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❤️‍🩹Grief Can Feel Like a Prison❤️‍🩹

Grief can feel like you’re trapped in a prison while the rest of the world seems to be wizzing passed without you. It’s important to remember to reach out for help because someone may have the key that helps you set yourself free. 💔❤️‍🩹

#Grief #ChildLoss #Miscarriage #Depression #MentalHealth #itsokaynottobeokay

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All Your Scars

All of the pain
You've ever been through
Gives you a thousand
Scars, or two.

Though within you
Scars are plentiful
Others have been through
Things nearly identical.

When you think
You can't stop hurting,
Your wounded heart
Is freshly spurting,

You'll come to know that,
Though now there's pain,
The wound that's left
Is not in vain.

The memories
Only hurt if you let them,
And after time
You'll all but forget them.

Yes there will be scars
With pain that's suitable,
And that makes each scar
All the more beautiful.

#ChronicPain #ChronicIllness #Cancer #BackPain
#ChildLoss #ObsessiveCompulsiveDisorder #SkinCancer #RheumatoidArthritis

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🕯️Wave of Light 2023🕯️

Nothing can ease the pain & devastation that comes with pregnancy & infant loss. Today we remember all the precious souls too wonderful for earth & the loved ones they have left behind.

#waveoflight2023 #Miscarriage #Infertility #Prematurity #ChildLoss #Grief

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Toxic Positivity Gaslighting Got Us Like 🙄

I made this meme deliberately non condition specific, because I know too well how often people are quick to wheel out this trope for every conceivable condition—when understanding and support are often the thing we need most from those around us.

Grieving a loved one? ….Time to get over it and focus on the good things in your life.
Mental health issues? …. You need to stop focusing on the negative, and think more positively.
Suffer from insomnia? … Try meditation, and think more positive thoughts before going to bed.
Isolated by your health condition? … At least it’s not x, y, or z (silver lining throw away quip).
Chronic Pain? … You’d feel better if you concentrated less on the pain and more on the positives.
PTSD or Trauma? … You’re too sensitive. You can’t change the past, so why don’t you focus on the good things in your life now? (Trivialisation).

I’m sure there are many more I haven’t thought of—so if you feel comfortable, please share the ways in which you’ve been gaslit by others in the comments 🫶

#MyCondition #ChronicIllness #Grief #MentalHealth #Insomnia #ChronicPain #Migraine #Anxiety #GeneralizedAnxietyDisorder #PTSD #MyalgicEncephalomyelitis #Fibromyalgia #ChronicFatigue #DistractMe #Addiction #Selfharm #Trauma #ComplexRegionalPainSyndrome #ChildLoss #ComplexPosttraumaticStressDisorder #MightyTogether

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I know this is going to hurt you for what I’m about to say…

Dear mom,

You asked me today to spend time with just my children…. This is how I feel and how I wish I could respond…

I know this is going to hurt you for what I’m about to say, but the truth is we both continue to hurt from this relationship. You never ask to spend time with us as a family. When you do ask, you only ask to see my children. I think you want them to know this version of you, the sober one, the one who found Jesus. I’m so proud of you for how far you’ve come. I know you want to love on them. But we have so so far to go and I know you’ve given up on us. But understand, I have to protect them like I wasn’t protected. The truth is, you cannot have a relationship with my children without having one with me. I’m not my sister, I didn’t abandon my children so you can see them without their mother whenever you want. We are a family, we’re a package deal. I feel like you do not try to make an effort with spending time with me with the exception of you wanting to see me on my birthday. You don’t even know who I am at all. You don’t even know what foods I like and don’t like because you’ve never been there to know. If you knew me, you’d know I don’t want gifts, you spend money to show your love, I don’t want that kind of love. I want a relationship with a parent that acts like I am still their daughter. A parent that doesn’t give up on their child, a parent that doesn’t stop trying to make amends and give any opportunity to show they love them. Not a parent that talks about me behind my back only for me to find out later. Or A parent that makes passive aggressive comments in front of my children, like I’m no fun, that i don’t ask you for help, the list is plenty long and I’m not the only one who has noticed… It doesn’t matter who or when I was told about the things you’ve said about me. But you telling others that you have to walk on eggshells around me only puts blame on me. Only hurts me. You are not taking responsibility for the reasons why I am hard for you to love. The responsibilities you must take for the things you have done.

The point is, our relationship is hard so you don’t really try or you just leave me alone, likely because you think that’s what I want. I’ve always grieved for the relationship we have never really had. I’ve held onto these words for years because believe it or not I love you and I know it would only hurt you and I’m not so consumed in my own selfishness that I seek to hurt you or want revenge. I am not hard or distant from you because I don’t love you, I’m hard and distant from you because I love you and you broke me, over and over and over again. I am only this hard version of myself when I’m around you, it’s like instinct, it’s automatic, it has been survival. I don’t like who I am around you. Trust me, the guilt is there for me too. I’m sorry for my inability to cope with the pain that has consumed me my entire life. I don’t like the broken jaded version of me my children see when I’m around you. I don’t want them to be broken from you because of the comments you say, or the lack of you being around. I want better for them. I want to be everything for them that you couldn’t be. But I don’t want your complete silence either. I know you tried your best then, but your best isn’t good enough for them. It’s not good enough to stop the generational trauma curse.

You could say I don’t try, and you’re right I don’t. I have boundaries with you because I have to protect them. I have to protect me. I have to protect them for who I am around you. So yes, I stopped trying a long time ago, when I did try with you over and over again, your words cut so deep. So it’s not like I didn’t try. You said things to me that I can’t and would not ever ever say to my daughter no matter what they put me through. Your words just added to the layers of trauma I already have. When I wanted to kill myself as a teenager and again after I lost the baby, I thought of what you said about how you wish you never would’ve had me or that I was just a dumb bitch who only decided to become a good person when I met my partner. Those and so many more words you said are like PTSD reoccurring over and over again. I will forever have holes in my heart from you that will forever remain as scars that serve as a reminder to keep my guard up, to protect. How do you fix it? You’ve asked before. You’ve said I continue to punish you. No, mom you are punishing yourself. I cannot change how you feel, just like you cannot change the things you’ve done or how I feel. Therefore, you don’t. You can’t. Believe me if I could change the past I would fix it too. The only thing we can do is move forward, try to be better than before and that means me always, putting them first. Putting this family I have created first. Always and every single time. #Anxiety #Parentifiedchild #MentalHealth #Depression #ChildLoss #Trauma #Suicide #forward

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How? #ability #DisabilityAdvocacy #Disability #Homeless #Cancer #ChildLoss

Early in my injury journey, while on a walk in the woods I met someone that inspired this. Meeting him helped me understand, that as bad as my situation was, things can be more difficult. I also realized that knowing this didn’t lessen what I was experiencing. Click the link the read the full story that led up to How. How?


Yesterday we had our first experience walking through the Assiniboine Forest.   For my wife and I it was an opportunity to walk our senior black lab some place she hadn’t explored be…
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Hello my name is Glowfliez I'm a mother with an angel baby hoping to learn others stories on how to deal with this it's been the hardest time of my life #Depression #Anxiety #ChildLoss #Selfcare

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