I have been out of the abusive situations for four years now (this being the fourth year). In that time I have learned a lot about people, myself and life in general. During a moment of reflection and mindfulness I realized how blessed I am to have what I have. Sure I came from a broken home but now I have a family that loves, supports and believes in me no matter what. That means a lot to someone that has been invalidated by her own family. I cannot tell you how many tears I've cried, how many questions I've asked or how many scars I gave myself. I can only share the lessons that I have learned so far with you. Those lessons have taught me to make the most of my experience.
-Abusive families exist.
-There is nothing wrong with cutting toxic people out of your life.
-Your experiences are only a part of you but they do not define you.
-It is okay to ask for and receive help.
-It is okay to come forward about your experience. Someone will believe you.
-It is okay to be scared, angry, confused, hurt or any other emotion. They are valid and deserve space.
-Families aren't perfect.
-Time always shows a person's true colors in the end.
-It is possible to be hurt by someone you trusted but this does not make you a bad person.
-The abuse was not and never will be your fault.
-Abuse is a choice, someone chose to hurt you.
-There are consequences for everything.
-It is okay to be healing one day and to fall apart the next, this does not make you weak.
-Healing is not linear.
-Love does not hurt and leave you traumatized. What happened was not love.
-You can and will heal.
-It's important to have a support system.
-Each day is a new opportunity to heal and move forward.
-It's okay to validate yourself, you are not selfish.
-You deserve to be heard.
-Your presence makes a difference (trust me I attempted suicide)
I hope these lessons can help someone today. As I keep learning, I will post more. Everyday I am working on myself and slowly getting to where I want to be. Again, please stay safe and reach out for help if you need to. You are not alone. I believe in you. Thanks for being here and for believing in me. I appreciate it.
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