petpeeve

I can’t stand it when people ask me to do something first thing in the morning. (It’s a huge pet peeve of mine.) My Mom always has to bombard me with questions and tasks she wants me to do that day as soon as she sees me in the morning. It annoys the crap out of me! It causes me to have so much unnecessary anxiety.

My brain needs time to adjust and acclamate to the day when I first wake up. It can’t handle trying to think about answers to questions. It can’t handle having to think about how/when I’m going to accomplish a task. It’s too overwhelming. This overwhelming feeling causes a lot of anxiety, irritability, and a negative attitude/mood.

My Mom is currently working from home and her “office” is right outside my bedroom door so there is no way of avoiding her.
I am not an unreasonable person. I don’t mind being asked questions or asked to do things that need to be done. You just can’t ask me to do them when I first wake up. I need time to open my eyes, eat some breakfast and have time for my brain adjust to being awake. I don’t think that’s too much to ask?

When my Mom does do this to me, I am more likely to NOT want to do what she has asked me to do or answer the questions she wants me too. My reaction/responses to her end up causing conflict. It’s not a good way to start off your day. I have told her time and time again to please not do this to me but she either ignores my request, doesn’t care or forgets. I’m leaning towards she forgets and she doesn’t see why it’s a problem. She can’t see it how this is an issue for me from my perspective. However, if I were to bombard her with questions and things I wanted her to do first thing in the morning she would respond the same way with a negative reaction. So I don’t understand why she can’t see my perspective and why she continues to do it?

Am I being unreasonable or stupid for feeling this way? I don’t think I am but sometimes I wonder if maybe I’m the that is overreacting and wrong. 🤔

Anyway, thanks for listening & letting me vent. 💜

Maybe this is a small thing. Maybe no one else has this problem. It irritated me today, though, and I know this is a safe space so allow me to vent for a minute.

Because of fibromyalgia, my skin is sensitive. Sometimes a loving touch from my husband can hurt. Sometimes I can’t wear socks or gloves because my feet and hands just can’t bear it. Sometimes using a pair of scissors is painful to the point that I ask myself if the thing I’m trying to cut really needs cutting.

Sometimes, like today, I struggled to open a package of pens. You know the kind: heavy paper backing with the pens encased in a sturdy plastic that is actually glued between layers of the paper. There’s a perforation on the back but my fingertips are burning and gripping a tiny edge to pull is nearly impossible. I wrestled with it (I needed a pen and my hubby isn’t home), my eyes watering, getting more frustrated as my fingers ached and burned.

I ended up grabbing a craft pick (a very pokey metal tip with a plastic handle used for freeing bits of paper from metal dies) and stabbed along the perforation until the paper was toast and the pens were free. Argh!

I know manufacturers don’t want their products to be easy to pilfer, but COME ON. I had so much trouble; I can’t imagine what people with prosthetics or debilitating arthritis have to do to open a freaking package.

Whew. I feel better now. Thank you. #Fibromyalgia #Pain #frustration #petpeeve

I am actually suicidal. But when I say I want to die, it’s usually followed by “same”. No. Not the same. Memes have turned suicide into a joke and when someone is actually in need of help, it not taken seriously. #petpeeve #Stigma #SuicideSigns

One of my Biggest pet peeves is when people just think they can drop by. Like seriously? I have to save energy for when I want to eat let alone taking a shower and getting ready for company.
PLEASE give me a day's notice at least!

#rude #RareDisease #EhlersDanlosSyndrome #Arthritis #HypothyroidismUnderactiveThyroidDisease #Insomnia #Fibromyalgia #petpeeve