPD treatment has been very successful so far but this issue still remains. #Anxiousattachment #BPD #attachmentanxiety

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    I barely know him but things were great, electric even. I treaded carefully with my boundaries after years of being single and "working on myself". I have a big heart and trust until you give me a reason not to. I know this and walked this line carefully until I felt okay letting him in a little. And know I haven't heard from him in a few days. radio silence. My attachment style has now thrown me into an anxiety and obsessive thought cycle on what the story is as to why I haven't heard from him, why he's ignoring me, why he said the things he said which were I believe genuine, what can I say to make him respond, why am I feeling this way when it's not like we were together for a long time, why can't I shake this, why why why? and why did I text him 6+ more times with no response. I know I deserve better and deserve respect in the form of at least a "I'm not interested", but I can't shake the anxiety and calm my nerves.

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    I’m being readmitted to hospital after a few weeks at home. They’re talking about trying TMS, but I’ve heard mixed things about it. What’s your experience been?

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