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How to cope with relationship anxiety as someone with quite bpd?

I'm currently destroying my relationship. My anxiety has completely taken over and is effecting everyone. I can't open up to my partner with months in fear she will abandon me. I want to talk to her but I go blank and get anxious ill say something wrong. I love her so so much and how I am is affecting her own mental health and I'm disgusted. I don't know what to do...
#Relationshipsborderline #relationship #anxiety #quiteBPD


Relationship advice??

I'm a person with Borderline personality disorder who is in a relationship with someone with #Schizophrenia ....both of us are unmedicated. He seems to be holding it all together for the most part. He has anger issues but never really speaks on his hallucinations. He had no problem showing affection for the first year n a half we have been together....but now, he's cold and distant. He's not the same person. I feel like I'm losing him and there's nothing I can do to stop it. He doesn't speak to me about anything really but has no issue talking to other people. Especially if it's meaningless conversation. I'm lost and I don't know what to do. I'm taking this rejection really hard and have turning to my horrible coping mechanisms. Can we survive this??? Or is it inevitable that we will not last? We used to talk do I reach him?? How can I get him to open up to me?? #Relationshipsborderline #mentalhealthrelationship #lovesucks #canwebesaved


my BPD is going to ruin my relationship

my bpd has started causing so many arguments and fights. because of how it makes me. I just wish I could stop it. I don’t want to be like this.

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Misconception of relationships #relationship

I’ve been thinking lately about my relationships. I realized that I have some kind of a misconception about getting into relationships. Whenever I’ve fallen in love with someone, I got obsessed with that person and wanted to get in a relationship with him no matter what! Once I was out of a relationship, I got into a new one. This made me to make poor decisions and getting together with men who were not right for me, who were abusive and controlling. I’m not good with making decisions and I stayed in these relationships way too much time, and it was hard to get out of them.
Now I’m in a long distance relationship and my partner triggers my anxiety whenever we talk. Lately I’ve distanced myself from him though I know I cannot avoid the relationship talk which puts my anxiety to the roof!
I think I need to learn that I can love someone without getting into a relationship with that person, and that I can love that person from the distance.

#Relationships #Relationshipstruggles #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Relationshipsborderline

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don’t know who to turn to #boardlinepersonalitydisorder #Relationshipsborderline

tried to talk to my boyfriend about my feelings, (we’ve been going through a really rough patch) and after i was finished talking i asked what he thought.
he proceeds to tell me he wasn’t even listening to anything i said because to him it was nonsense.. i’m not sure what to feel or say
i’m always the one that needs to talk about things to feel better and maybe i’m just getting to be an annoyance to me but .. is my BDP the problem or is he?


What’s your best way to manage your idealization in relationships? #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Dating #Relationshipsborderline

I currently realized I’m BPD. I have done intense idealization against whom I love and don’t know how to manage it.
Maybe, I should learn to recognize my too-far idealizations. Does anyone have nice ideas to do that?


How do you cope on holiday? #Anxiety #Depression #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #OCPD

I’m on an amazing once in a life time holiday and had an amazing couple of days. Now my brain is being horrible and I don’t know how to cope when I’m so far away from all my coping methods and information. I don’t want to ruin the holiday but it feels like my brain will #struggling #NotOK #MentalHealth #Relationshipsborderline


How do you cope with the *Abandonment Issue* in your relationships? #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #abandonmentissues   #Relationshipsborderline

I am currently in a relationship with somebody that gives me a lot of space mostly because he is very independent and self sufficient and, in a way, I feel like this makes me stronger when facing this abandonment issue but somehow my brain has hacked itself to believe that actually he does not really care about me at all and does not know how to even take care of me.

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Just a reminder during the “Dark Days” ❤️

A lot of times, a BPD episode can make me forgetful and trick me into thinking that nothing is going right in my life and that I’m a failure or that I’m worthless. So I just want to remind myself that TODAY was a very great day. Here are some positive things that happened today:

-Dakota and I had a really good discussion about our views on big topics and
- We talked about our incredible plans for our future together.
- We talked about one day going to Jamaica for our honeymoon and maybe moving to another state.
- Dakota now has a beautiful new car and a new job that he starts tomorrow so we will be able to afford to travel and finish school.
- Today, I was able to wake up early and clean the entire house BY MYSELF!
- We went out and watered our garden. The sunflower is growing beautiful and I got a little sun 🌻
- We got to eat our favorite Chinese food.
- I was motivated for school today.
- Cody and I laughed and smiled with each other all day. We love each other so much 💕

I want to do this every day so that when i can’t remember the good times, I’ll have it here to remind me. ❤️

#CPTSDinrelationships #CPTSD #ADHD #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Relationships #Relationshipsborderline #CheerMeOn