Loneliness

Intro:
As I continue my journey of healing and rebuilding my life, I often find myself reflecting on where I’ve been and what I’ve learned along the way. Addiction has shaped me in ways I never imagined — not just through pain and loss, but through the lessons that came after. My story isn’t one of perfection or quick recovery; it’s one of falling, learning, and rising again. I share this because I know there are others still fighting the same battle, searching for hope in the dark. This is what addiction has taught me.

Addiction has been one of my greatest teachers. Not the kind that uses words or gentle guidance — but one that teaches through pain, loss, and hard truths. It stripped away everything I thought I knew about myself. It broke me down until all I could see was the person I had been running from. But it also taught me how to rebuild. It taught me what strength, self-awareness, and forgiveness really mean.

I used to believe addiction was just about substances — about using, quitting, and starting over. But what I’ve learned is that addiction goes much deeper. It’s not just about the drugs or the behavior; it’s about the pain that came before them. It’s about the emptiness, the trauma, the loneliness, and the unspoken wounds that never healed. Addiction doesn’t start with a choice. It starts with a need — to escape, to numb, to quiet the storm inside.

Over time, I’ve learned that recovery isn’t just about putting the bottle down or walking away from the high. Recovery is about understanding yourself — your triggers, your patterns, and the reasons behind your pain. It’s about facing what you’ve been avoiding and finding new ways to cope when the world feels too heavy.

One of the hardest lessons I’ve learned is that shame keeps us sick. Shame tells us we’re not worthy of help, that we’ve messed up too many times to be forgiven. For a long time, I believed those lies. I thought the things I did in addiction defined who I was. But I’ve learned that addiction doesn’t erase your humanity. You can still love your children deeply. You can still have compassion, empathy, and purpose. Addiction doesn’t take those things from you — it just buries them beneath the pain.

I’ve also learned that relapse isn’t failure. It’s part of the process for many of us. Each time I stumbled, I found a piece of truth waiting for me on the other side. I learned what triggered me, what I still needed to heal, and how to rebuild my strength a little differently each time. Every fall became a lesson in resilience.

Forgiveness has been another lesson — maybe the hardest one. I had to learn to forgive myself for the things I did while surviving. For the hurt I caused when I was lost in my pain. I had to remind myself that I am not my past. I am not my mistakes. I am the person who keeps showing up, even after losing everything.

Addiction taught me empathy in a way nothing else could. It taught me how to see people for who they are beneath their struggles — to understand that no one chooses to suffer. It shaped the way I show up for others, especially in my work and my recovery community. Because I know what it’s like to be judged, misunderstood, and written off. And I also know what it’s like to be given another chance.

Most of all, addiction taught me that healing is possible. That even when life feels like it’s over, it isn’t. There is always a way back — sometimes it just takes time, faith, and a lot of courage.

Today, I’m still learning. Recovery isn’t a finish line; it’s a journey. But every day I choose healing over hiding, truth over shame, and love over fear — I win a little more of myself back.

And that’s what I’ve learned from my addiction:
That even in the darkest places, there’s still a spark of light waiting to rise

Author’s Note

If you’re struggling with addiction right now, please know this — you are not alone. You are not broken, weak, or beyond saving. You are a human being who has carried pain for far too long. Recovery isn’t easy, but it is worth it. One day, you’ll look back and realize that everything you’ve survived was preparing you for who you were meant to become.

Keep going. You are stronger than you think, and your story isn’t over yet. 💛

BigmommaJ
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