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Letters of Encouragement

Hi everyone! My name is Lisa! I have #ObsessiveCompulsiveDisorder , #Anxiety , and #Trichotillomania
I have a project called Letters from Lisa where I mail free, handwritten letters of encouragement to people who are struggling with #MentalHealth
To date, I have mailed over 1200 letters in the last 4 years to people all over the world. Each letter is personal to you and 100% free! It is truly my little passion project.
If you would like to request one for yourself, or someone you love, head to I cannot wait to connect with you 💕💕

#Depression #SocialAnxiety #GeneralizedAnxietyDisorder #PanicAttacks


Letters from Lisa

mailing free, handwritten letters of encouragement
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I’m new here!

Hi, my name is darbengin. I'm here because I suffer with depression, anxiety, trichotillomania, PTSD, and although I haven't been diagnosed as autistic, I have a sneaking suspicion I am on the spectrum. I just need to know more so I can hopefully help myself heal.

#MightyTogether #Anxiety #Depression #PTSD

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Dating with bipolar, trichotillomania and c-ptsd

I've been talking to a guy for a while know, and we're meeting up this weekend. He's started asking questions about why I'm on #Disability , what my #Bipolar (the only thing I've been open about yet) affects me and would affect us if we ended up dating. How and when do I open up about all the other stuff? I don't wanna #Trauma dump on him, but some of it really needs to be told so he can understand why I am the way I am. It's not something I'll be able to, or want to, hide. My #Trichotillomania gets bad when I'm #depressed , #anxious or get #triggered . Since I've been in a #depressive episode for a really long time now and struggle a lot with #SuicidalIdeation and thoughts about #Selfharm it's important he knows some stuff. I've been in #SelfharmRecovery for almost a year and a half and my scars are bad and ugly. I know he'll ask questions, and I have no clue how to open up to him as I barely know the guy.. Do you guys have some tips?

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DARVO: The Twisted Defence of Abusers

I’ve long been familiar with being on the receiving end of DARVO, but never had the words to explain it so succinctly. In the realm of psychological manipulation, I think few tactics are as insidious and disorienting as DARVO. It stands for "Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender," a concept first identified by psychologist Jennifer Freyd. It's a defensive strategy used by perpetrators of wrongdoing, particularly those accused of abuse, to deflect blame, invert reality, and maintain power and control.

Denial is the abuser’s first line of defence. When confronted with evidence of their misconduct, abusers outright DENY the behaviour—often delivered with such confidence and composure that it can be incredibly persuasive to others. Following denial, perpetrators ATTACK the credibility of the accuser. This can be direct or subtle, with the abuser often portraying the accuser as mentally unstable, attention seeking, or manipulative. Finally, the most disorienting part of DARVO is the reversal of roles, where the PERPETRATOR claims they are the actual VICTIM. This can involve expressing hurt feelings, seeking sympathy, or claiming they are the ones who have been wronged.

I think that what makes DARVO so effective is that it exploits our inclination to give people the benefit of the doubt, it weaponises the victim's vulnerabilities, and intentionally obscures the truth. The reversal of victim and offender can be so convincing that it not only causes others to question the victim's claim, but can also make victims question their own reality and sanity. I am “fortunate” in that my early childhood experiences taught me to trust in myself, so that I never questioned my own sanity or reality. Yet it was incredibly isolating; knowing some things were not right but not having the words to explain it, so that for some years I self harmed as a coping mechanism.

Years of reflection have helped me understand that the ‘heart’ of abuse is really quite simple: it thrives in the shadows of ignorance. Naturally, this makes illuminating knowledge one of our strongest weapons against it. The second is calling that sh*t out when we see it 🏹

#Abuse #PTSD #PTSDSupportAndRecovery #ComplexPosttraumaticStressDisorder #Anxiety #Trauma #MyalgicEncephalomyelitis #ChronicFatigue #Fibromyalgia #Depression #Selfharm #Dermatillomania #Trichotillomania #Selflove #Selfcare

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#BPD #Trichotillomania #BodyShaming

I feel like to die i hate what i see in mirror and how I’m i gonna survive pulling those hairs and a body that’s made of bones.

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I wish to be someone else every day...

I'm new here... and I'm desperate. I hate being me & feeling this way. I have so many important things that need to be done... EXTREMELY important things & I just CAN'T. I can't bring myself to even open up the forms I need to fill out, I can't begin the process of washing dishes or cleaning the house. I can't even get medical help to help me get better because I "make too much" & the low income places are really rude to people. I don't even have a proper diagnosis, but I know I have ADHD, executive function disorder, & trichotillomania, along with the things that come with that (anxiety, depression, etc). I just want help...I want to be the best mom I can be for my kids and this is making it impossible. I just don't know how much longer I can deal with this/ myself on my own. I just don't even want to be me anymore. #ADHD #Trichotillomania #Anxiety #Depression #ExecutiveFunctionDisorder

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What is Trichotillomania?

Trichotillomania, also known as trich, is when someone cannot resist the urge to pull out their hair. They may pull out the hair on their head or in other places, such as their eyebrows or eyelashes. Trich is more common in teenagers and young adults. Your Thoughts: #ADHD #Autism #Trichotillomania #MentalHealth #IrritableBowelSyndromeIBS #Anxiety #Depression #Cancer #Mania #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder

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What causes rhinotillexomania?

Allergies and sinus infections can increase the amount of mucus in the nose, too. In rare situations, nose picking is a compulsive, repetitive behavior. This condition, called rhinotillexomania, often accompanies stress or anxiety and other habits like nail-biting or scratching. Your thoughts about this: #ADHD #Autism #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #IrritableBowelSyndromeIBS #MentalHealth #Mania #Trichotillomania #Cancer #Depression #BipolarDisorder #Anxiety

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