Each of our depression journeys is different, but there’s still a lot we can learn from others who have walked the path before us.
So we’re curious: What’s the best advice you’ve ever received about managing your mental health struggles? It could be a tip from a family member, a friend, a book, or a therapist.
Did the advice help you cope? Accept your diagnosis? Share it with us below (who knows, it might just be the advice that someone else needs to hear!). ⬇️
TW: mentions of assault and transphobia
So I’ve never posted on The Mighty before, but I struggle with Agoraphobia, among other things like SchizoAffective Disorder, ADHD, PTSD, Avoidant Personality Disorder, and a traumatic brain injury from a transphobia-fueled assault a few years ago. In July 2020, I lost my job of three years, as a direct result from my plethora of mental illnesses and side effects from the brain injury. Then, this time last year, I had a full-on nervous breakdown & started having all kinds of hallucinations and delusions that my roommates at the time were trying to kill me. As a result, I was determined by the state of Arizona as having serious mental illness, and qualifying for special services through my state and county.
That being said, I had a full psych evaluation with interview, IQ test, and memory scale for disability determination this morning. That shit was super stressful and longgg. I hope my score was enough to qualify me for SSDI, but at the same time I hope I don’t need it and can join the workforce again. Idk, it’s weird. Like, I miss working so much. Being at home all the time is super boring. But financial security would also be nice, because most days I’m so depressed I can’t even get out of bed...much less leave my apartment to even GO to a job. A lot of the puzzles I had to do for the memory scale and IQ test were really hard, but they were stuff I never would’ve struggled with before the brain injury (except for the math crap...I’ve always struggled with that). Makes me feel really stupid now. Idk. I hope that with my initial application, all the subsequent paperwork I’ve had to fill out for them since, my 20 bajillion evaluations they’ve had me do, and my letter from the state of Arizona declaring me SMI, I hope the Disability office sees that I really need the help. But I also know that it is wayyyy harder to get approved for disability for mental illness than it is for a physical disability. So I’m trying my hardest to remain hopeful, while also trying not to put all my eggs in one basket in case it gets denied. The whole thing today has put me in a weird mood. I know I’m not perfect. I make plenty of mistakes, and have definitely hurt my share of people in the past. So maybe I don’t deserve to catch a break, idk. But the mistakes of my past have never been intentional, and I really do try my absolute best to be the kind of man my Mama would be proud of. But it’s so hard to stay positive when I try so hard to do everything right in life, and yet still have everything I touch turn to shit. Regardless, please keep your fingers crossed for me that everything works out in my best interest, no matter which way this disability determination goes. Thank you in advance.
I recently just left a field where I worked closely and directly with those diagnosed with severe and debilitating schizophrenia/psychotic disorders. It is easy to become apathetic because it is hard to watch others struggle and suffer like one does with a SMI (severe mental illness). I have seen the way healthcare workers can to a certain degree dehumanize those with SMI. It is why I left the field. I hated the way my coworkers treated our clients, and I hated the disservice I was doing to our clients with my growing apathy.
I am very knowledgeable about psychotic disorders and I learned about avolition (extreme lack of motivation) when working there. I think learning about this trait of schizophrenia/schizoaffective disorder is what really fucked me up in the head. Like it’s devastating enough that someone has to live with such a disorder, but on top of it they sometimes lack the fucking ability to even help themselves? Like could it be more tragic?
As I learn more about this, I see more ways I could have helped my clients. I am reminded of how my clients will not be served the level of care they deserve because I am not there. What have I done. I will never forget them. I can never forget. It won’t ever stop hurting will it? How can I ever resolve this level of guilt? I wonder if I did the right thing by leaving. I was so talented at helping and working with those with a SMI. I have a unique perspective that others don’t have. It’s a crime not to use it.
I still see their faces. I can still see the look on their faces when I told them I was leaving. The sadness, the disappointment, the panic. I wish I could see them still, I wish I knew how they were doing. I wish I could tell them how much I care, and how much I miss them, and remind them that there is nothing wrong with them, their reality is just a little different sometimes.
I am so sorry.
If anyone else was/is in the mental health field and feels comfortable please reach out. I’d appreciate hearing if you feel similarly.
There are two things I know for sure:
✨ Journaling has serious health benefits.
✨ Mighties love to journal!
So with this in mind, let’s try something new. Each week I’ll post a different journaling prompt for the group. They are meant to challenge us and help us express our feelings in words (or images!). Self-reflection and identifying our emotions, especially through writing, is a skill that’s great to make a habit out of.
How can you journal? By writing a post of your own in this group, Let’s Talk Depression. This will be the best way for others to read your entries and send you support. (But don’t worry, if you don’t feel up to writing a whole post, commenting on this one is also wonderful!)
Don’t like the prompt? Skip it! I’ll deliver a fresh one next week.
Write on, Mighties. ✏️
When we think about what it's like to seek mental health treatment, we may gravitate toward ideas about therapy and medication or a combination of both. Some may find therapy alone to be helpful while others may take a different approach.
Has therapy been a helpful tool for you and your mental health?
Friendly Reminder: Therapy may not be the best tool for everyone, and if it hasn’t work for you… that doesn’t mean you’re broken. All of our journeys are different 💌.
P.S. If you’re new to therapy and don’t know where to begin, this article is a good starting point!
The Difference Between Behavioral Therapy and Psychoanalysis
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