I was watching some LMN (Lifetime Movies) Earlier today but will catch another movie in a few but not sure if it will be Lifetime Movie or a different type of movie. #BPD #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #PTSD #MentalHealth #Anxiety #Bipolar #NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder
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I did this many years ago. Because my mom is a Narc, and she instilled this in me from a baby growing up that I would basically always need her to make decisions for me. But a few people outside of my family educated me on what they saw, and I corrected this over a 10-year span... but now my mom respects me as an adult and doesn't try to control me... but the connect that a child has with their mom I had to break those ties permanently. Because my mom abused that at an early age... So most of the time I treat her like she is a stranger even though she's my mom... my mom now has a mild case of dementia so she doesn't remember half of what she did to me when I was younger #BPD #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #MentalHealth #PTSD #Bipolar #NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder
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It’s like a shy kid turning into a bully later—they’re just pushing out the pain they couldn’t show before. It’s sad but shows how trauma can shape people. 💔
My mom's narc ways came from her siblings disowning her as a child and treating her like she was a miss goody to shoes just because she was a bit different from them vs. embracing her difference and accepting her as part of them, since they had the same biological parents. My mom sisters act so stuck-up even though they all grew up poor. #BPD #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #PTSD #MentalHealth #NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder #Bipolar
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Maybe there’s anger, pain, or just a hole where you wanted that connection. It’s okay to feel those things, but holding onto it only weighs you down. This space is all about letting it out, letting it go, and finding some peace. You’ve got nothing but support here—we’re here to listen and lift you up. 💛✨
#BPD #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #PTSD #Bipolar #MentalHealth #SchizoaffectiveDisorder #NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder
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When I was 11 years old, I went to live at my aunt's and her partner's house hundreds of kilometers away from home. The idea was to allow me to attend better schools and be in a more peaceful environment. In the place where I was, having attended elementary school there, many children came from rural areas and were inclined towards the ostentatious use of violence. I was a peaceful child who had already suffered the misfortune of losing a father in early childhood. I was meek, kind, polite, not the type to appreciate that kind of interaction. Moving away from my mother was not an easy decision; under no other circumstances would I have wanted to leave her, but the chance to go and live with my beloved aunt was truly wonderful. My aunt had done so much for me after my father's death, and the trust I had in her was equal to that I had for my mother. Today, I am aware that her partner was a malignant narcissist and she was his flying monkey. Her partner devastated my self-esteem, he screamed at me and belittled me in any possible way, any mistake on my behalf would lead to excruciatingly long tirades and she was his enabler. In hindsight, I understand that the biggest damage was done by her, who, in order to protect her partner from any criticism, did not hesitate to amplify the damage with gaslighting. She would say that he was gruff but so good and only wanted to help me grow and improve. I was terrified of this man. At school, I always cried, trying to attract attention with strange behaviors because I didn't dare to say the real cause of the problem. To cut a long story short, when I returned home after two years, I told my mother everything. At first, she cut ties with her sister, but then they reconciled for religious reasons and because she was convinced by her mother, who wanted to reconcile her two daughters. My mother went to sleep and eat at their house. Over the years, my aunt always behaved as if nothing had happened, and even thirty years later, every time I tried to talk to her about what had happened, she systematically denied it, continuing the same gaslighting with the same words she had used when I was a child, implicitly further humiliating me. That's the ultimate insult to the injury, not deeming me worthy of an adult conversation, making me feel powerless against her denial. Now, at 54, I have a rotting cargo ship of toxic waste inside me that spills sulphuric acid into my ability to detach, cope, heal, find closure. #NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder
Feeling a lot of gratitude lately for my life, my addiction recovery, my mental health, getting through 26 years with a narcissist, post divorce, and just feeling blessed! Gratitude changes everything!
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A relationship between a woman with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and a man with covert narcissism, both with childhood PTSD, can be deeply intense, dysfunctional, and cyclical. Their dynamics often reinforce each other’s wounds rather than heal them. Here’s how this relationship might play out:
1. The Intense, Addictive Bond
• The BPD partner craves deep emotional connection and fears abandonment. She may become highly attached and emotionally volatile.
• The covert narcissist craves admiration and control but presents as sensitive or victimized rather than grandiose. He manipulates subtly, playing the “hurt but superior” role.
• Their childhood PTSD can make them trauma-bonded, mistaking intensity for love.
2. The Idealization Phase
• The BPD partner may see the narcissist as her savior, someone who finally “understands” her pain.
• The covert narcissist enjoys feeling needed and admired, playing the role of the “good guy” while subtly controlling the emotional dynamic.
• The relationship may feel like an instant, all-consuming connection fueled by emotional highs.
3. The Devaluation Phase
• As the narcissist starts withdrawing or using passive-aggression (silent treatment, guilt-tripping), the BPD partner panics and reacts emotionally.
• The BPD partner’s fear of abandonment triggers intense emotions, leading to accusations, pleading, or self-destructive behaviors.
• The covert narcissist, who thrives on playing the victim, feeds off her reactions, making her seem “crazy” while reinforcing his own sense of superiority.
4. The Push-Pull Cycle
• The BPD partner oscillates between desperately clinging and pushing away in anger, overwhelmed by emotional pain.
• The covert narcissist gaslights, manipulates, and plays the martyr, subtly making her feel like the problem.
• Their childhood wounds get reopened repeatedly, as both struggle with trust, abandonment, and emotional regulation.
5. The Breakdown
• The BPD partner may reach a breaking point, engaging in extreme reactions (self-harm, threats of leaving, emotional outbursts).
• The covert narcissist retreats, blames her for the chaos, and may begin triangulating (seeking validation from others).
• The BPD partner feels abandoned and unworthy, while the narcissist feels justified in his superiority and “victimhood.”
6. The Trauma Bond & Possible Reconciliation
• Even after a breakup, the trauma bond can keep them hooked.
• The BPD partner desperately wants closure or validation, which the covert narcissist withholds or doles out in small doses to maintain control.
• If they get back together, the cycle repeats—often escalating with each round.
The Core Problem
• The BPD partner seeks love but fears abandonment.
• The covert narcissist seeks control but fears exposure.
• Both are stuck in childhood trauma responses (fight, flight, freeze, fawn), re-enacting their past pain instead of healing.
Can This Relationship Work?
• Without intensive therapy, it’s unlikely to be healthy.
• The BPD partner needs emotional regulation skills (DBT, trauma therapy).
• The covert narcissist would need to confront their entitlement and manipulative tendencies (which they rarely do).
This dynamic is highly destructive for both parties. Have you experienced something similar, or are you trying to understand it from the outside?
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How do I reconcile with the fact that I have not been loved my entire life but that I have been abused? Can abusers love? I doubt it…
What about me and my feelings?
I’m not a pawn to be used when others feel like it. I am a living breathing person and I have needs too. #Childhoodtrauma #PTSD #MentalHealth #NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder
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Hi, my name is Sammie686.
I am 32. I have NPD(Covert Narcissist) I need to become ok with it, and become better as a person by knowing about it and how to live a good life as a better person dipite it. I am doing everything I can to get to this point even though I have done some terrible things to get to this point. I know this is what I need to do.
#MightyTogether #Anxiety #Depression #BipolarDisorder #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #PTSD #ADHD #NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder #IntellectualDisabilities
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He pretended to be clueless and confused today, https://again.I was already in a panic state to him coming home.it is https://bad.I have confirmation now, that his friend decided to hack everything and this has, been happening for over a https://year.I am livid..I have proof now and I feel like it is 100times more sick,than I https://imagined.I find out about the house https://soon.The chance of them letting it go are https://slim.I warned him and he became angry,asked too many specific questions when I https://flipped.Each time, I caught https://it.Within two hours both me and my sons phones were acting https://up.Then another txt acting and attacking https://me.These people have no idea how hard I will fight for what is https://mine.I spent years,never having anything scheduled, no celebrations,no family traditions,no safety for my https://son.Absolutely no protection,at https://all.He wanted me to stray,pushed me, made plans, arrangements and then became my enemy,when I told him I always,chose https://him.Saddest story of a marriage I've ever https://heard.He had the man have his friends hit on me,say things as I walked by,follow me,endlessly.He has full links to my https://family.His own mother told me to take the money and https://run.She told me the truth last year, moved away and now states she never told me that.it is munipulation and lack of courage from my https://husband.He did the same thing to me twenty four years https://ago.I can't believe I took him back, let him raise my son, put me last for sixteen years, and I let https://him.He know said he never loved me.
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