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#SuicidalThoughts #Suicide #Depression #Anxiety #PTSD #CPTSD #CheckInWithMe

I've always felt like the word suicide was put into a box, with walls in it and all these walls, the stigma, and it has left all of my grief within this box.

If there a visual I can share about how I feel about this box, is that if we can start somewhere and work our way around it, it may open up so many conversations.

I'll start with the audience first. The audience: the ones who are willing to listen about suicide, maybe they can help collect information from a variety of ways (think outside the box) and disperse it to the right people, or maybe they're there to support it and spread the word.

~ The audience is the heart and sole of creating healthy ways to help communicate with all of us, without judgement and loving support. ~

The one's who lost: a parent, sibling, friend, co-worker, classmate, etc. to suicide are left with unanswered questions. Each person has their own story, as I've lost my dad, and two siblings and several others to suicide. What if we were able to have these people write their story and/or ask questions that we would be able to pass those same questions onto those who have attempted and/or still struggle with these thoughts?

This is why I started with this box first, because they would be the ones who would get something going. Maybe they could write what they wanted to their lost loved on just to help pass it on to someone who needs it.

~ Having the audience go through these questions/stories/notes and pass them onto those who have attempted and/or struggle, that maybe would like to receive it from someone else. ~

I've had over 30 years of the stigma of suicide, since the age of nine. This box. It felt like I put it on a shelf, look at it, cry, and leave it there. I've attempted 15 times and I'm still here. It's been over 3 years since my last two attempts, and I finally opened up, after I lost my brother and got the help I need.

~ When I suggest about these sorts of questions/stories/notes, are because they might have an answer that the audience can help with sharing in more ways than one, to society itself. ~

Our stories are a breath of life. Our questions are valid. Our notes can be sincere or who knows? Does it have to be this way? Are we limited to what I just wrote and shared my thoughts and questions? It's a sincere start and I hope that whoever the audience is out there: a counselor, a therapist, teacher, pastor... are we limited to who the audience is? How can we expand to those who are willing to help? How many more questions do we need? Are we asking the right ones? How can we help more? Can you share what you do to help?

Thank you kindly, for reading this. 💙💜💙💜💙💜💙💜

#MightyQuestions #Love #Hope

#SuicidalThoughts #SuicidalIdeation #SuicideAwareness #PTSD #Depression #Anxiety

After losing my dad to suicide as a child, I was so caught up in all those questions: "What if I did this?" or "I could have done this." or "Why did he leave?" It left a hole in my heart. I was waiting for unanswered questions from my dad for decades. I've lost my two oldest siblings to suicide and I've attempted fifteen times throughout the years.

Instead of allowing those same questions be unanswered for those I've lost to suicide, what if the same "Safe Talk" that has entered the #MentalHealth field, which can broadened those same questions to those who can answer them?

My dad, two siblings and I all have our own stories to share in what we've gone through. I struggle with #physicalhealth as well.

Many times, people are there to rescue me, when all I want is to be supported. There are days I need more support than others. It's been thought of being attention seeking when people think it's overly used. Then they ignore me, because I'm not here to be fixed, only loved. I've had people tell me that I'm crying wolf and I need to stop.

It's more than teaching people boundaries. It's more than going to therapy once a week, like I'm doing. It's more than finding a supportive group. It's more than my coping skills I can either overly use or not use at all when I'm down.

I sincerely love the #CheckInWithMe hashtag. Some days, I just want to isolate, becausdd at one point or another, it was my only safe space. It's okay to create more than one safe space and to be loved and supported.

What if someone is struggling right now and all we need to do is check in with them? What if that person has reached out, but no one is helping them? What if they are afraid to speak up, because of the stigma? What if I saw someone who posted about suicide awareness, saying they will listen, but don't?

What if we started asking the right questions about suicide awareness? So many are left unanswered by those we lost to suicide. WHAT IF we found some answers in those who struggle today? #youarenotalone