My partner is working 2 jobs to support us both. I’ve been out of work for two years after getting fired because of my illnesses.
Getting let go from multiple positions in a row really shook my confidence. Today he and I had a big fight because he feels like he’s carrying all the weight and responsibility of the income, and has been very frustrated with me and snapping at lots of little things that turned out to be big resentment about me not working. He feels I’ve been unemployed way too long and need to get it together and be an adult. It’s hard with arthritis, brain fog, pots, celiac and EDS :(
He gets frustrated about things like needing to do the stairs to grab something when I can’t, or getting annoyed from seeing me wincing in pain, or when I get upset at strangers’ invasive questions. He feels like a caretaker not a partner. He just wants me to get a job.
I took a certificate course in medical coding, but have been slow to schedule the state exam because I’m terrified to fail and also don’t really know how to navigate getting hired & retained with visible disability, chronic illness and as a cane user.
Really need a hug and maybe some tips?
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