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My mom was diagnosed with #ComplexRegionalPainSyndrome My daughter and I live with her and are supposed to be helping her, but she refuses. She’s also developing memory issues, and the stress of the pain is eroding her health it seems daily. I want to better understand what she’s going through and how I can help. Seems I can’t do anything right. Then again, she’s diagnosed #NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder so I know there’s only so much I can do. She’s looking at medically assisted… stuff (I don’t want to trigger). I don’t want to trigger. But I still have to try. Any advice or stories would help tremendously! It’s her knee. She has a Nervo implanted, but it apparently barely makes a dent. She calls it her “forever pre-op root canal leg.” Yikes! #Caregiving #SuicidalThoughts (her not me)

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Bipolar Narcissistic Neighbor

I’m on disability and have been for 10 years. I live in a community area that is specifically targeted for seniors and those on disability who are low income. My neighbor of 3 years is bipolar and narcissistic. She has told me this herself. I have major depressive disorder, CPTSD, Anxiety, Hypersensitivity, Skin Picking Disorder, Insomnia, Agoraphobia, Self Hate, and OCD. I have 2 family members with her same diagnosis. Two of my counselors and my psychiatrist finally got me to cut the two family members out of my life for my mental health safety. It was the best thing I did for myself as they wouldn’t respect my boundaries once I started to put them in place. Unfortunately I’m not able to do that with my neighbor. I can’t even have a private conversation in my own home without her ease dropping on it. I caught her getting close to my windows as I saw her feet. I said “OMG she’s at my window as I can see her feet. I can’t even have a private conversation in my own home!” I was having a telahealth meeting with my previous counselor. He tried to get me to talk to our property manager about it back at that time. I finally did speak with our new property manager about it last week from the urging of my new counselor. I looked into moving into another unit in my complex but I can’t afford to do it. My counselor suggested putting a radio in front of the window in the room I’m choosing to have a conversation. But how do I start to set boundaries with my neighbor. I rarely saw the two family members in person. They mostly did their damage through phone calls, texts, Facebook posts and messenger. So it was easier to take care of dealing with them. But this neighbor I have to see on a regular basis. Before things got tense between us I was the one who did all of the driving to any place we went. She never said thank you, offered a bit of gas money or said I’ll buy your lunch since you drove. I drove her to her colonoscopy appointment last year when gas was over $5 per gallon. I figured it up and it cost me $62 dollars round trip to do that. She didn’t pay me for any of it, breakfast or say thank you. Someone please help me figure out what I can do to protect myself from the manipulation, guilt trips and gaslighting that I receive from her. #bipo #NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder #majordeprissivedisorder #CPTSD #Gaslighting #Agoraphobia #SkinPickingDisorder #OCD

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The Silent Echo: How Childhood Trauma Can Shape Adult Health

I did not know I was suffering from PTSD well into my 30s. Fortunately, once I was able to identify that the vivid waves of flashbacks were PTSD induced and discussed it with my therapist, I was able to push the tide back so they became less frequent, and eventually disappeared altogether.

Sadly, I know this is not the case for everyone. Yet in coming to terms with my childhood trauma, while progressively getting more unwell—it has become increasingly clear that there is some connection. While there is awareness that traumatic experiences can influence mental wellbeing, emerging research from the past decade reveals the potential of Adverse Childhood Events (ACEs) in shaping physical health outcomes later in life. ACEs are traumatic experiences from our formative years. These range from witnessing or undergoing abuse to experiencing various forms of familial dysfunction. A 1998 Kaiser study, found a direct correlation between the number of ACEs a child faces and major adult health risks, including conditions like heart disease, cancer, and liver disease. Additional research indicates that those with high ACE scores might also be more susceptible to autoimmune diseases, headaches, insomnia, depression, anxiety, and immune system alterations.

My own ACE score is 8/10. One of things that particularly resonates with me about the connection between ACEs and chronic illness, is that I know I became hyper vigilant from a young age due to being co-opted into parenthood by both my parents. My mother was a narcissist, and my father, while being the more stable parent had a degree of covert narcissism that meant neither of them were emotionally available. Instead, they demanded this emotional support from me. Things only got worse, when my mother got remarried to a violent drunk more broken than she is, which meant I was treading on at least three layers of eggshells every day of my young life.

The impact of emotional trauma in our early years, can lead to significant physical changes mirroring those observed in PTSD patients. Specifically, trauma can change the size, shape, and connectivity in areas of the brain such as the amygdala, hippocampus, and ventromedial prefrontal cortex, which regulate emotions, stress, fear, and memories. These changes can perpetually activate the body's stress response system, leading to heightened inflammation, issues such as sleep disturbances and gut dysbiosis, that can pave the way for a tsunami of other physical ailments.

When I look back on my health journey there were signs from early on in my childhood, that were ignored. While my mother loved going to doctors, and I think she had some form of munchausens by proxy, her particular fixation was chest infections and little else. I have a vivid memory from my early teens of damaging the cartilage in my right knee that was hot to the touch, and inflamed for almost a year… I ended up saving my pocket money and buying a knee guard as the only form of self treatment that I knew how to offer myself. Then there were the frequent nosebleeds that started when I was about 9 years old. Again, no trip to the doctor. These episodes were viewed as an inconvenience, but one that would inevitably pass—so I guess it was not deemed worthy of further investigation or treatment.

As I write this, it becomes poignantly clear that through my parents’ lack of concern for my health, I learned to simply ignore physical discomfort. Establishing a pattern of self neglect that would take me until my 40s and a breaking point in my health, to finally prioritise my own wellbeing above all else.

Recognising these far reaching implications of childhood trauma and neglect on adult health underscores the urgent need for comprehensive mental and physical healthcare that acknowledges these connections, is the support we all need and deserve. Unfortunately, I think we have a long way to go before this kind of integrative healthcare happens. In the interim, I can only offer this advice: if you find yourself with toxic people in your life who are not concerned about your well being, and take more than they give, the sooner you address these dysfunctional relationships, the better.

Trust me I’ve done the wheelchair work… and perhaps the most important thing I learned from the experience was this: my unstable childhood made me incredibly resilient to life’s many storms, and far too quick to share my umbrella with others. This was an unconscious choice to begin with, but now I’m aware of it, I’ve consciously uncoupled myself from this unguarded openness, and quietly traded in my umbrella for a much smaller one ☂️

#PTSD #Anxiety #PostTraumaticStressDisorder #Trauma #ChronicFatigue #MyalgicEncephalomyelitis #Fibromyalgia #Abuse #Depression #Insomnia #PTSDSupportAndRecovery #Selfcare #NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder

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the pain of being a daughter of a narcissistic mother #NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder #ComplexPosttraumaticStressDisorder

i am going through a breakup and i have noticed that i continuously long for my mothers love. i practically beg for it and she tells me "i am sorry you feel that way". i have always felt an emptiness inside and i am realizing that she is a key contributor. i feel so alone but in her presence, i feel even more alone but with an overwhelming sense of confusion, wondering what i can do to make her want to be motherly to me. what i can do to be good enough. she is very strange and favors boys over girls, she shows love and attention to my brothers and i feel like the ugly duckling. i tried to get her to understand my borderline personality disorder and she said, "okay, you keep complaining and explaining but what are you going to do to get over it?". i started crying and said its not curable and i am trying to get better. i go to therapy, take medication, self-reflect, and check my behaviors yet she does nothing but berate me for being "dramatic" and "too emotional". i hate her. i will forever hate her for being a big factor in developing my bpd. i am learning how to say no and stop trying to fit her daughter role as she does not fit her mother role to me. i live a life of emotional agony internally but learned to shut it away. growing up, i always told myself to wait until bedtime to cry in order to avoid her berating me. i am choosing to go low contact with her to start healing and try to get rid of my self hatred. she had a hard upbringing but as a result she made mine hard and that is inexcusable. i am working so hard on myself because when i start a family, i dont want to pass on the disorder to my children and i dont want to mistreat my husband. i want to be healthy and happy, able to accept love and give love healthily. something that doesnt seem possible right now.

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Where’s the love, empathy and compassion ? I’m surrounded by Narcissists

I am new to the mighty. I’m 41 which is shocking bc 12 years ago was when I was almost murdered. Which isn’t the worst part. It’s these past year up till today. I read the lack of an emphatic witness is the worst… which learning so much of the culture I understand it since a kid but I never put it into effect or with myself. Im so emphatic that i learned people pleasing is a fawn response. I know too in the states the last 4 years things just for progressively worst due to what was going on. I have so much love that I want a better world to leave behind

And like Tupac even said with the kids “Everyones-ashamed-of-the-youth-cause-the-truth-look-strange-and-for-me-its-reversed-we-left-em-a-world-thats-cursed-and-it-hurts-hurts” with generational trauma i have been more understanding but I have a huge issue with not realizing when their trauma doesn’t have an reflection of compassion and empathy of other walks of life? Ok constantly feel shame and guilt but it’s something I can’t let go of since a kid. I don’t think we can understand our trauma completely if we don’t relate to others completely in walks of life. Does anyone relate?

#ComplexPTSD #NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder #Fibromyalgia #MentalHealth

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I'm new here!

Hi, my name is Cat Vonnegut (pen name). I'm here because I need a place to write about and often vent about health and mental health. I'm also working on a lot of projects including writing fictionally and may test some of the material here as much of the content is derived from my life struggles and the lives of close friends and family.

Today's thoughts: I don't want to think I'm a narcissist, but (and nothing good is followed by a but, is it?) I do find myself saying, "What about me?" a lot.

Am I neglected or just needy? How does one tell the difference between the two? Well, if you've come here for answers, I have good news, I don't have them. Why is that good news? You're not alone in being dumb and lost for answers. We're dumb together. They say misery loves company.... well, you're welcome. I came along for the misery ride before you even knew we were in the same bandwagon.

(P.S. My writing can be blunt and crass at times. I by no means mean myself or anyone else is dumb. TW: I write some shock comedy and satire, etc.)

#MightyTogether #Anxiety #Depression #Migraine #PTSD #ADHD #OCD #NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder #Jokes #Musings #Comedy #hereforthementalhealth #MentalHealth

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Know your Mental Health Problems The most widespread

Part 1 of 2 We all have mental health problems, some of which pose a danger to us and require immediate treatment, and some of which we can get rid of by following healthy activities to get rid of them.

Mental health problems are considered more harmful than health problems that relate to the body only, while mental health problems affect your psyche and your body as well.

As for treatment, it is also more difficult than physical treatment because it is often not treated with medication. Mental health problems need experts in the field of mental health and psychology, and treatment takes place through many sessions and treatment methods differ according to the problem that he suffers from in his mental health. Because every mental health problem depends on certain behaviors to be treated by specialists.

Every person has a certain limit of a good psychological state, and each person has a certain limit of wisdom with which he can balance his own mental health, and of course the older you get, the more you can control your mental health, and the age most at risk of mental health problems are adolescents, they are in The parent is in a state of incomprehension, and on top of that, their health is at risk from any behavior, and the protection wall from their mental health problems is incomplete, which makes them vulnerable to danger, and thus the teenager is vulnerable to many problems such as social anxiety disorder, permanent tension, and also isolation more.

Causes of mental health problems

The causes are many, including a disorder in childhood or irregular mental strength in a person with mental health problems.

The conditions that a person is exposed to daily, from waking up to the end of the day. Small things may change a person’s personality, such as a morning greeting to your neighbor, an insult to your boss, or disagreements between you and your loved one. All of these things may cause a change in a person’s psychological state, and when health becomes Psychological unstable and exposed to mental health problems.

The accumulation of sadness, weakness, and disappointment can change a lot of people. Perhaps you have been betrayed in a relationship, so you are trying to take revenge on every person you are in a relationship with in the future.

You have been embarrassed in the midst of people in your community, and this has led to a reduction in your going to social gatherings, and after a while you no longer communicate with people, so you have social anxiety.

We cannot be sure who is the culprit here, man or life, because both of them were one reason for another in exposure to mental health problems, but the most important thing is if you see yourself suffering from a problem in your mental health, do not hesitate to contact the author and consult a psychologist.

The most important mental health problems

Mental health problems are those that affect your mental and physical health together. There is no main reason for mental health problems that can be genetic or intentional, such as exposure to a moment in your life that affected your mental health and made you suffer from it.

1 Depression and lack of desire:

Among the mental health problems, the most important of which is depression and the general desire to accomplish something. As we said, the important mental health problems have a deep impact on the self. Depression comes after your mental health has been exposed to danger and has received a painful blow.

Depression affects our relationship with people because it makes us lose the desire to communicate with someone and become more isolated with ourselves without trying to get out of depression.

2 Social anxiety and loneliness:

One of the mental health problems is our fear of confronting people in society and daily life.Social anxiety disorder affects the way we understand people in our lives, as we imagine that we will not be acceptable to them and that they will never be satisfied with us.

The anxiety resulting from our fear of society is what causes social anxiety disorder, which is considered a mental health problem. Unlike depression, social anxiety is not very deep, as it can be overcome by getting to know the people closest to your personality.

3 The arrogant, narcissistic personality:

Narcissistic personality disorder is also considered one of the mental health problems, the narcissistic personality is difficult to deal with and is considered a self-obsessed personality and has great self-confidence to the point of exaggeration.

Knowing the narcissistic personality in our lives is difficult and it takes a lot of time to discover that he is a narcissistic personality.

The narcissistic personality can be treated by m