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    Moving on from a self sabotaged relationship

    Has anyone ever had a great connection with a genuine person but let their own insecurities and trauma get the best of you, and now they’re gone and you can’t reach out? How can you move on?
    #checkin #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder
    #ComplexPosttraumaticStressDisorder #Depression #SeparationAnxiety #selfsabotage #OnlineDating #Relationships
    #tired #CPTSD #self -sabotage #Dating #Love #stuck

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    Is being a strong-headed person bad? #DatingAdvice

    I was trying online dating, and I met this guy. Seems to be nice, but once we started to talk about deeper topics and preferences, he rejected me. I am ok with that, I am used to it.

    #relationship s #Dating

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    What have been your dating experiences as someone with a rare disease?

    This week’s Rare Weekly newsletter is all about dating while disabled. While I’ve spent the last year primarily dating myself, à la Ann Perkins in season five of “Parks & Recreation,” I’ve also dabbled in dating apps. Just like Grace in the Mighty story linked below, I decided to experiment with different platforms and different levels of disclosure of my disabilities and rare diseases.

    Now I want to hear from you! What experiences have you had dating, either online or IRL, as a person living with rare disease? Do you have a method or strategy for determining the right time to disclose your illness? How do you disclose, if you choose to do so?

    Check out Grace’s story here:

    #RareDisease #CheckInWithMe #Love #Disability #Dating #ChronicIllness #ChronicPain

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    You are my sunshine adaptation

    I love to write and I love to adapt songs and poetry. It's something I do for fun and it helps keep me grounded.

    Written for my partner this morning:

    You are my sunshine,
    my only sunshine
    These days may be harder,
    while skies are grey
    But, don't you fret dear,
    it's warmer when you're near,
    and, together we will always find our way

    #Writing #WritingThroughIt #whilewalking #Dating #Anxiety #Depression #searching #Journaling #Walking

    Photo from one of my walks

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    Hey community! It's been a while. I'm still kickin [and screaming and crying😅]

    I have a new blog! I talked a bit about dating with mental illness and I'd be delighted if you checked it out.

    #PTSD #CPTSD #Dating #MentalHealth

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    What's bothering me today? Being single in 2022.

    I know its better to get it out than to keep it in so here it goes.

    This is a guy who "likes" me and I guess is trying to impress me. I no longer use medical marijuana because although it helps my anxiety it doesn't exactly help my depression so I've taken other routes to supporting my mental health that have been working. I know he's trying to be nice and "joking" but possibly because I know him, this rubbed me the wrong way and I'll tell you why later.

    Conversation on social media:

    Him: Makes post on social media of sweet treats.

    Me: You eat edibles now?

    Him: I'm getting better so I can hang with you.

    Me: I haven't done it in quite a while so you're way ahead of me.

    Him: What! Are you okay? Do I need to make a delivery. Lol

    Me:Wait...not doing eds means I'm not okay?? 🤔 Backwards nation we're living in lol 🥴

    Him: Whats up, why u not doin well? Bc you haven't had any

    Me: What?

    Him: Haven't had any weed? I'm not bein fresh

    Me:Am I suppose to have it? Lol I'm not being fresh either lol

    Him: So what do want? Drink, food or other?

    Me: I'm good. Thank you.

    Him: Np ❤️ smarty 😂😂

    Why did this conversation bother me?

    #1 : When you tell someone you're not drinking or smoking and they ask you are you okay? My question is," Why do YOU feel the need to drink and smoke and are you okay?"

    Nowadays when you choose to be sober in a drug addicted world, others see it as strange or you're the one who's not okay. 🥴 Weird.

    #2 : When you tell someone you're not drinking or smoking and they still offer or ask do you want some?

    This is my life and my journey. Of course I can always kindly and simply say no thank you but nobody should be put in the position to be questioned and to explain themselves as to why they don't want to do something that they don't want to do.

    #3 : I have a medical card and can get marijuana whenever I need it. I told him I haven't done it in quite a while but he still offered me some. I don't need a stanger dropping off weed to me. This bothers me because people who don't have access or money would have fallen into this trap and taken off their journey not to mention the safety and security concerns. I especially want women to be careful in situations like this but everyone should use their best judgment.

    #4 I get that I am who I attract and I attract who I am but come on universe what this be? Lol Right now I'm in my own little world, healing in my own little universe. I see situations like these as tests. I believe when you're moving into a new chapter in your life the universe will see if you're ready to move forward and im ready. Nothing is going to have me go backwards. Upward and onwards is the only direction I'm headed.

    #5 Why did I relate this to being single? Because we would have never met and exchanged numbers if I was in a relationship. We met twice previously and never even indulged in any weed together. He's not a bad guy but trying to impress me this way is a major turn off.

    Okay, rant done! Good night 🌃

    #Depression #MedicalMarijuana #Anxiety #Dating #weed #single #Life

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    Has PTSD made dating a challenge?

    Being a survivor of trauma can influence every aspect of your life. When it come to potential romantic relationships, navigating PTSD triggers can be a challenge, as Lydia writes:

    Whether it's feeling suddenly triggered, not being able to trust someone or fearing intimacy -- dating can be tough with PTSD. Have you experienced this? If so, share your triumphs and tribulations with us below.

    #PTSD #CPTSD #Trauma #Dating #triggers #Relationships