Detaching with Anger- thoughts?
So I am struggling to detach from this friend/romantic partner/relationship gone horribly bad. It was a codependent relationship. When he was down, I was crushed. When he was happy, I was over the moon. When he tore me down, it felt like my life would shatter. When he did something even remotely nice, I would put him up as the WORLDS GREATEST GUY. He was similar with me, though admittedly I gave him more power than I think he did. He was the one who instigated this entire relationship. This was back in 2017-2018. We have not spoken in any way since May 2019. I have rid him in terms of social media, old pictures, his number, and the artifacts of our relationship. However, my thoughts are still there. While it is getting less and less frequent in my daily life to think of him and ruminate on it, I am still dreaming about him. My counselor is having me read about detaching with anger. I understand it conceptually, but I want to be consistent in doing it. I still think of all the good and positive things first when he swims into my head, and I miss him. I have to stop. He was a jerk and hurt me and so many others around us. For anyone else who has practiced detaching with anger, what worked for you/helps? #codependancy #codependent #codependentnomore