I’m struggling at work bc I can’t complete certain assignments. It’s like I freeze when the time comes. I don’t think management understands.
Today I am new to the group !! Hello I’m a 44 yr old Melissa … adopted / long story !!!
So ready to share my stories definitely have many to share have had many in and out of experiences I’m very lucky!! I think it’s awesome I found this site so I could start telling my stories of my anIcs and my and my ups and downs and my ups and throughout life and then I am this point in life where I’m absolutely bored on this #Medication that has me total #emotionlessness ##stable #nofeelings what do I do???
I’ll go first: I start off a 🧊 and then turn into a 🦌
You can learn more about the four trauma responses in this Mighty story: themighty.com/2020/01/fight-flight-freeze-fawn-trauma-responses
We all respond to trauma in different ways. Most people are familiar with the fight, flight, and freeze responses. But some of us may experience a fourth response called fawn.
Check out Juliette’s story on the four trauma responses here: themighty.com/2020/01/fight-flight-freeze-fawn-trauma-responses
Were you aware of all four trauma responses? Let us know what resonated with you in the comments below.
Update. Since putting my first post out there on my journey with CPTSD, I have continued working on my fawn response, and find my self little by little becoming more assertive with people and it feels really good. I want to state a strong thank you to my therapist for bringing that ah ha moment for me and helping me realize that my people pleasing behavior was not who I was as a person, but a response to the things I have gone through. 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️
I have recently gotten back into therapy and found a phenomenal therapist who helped me to recognize that I have CPTSD from childhood trauma. I exhibit the 'fawn response' in my dealings with people. The 'fawn response' is an instinctual response associated with a need to avoid conflict and trauma via appeasing behaviors, like people pleasing. I have a very difficult time being assertive when it comes to my needs and beliefs. I even do this with my psychiatrist whom I've been with for almost 10 years and absolutely love. But in the past few years he just kept adding more medication to an already large load of pills that I take every day. I've been having a lot of physical issues/side effects from this medication and have gone through soooo many medical tests to rule out everything except my meds as the culprit. I was so anxious and beside myself with the prospect of telling my psychiatrist that I wanted to get rid of some of my meds, because in the past when I've talked about it he has disagreed and I just went along. But this time I was forceful and assertive and all my fears about being that way were unfounded as he was very understanding and agreed to take me off 2 of my medications. It was a huge step for me and it really paid off. I've learned it's never too late to change and you should always advocate for yourself. As my therapist said my doctors are there to help but they do not dictate my life. #fawn #CPTSD
The people I love the most, I do not know how to just be myself around them. I just want them to love me, to think I am smart, talented, fun and pretty. How do I stop sucking up and just be me?
The most intense conflicts, if overcome, leave behind a sense of security and calm that is not easily disturbed. It is just these intense conflicts and their fire which are needed to produce valuable and lasting results- Carl Jung.