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I haven’t met my boyfriend’s parents. We’ve been together for over a year and a half (2 years 3-3-2022).
Just to clarify a few things:

1. I am 1st generation American raised in a Latino culture family; I identify in faith as a modernized nondenominational Christian

2. My boyfriend is a 1st generation American who grew up with Lebanese Muslim parents and practicing the Muslim faith

3. When it comes to our faiths we’re both very open-minded people, which I believe is the reason we work. Neither of us imposes our faith on the other. Actually, we have very open conversations and I enjoy learning about his faith and traditions.

4. We are both heavily family oriented people.

5. HOWEVER, in my family it’s normal to meet the significant other early on in the relationship. We’re a very typical Latino family; loud and there’s a lot of us. My parents met my boyfriend about a month into us dating

6. My boyfriend’s parents however are not as accepting. They always had the idea that their children would marry a Muslim.

7. I have not met his parents yet. They know about me, they have for over a year. His dad has expressed that he wants to meet me. But his mom hasn’t.

8. I should be fair and mention that his parents live out of state which has made meeting face-to-face in the traditional sense less probable (due to COVID).

9. And we’ve talked and talked and talked about it and I just don’t know what to do. Maybe I’m just venting because I’m tired.

10. I know they live out of state but we could zoom? Talk over the phone? They’re not ideal but they’re options right?

11. Look, we don’t fight. Not screaming matches and all that because we’re good at communicating. And he knows how much this all bothers me. But I don’t know what else to do. I’m just tired of being so pushy. I just want to move forward. I feel like not meeting his parents is preventing us moving forward. And I’ve told him that. He wants to move in together but how can we do that if I haven’t met his family?

Am I an asshole for pushing him? What should I do? I’m not one for ultimatums but if this year ends and I haven’t met them that’ll be our first real fight. Like real real.

This is long, so if you read this, wow thank you, honestly
So I’ve been dating someone for about 2 months now and it’s been going extremely well. I think things are heading in a serious direction. He is Muslim, and I am Christian. Now, to be fair, neither of us are super strict in our beliefs. We have a general understanding and belief in God. He does believe in Muhammad, I do believe Jesus is the son of God. But neither of us pray every single day or attend our respective religious establishments as often as doctrine may suggest we should. We definitely both have a more modernized view of our faiths. I’ve really enjoyed spending time with him and learning about his faith and I’m looking forward to learning more about him as we continue to grow. What I’m worried about honestly has to do with our families. My family is the same as me with their view on Christianity but they’re also old-fashioned Latinos. I don’t know how introducing them to my non-Spanish speaking Muslim guy (we’re not technically relationship status yet) is going to go over. To be fair, it’s my 60-something year old Cuban father I’m more nervous about.
And the guy I’m dating straight up told me his family is tough. They don’t go easy on girlfriends he’s brought home before. He’s had two serious relationships (both with American white girls) and both times his family gave the girlfriends a hard time.
This might be irrelevant but one of the things that we bonded over at the beginning is actually how similar our families are in some ways, since we grew up as first generation Americans with immigrant parents.
I guess what I’m asking for is advice. Or if anyone else is going through this to share their story with me. To give me some insight. I want things to work. I guess I’m just nervous at how difficult this might be.
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