*I am the authority on what's best for me; they are NOT
*I do not have to purchase anything if I don't want to or am pressured into or feel uncomfortable with
* I am allowed to take my time to make an informed decision; I do not have to rush/be rushed into an impulsive decision
* NO MEANS NO, not yes!
*Awareness of manipulation tactics: $$Upselling$$, telling me what I "need" /"you don't want that" (refer back to #1 : they don't know me & therefore don't know what's best for my needs!), dismissive/minimizing behavior, dominating/controlling behavior, putting me down in some way to make me feel like I NEED the product, (ex: "you have really damaged hair & need this product"), etc
*Being aware of their behavior & how they make me feel: Are they being pushy, passive-aggressive, demanding, belittling me, devaluing me, trying to control my decisions, ignoring things I say/talking over me, gaslighting me, invalidating me?, DO I FEEL LIKE I'M WALKING ON EGGSHELLS????, etc
*How am I behaving around them?: AM I FAWNING????? Am I trying to appease them in some way? Do I not want to "let them down?" Am I people-pleasing?
*Remembering that I AM THE CUSTOMER, not the other way around: they are there to help me, not dictate my decisions
*Just because they do a sales pitch on a product, does not mean I have to purchase it
* I am in control of my decisions & I decide what's best for me. I am in charge of my $ and the limits I set for myself
*Have a plan/research beforehand
*Awareness of my triggers related to salesmen & the environment I'm going into (social anxiety, agoraphobia, sense of urgency, $ spending, etc)
*Not being easily swayed by what they say/Holding onto myself & my reality
*Remembering that I am the one who has to live with my purchase/decision.....if not, I might have delayed anger/frustration about being manipulated/swayed into a purchase I didn't really want or felt pressured into
*Remembering that dealing with salesmen is sometimes like/can be similar to dealing with abusive, manipulative others & preparing for that......salesmen can be triggering for us
*Don't be too harsh on yourself if you do make a purchase you didn't want....because the first step to change is awareness of your deep, subconscious patterns & energy-dynamics with people
*Journal about your interactions with salesmen to learn about your subconscious patterns with them
*Learn about manipulative sales tactics so you can be prepared for battle lol
*Be gentle & compassionate with yourself & understand that pattern-breaking takes time.
*Do something calming beforehand. For me: I pray beforehand about decisions & dealing with salesmen, but I know not everyone does this.....maybe you could do some yoga, meditation, take a walk, etc beforehand to calm your mind & your anxieties
* Knowing you don't have to the apologize, justify, or overexplain your decisions to salesmen; You don't owe them anything
*Bring a pen and paper (or notes) to weigh your decisions if it helps! I am learning that I have to do this to best help myself
* Ask yourself: How can I make this process easier/less stressful for myself?
*Maybe plan a treat/something fun or indulgent for yourself afterwards?
* Know that it takes courage to deal with salesmen....you are strong & courageous!
*Knowing not all salemen are manipulative, but many are......and that it is inherently part of their job to be manipulative....to sell you things, to gain commission, to get you to spend a lot of $, etc.....they have/their employer has their own motives and their behavior is not really personal....they have a goal to attain.....but be aware of predatory behavior!
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