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    Is it the same for you?

    Its like i am a ball of all these complex emotions and traits. I think one thing and too many of my traits fire up. Is this how it ends or how it could have begun differently or how the beginning to end scenarios can be different.
    Its too complex. Is it the same for all INFJ types. Its like i am in a office and when i open a file, all this work load comes up and to complete the file i have to complete all the work load and work load also has its own set of files and so on and i feel like all the energy was used up from my body(mentally)
    Its too conplex how can i shut down my brain without using phone all day.
    If anyone has experienced this please i would like to know your thoughts on this whatever i am facing.
    It just leaves me exhausted mentally. #MentalHealthAwareness #ComplexEmotions

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    I think my dad has a mental health disorder. He has really high and lows.
    He has a very unpredictable mood.
    When I have a school project or an activity he is always a perfectionist and goes out of his way to do the thing. Like tunnel vision for days until he moves on to the next thing.
    Now don’t get me wrong, he does not abuse me or my family in any way. He is caring and goofy but when he gets mad he hides in his room and sleeps all day.

    He is not really the type to believe in “mental health” and just says its how he was born and raised and he can’t change it.
    My sister and I both have Diagnosed Anxiety disorders and he doesn’t really “believe” in it and that we are just overreacting. I just really wish he would get help for him or start reading up on it.

    Any ideas? 💜 #Highly Sensitive Person or HSP #ComplexEmotions

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    Kira McCarthy

    How to Handle Difficult Emotions in Healthy Ways

    Harm reduction is a set of principles used in addiction support. It is strategies for supporting people in whatever stage of their drug use to make their current use safer. Recently, I have been playing with the idea of emotional harm reduction. How can I apply harm reduction to emotions and to our responses to emotions? I decided I would write eight principles of emotional harm reduction, based on the principles of harm reduction as it relat es to substance abuse . 1. Accept that emotions are part of everyone’s daily lives. It is better to minimize the harmful effects of our responses to emotions than to ignore or suppress these emotions. Each day, we have various emotions flow through us. The emotions themselves are harmless, but can cause distress. We need to minimize our harmful reactions to the emotions that we feel. For example, when feeling overwhelmed, your response to that feeling can often be to do something harmful to yourself instead of self-care; i.e., choosing to do something soothing and calming like taking a bath or shower, making some tea, taking some deep breaths, playing an instrument or going for a walk. 2. Acknowledge healthy and unhealthy responses to emotions. Emotions can elicit all sorts of responses in individuals. Some responses are more appropriate than others. It is important to acknowledge that there are healthy and unhealthy ways to deal with our emotions. Unhealthy ways to deal with emotions include self-harm or harming someone else, acting on disordered eating behaviors, suppressing or taking it out on someone else. Healthy ways include practicing self-care, talking to a safe person or even meditating. It’s OK to stop and take care of yourself when you are experiencing an emotion that feels “too much.” 3. Create safe ways to express emotions. The successful intervention of responses to emotions involves creating safe ways to express emotions, not ceasing to have emotions altogether. Learning to allow oneself to have emotions and to find ways to say to someone “I feel …” can be the most challenging and also most rewarding and liberating experience. A safe way to express emotions is sometimes easier in writing (emails, texts, letters, blog posts or journaling) or in therapy. Being able to express emotions safely makes experiencing emotions more comfortable (or bearable). 4. Work with supportive people to explore emotions. It is important to find ways to work with supportive people to explore emotions in a way that reduces negative reactions to these emotions: a therapist, good friends, compassionate and loving people and your support system. 5. Empower yourself to be the one who understands your emotions and to know what you need. Only you can know what you are feeling and what you need. Only you can know whether or not meditation is right for you. Suggestions from people are great, but only you can know what will work for you. Some people create a “soothing box” or “self-care box” filled items that have comforting scents, sounds, touch and sight. I have seen people with lists of self-care activities, or calming strategies they can turn to. You need to be empowered to be able to stand up for your needs. 6. Recognize the past affects our ability to deal with our emotions. Recognize that social inequities, personal identities, past trauma and our vulnerability affect our capacity to effectively deal with our emotions and how we react to having them. We all have a past. We all have things in our life that have made us who we are. Some of us have not learned how to react to having emotions that throw us into a tailspin. It is OK to admit you don’t know how to react in a safe and supportive way to your own emotions. It is absolutely OK to seek help. 7. Do not minimize or ignore the potential harm that can be caused based on our reactions to our sometimes-difficult emotions. It is important to recognize that this is true, so that we can create ways to safely and healthily deal with emotions. 8. Ensure that your own voice is heard when you seek help to understand your emotions. If you have taken the step to go to therapy, and you don’t feel heard, then find a new therapist. Seriously. I am not making light of a serious situation. You are the only person who knows how you are feeling. Your voice matters in therapeutic settings. So what does this mean when dealing with emotions? At times, fear and anxiety can rule our lives. We are afraid to try things, afraid to put ourselves out there, afraid to be vulnerable. As Brené Brown suggested, sometimes showing up is the most that we can do. A wise friend once said, “… you can do nothing for fear of failure or you can try, and see what happens … time is going to pass anyway …” So many people suppress their emotions, or find ways to numb themselves so that they don’t have to feel anger, hurt, sadness, longing, loneliness , despair, fear, abandonment … They find unhealthy ways to push those emotions aside and to not feel anything. In doing so, it becomes impossible to feel joy, bliss, happiness, excitement, pleasure. As difficult as it can be, feeling challenging emotions is so much better than not feeling anything at all. Be kind to yourself.

    Amber W. B.

    Exercise to Try If You Struggle With Complex Emotions From Dreams

    Last time, I wrote about an exercise I came up with that helps battle procrastination. Today, I want to talk about an exercise I created when I had a dream that brought up difficult and conflicting emotions. Recognizing and dealing with complex emotions is a difficult process for people with schizoaffective disorder . For me, I feel like my disability — schizoaffective disorder — and related complex emotions led to my addictive behavior in adulthood. Now that I am in recovery from addiction , I have to deal with the complex emotions I have on a daily basis in productive ways — ways I never learned when I was younger. Regularly, I go through life pushing my emotions aside so I can tackle the task at hand, whatever that may be. Sometimes, the only way my feelings come to the surface is through emotional and elaborate dreams that leave me feeling upset and confused the next day. On one particular day this happened, I decided to write out a few details of the dream and the emotions it brought up. It turned into an exercise that I want to share with you today, I call it: “The Bad Dream Feeling Analysis.” If you have a dream that leaves you feeling emotional and confused in the morning, one good thing to do is start with a fresh piece of paper and write “Dream Feelings” on the left side, and “Real Life Feelings” on the right side. Try to remember your dream from roughly the beginning to end and how you felt at each stage. Here is an example from a recurring dream I have. I have a dream I am back in high school and I am performing in a school play. The only problem is that it is opening night and I realize I haven’t practiced at all. I don’t know any of the blocking or cues, let alone my lines. How did this make me feel in my dream? Well, I was confused, scared, embarrassed, angry, ashamed, sad and hurt. It took time to recognize and name these feelings but after thinking it through, I was able to label them. There is something about naming and labeling dream emotions that comes much more easily than real life emotions for me. I think it is partly due to the fact these feelings are “not real” to some extent because they are brought up by the far-fetched scenario of the dream world. But the magic of this exercise is the fact that labeling your dream emotions can open the door to labeling your real-life emotions too. After I had worked out how the dream was making me feel, I went back to the day before and thought about the emotions I was feeling during the day. I came up with the four emotions — confused, frustrated, scared and guilty. I found it very interesting that two of the key emotions – one that started the whole scary scenario in my dream and one that followed soon after – were also present in my real life day before I went to sleep. Maybe the feelings I was having during the day, and I didn’t recognize, popped up in my dream, demanding to be dealt with. I don’t know enough about how dreams work to know for sure, but this analysis seemed to make a lot of sense to me. For someone who has schizoaffective disorder and difficulty facing, naming and recognizing emotions, going through this exercise might be rewarding. I know it was for me! Just to reiterate: I entered my dream feelings in a bullet point list down the left side of the paper and the dream scenario that led to those feelings. On the right side with the real-life feelings, I wrote the feeling I had on the left and the reason I felt those feelings arose in the first place. This really helped me get over the feeling; once it had been recognized, it no longer hung around to haunt my day and I could face my work distraction free.