Relationshipstruggles

I’ve been thinking a lot about what people have said to me recently. I’ve really been taking the words into consideration. I need an outside perspective than just my own thoughts. So I’ve been told quite a lot that I am too quiet. I will talk to you if you bring up a subject, I will listen and try to help you if you feel troubled. But most of the time I am usually quiet. I don’t really bring up a conversation unless I have something I find something interesting to talk about or important. I wouldn’t say I have trouble with conversations but I guess I do if I’m being told I am too quiet? I wouldn’t say I’m overly quiet either but, am I? I normally don’t talk about things that are small talk, gossip, “useless things”. I tend to bond better with others by doing things with them like watching movies, playing board games, going places, just experiencing things with them.
I’m also quiet sometimes in certain situations because I am afraid of saying the wrong thing.

I had an ex boyfriend also tell me that I am too quiet when I seen him at an event with friends. I suspect this is the reason he broke up with me. I’ve also had some friends not want to hang out with me anymore because I am quiet and they said it weirded them out or made them feel uncomfortable. I feel bad because they are telling me this. I don’t ever want to make people feel uncomfortable. People telling me this has made my depression much worse because I don’t want people to think badly of me if I’m quiet. Is being quiet really a bad thing?

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What to do when you meet a great person, but need your "alone" time slot more than you need them.

I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months and he does some things that trigger my anxiety. One big one is he will be active on Facebook but not answer my texts for awhile. Last time this happened a few weeks ago, I couldn't take it and I went off on him and tried explaining to him that it makes my anxiety worse. He didn't argue with me at all, he listened, but he didn't have much to say. He did it again today and I didn't get as upset but I feel foolish for getting mad over something small like this because of anxiety. I don't know how to help him understand how it affects me without sounding crazy and/or push him away. He's a very caring and loving boyfriend but I feel like he kind of just brushes it off and I think it's because he doesn't know how to handle it. Any suggestions? #Anxiety #Relationshipstruggles #Relationships #MentalHealth

She is a bitter sweet happiness. She will make you believe that you are her everything, her life, form an obsession so intense yet pure. She will make you fall in love with her every flaw. She brings nothing but a trail of destruction, destroying everything in her path, but masks it all with her green eyes and her innocent laugh.

Do not get trapped in her web of lies, do not be fooled when she starts to cry, she will rip your heart out and watch you die.
Deep down she has a fire that is still burning, a pain that is still yearning, a wound so deep it is beyond stitching, a sadness inside that is twitching.

She is nothing but a representation of an illness ridden mind. You could look forever but her emotions you will not find, she is so empty. Like a white canvas waiting to be filled.
Maybe she is a canvas waiting to be filled?
She is waiting for an artist to come and give her some colour, some life. Instead of drawing red with her faithful knife.
She is fragile. she holds a weakness that not many can see, she built up a wall so people only see who she pretends to be. So strong and tough her exterior would suggest, don't let it mislead you like the rest. Her mind is a condemned mess.
Don't fall in love with the pretty little girl in the black lace dress.

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I am in #Recovery from severe #BipolarDepression and #PTSD. Throughout my entire struggle, worst and best, I’ve had a wonderful friend by my side as a safe person and support. Over the last year, his reliability has been inconsistent. I respect a person not always being able to play the role of “safe person”, I understand circumstances change and it’s not always sustainable, but I’ve attempted to communicate with him to identify what seems like new boundaries he has, and understand what I can rely on from him moving forward. Conversations like these are important for me because I have a traumatic history of sudden unreliable relationships. For some reason I can’t understand, every time I try to talk to him about this, he ignores it, deflects it, and often accuses me of overthinking things. It’s gotten to the point that I’m now so confused about how to connect with him, I find myself getting irrationally angry and lashing out. I value my relationship with him so much that I can’t allow that to happen anymore, and I basically gave an ultimatum as respectfully as I could that we either try to intentionally talk this out, or I have to say good bye. He’s been like a father to me, and I don’t want to lose him as a friend, but I love him enough to be willing to end the relationship for the sake of the relationship. Yet, as much as I trust my instincts, I also doubt if I am doing the right thing. It’s so hard when the other person gives you so little to work with. And right now, as I wait to see how (if) he responds, I’m praying that we’ll be able to talk so that I don’t lose my friend. I don’t want to lose my friend. #Relationshipstruggles

Hi fellow mightiest. I am in a relationship and am wondering if I am being too sensitive to what I feel are criticisms. My fiance often says things that really bother me. For example, these are the things he said to me today. This morning, I gave him a handmade gift that was sentimental that he said he liked, and I was pleased until he said that he needed to teach me to use a glue gun properly because there were little stringy pieces of glue on it. Then, after making us breakfast and doing the dishes, he said I was stacking the dishes wrong in the dish drain, and they will grow mold because they won 't dry all the way like that, but that is what he is here for... to go behind me and fix it. Just a bit ago, he made a comment about not wanting me to go to the laundromat by myself because I am pretty, and it bothers him that someone might hit on me. When I got defensive , he got angry and started pouting because he said I don't understand that he is just looking out for me. Am I being too sensitive by getting upset about these types of comments? He makes them quite often, and I constantly feel criticized. I am beginning to wonder if I am crazy.
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