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Chosen Not Cheated

I was told my whole life I wouldn’t be able to have a baby due to my Type One #Diabetes . I was told it would be too hard for me to conceive, it would be unlikely I would be able to carry the baby full term, and too dangerous for me.

And so when I got pregnant, I felt like finally……this was going to be my redemption story.

After years of turmoil managing a chronic disease.

After years of hospital stays and doctors appointments.

Millions of shots and blood glucose checks.

Years of being told a baby wasn’t in the cards for me and going full term would be near impossible.

I did it.

And yet, it wasn’t the redemption story I’d imagined in my mind.

All of that struggle I’d endured hadn’t given me the perfect birth story, the healthy baby, the cherry on top of the sundae, or the fairy tale as a reward. That struggle I’d endured didn’t mean a damn thing. There was no pot of gold at the end of the rainbow for me.

I felt cheated. I felt like I’d had my hopes, dreams, and years of silent prayers ripped out from under me. As I sat in the NICU for 10 weeks, watching other families leaving with their now healthy babies, I felt like God was handing out MY dreams to other people. Why did they get to go have the fairy tale life now? Why did they get the healthy baby? Why did our family have to suffer with uncertainty, fear, anger, a disability diagnosis, a chronic heart condition, and grief? How come everyone else’s baby would be able to walk and ours wouldn’t?  Why was our baby born with a lower #LimbDifference ? Why did our child need an amputation?

Why wasn’t this my happily ever after?  Why was I being cheated out of my fairy tale?

The thing that I didn’t know at the time was…..

I hadn’t been cheated.

I’d been chosen.

Chosen to be her mama.

Chosen to be her advocate.

Chosen to be my husband’s soft place to land.

Chosen to navigate this new world.

Chosen to be her champion.

Chosen because I was strong.

Chosen because I knew what it was like to be different.

Chosen because I can do hard things.

Chosen because I’m stubborn as hell.

Chosen because I know grief and loss.

Chosen because I understand how to find joy in the every day.

Chosen because I don’t quit.

Chosen because there was no one else more perfectly suited to be her mother…..

Than me.

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My recent TEDx

Excited to join and learn from this group.

As an introduction, I was born with a limb difference and hid it for 25 years of my life, afraid of how others would judge me. Through my journey toward unhiding, I came to realize that many of us hide parts of ourselves, and we think we are alone. We are not.

Thought I would share out my recent TEDx: When I Stopped Hiding, I Found Freedom.

Would love your thoughts on what resonated with you and what made you think...

#LimbDifference #Disability #expanddiversity #Inclusion #Diversity


Excite to share and to learn from others

Through sharing my personal journey of overcoming the shame of having a limb difference and hiding it for over 25 years, I have found that many people can relate, as they have had to cover and hide their own differences, whether physical, mental and/or personal background-- the visible and invisible. The gifts I have discovered from accepting my difference have been incredible, and include the freedom to be me, the power to be authentic in relationships, and the ability to connect fully with others-- and bringing my full self/human to work.


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#CheckInWithMe #Disability #Amputee #LimbDifference

A Day in the Life of a PWD (Person With a Disability)

Frame 1:
A man with an amputated forearm is chatting with an acquaintance.
ACQUAINTANCE: So, what can you do?
MAN: A better question is: What can't I do?

Frame 2:
MAN (grinning): That's a much shorter list!

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#CheckInWithMe #Disability #Amputee #LimbDifference

A Day in the Life of a PWD (Person With a Disability)

A woman with a prosthetic arm walks by a man with a prosthetic arm.
MAN: I'll show you mine, if you show me yours!
The woman laughs.