For much of my life, I overlooked my mental health. Perhaps it was because it wasn’t taught in school or because I was never evaluated as a child. Now, I finally understand it better. I was diagnosed with ADHD, autism spectrum disorder, bipolar disorder, major depressive disorder, and generalized anxiety disorder. For years, I only knew about the latter two. I had other underlying issues left untreated. Though my diagnoses were difficult to accept, they helped me find the missing puzzle piece I had been searching for my entire life.
For so long, I tried to fit in. I spent time and effort trying to be "normal" but remained hidden, lurking in darkness. My inner demons haunted me like ghosts from the past. To get by, I suppressed my struggles, creating a dusty room of boundless cabinets, untouched for years, waiting to be organized.
Every day, I wear a mask, carefully crafted to keep my head above water. But how long can one wear a mask without suffocating? I’ve held mine up my entire life, and it’s painful to keep up. It’s a complex mask that cannot simply be removed—it requires caution and delicacy. I’m starting to reveal the person behind it, but it remains my crutch, my anchor.
I have always been a people pleaser, finding joy in seeing others happy. My happiness often depends on others' well-being. I don’t like confrontation or drama. I want everyone to get along so I can sit in the corner comfortably, even if I feel miserable. I enjoy being alone, without truly being alone.
My knack for uplifting others has come in handy, but I’ve completely forgotten to include myself. I feel burnt out from years of supporting people, putting my own needs last, believing my worth was tied to how much I could give. Lately, I’m shifting that focus—I, too, deserve the kindness I give others. Slowly, I’m learning to show up for myself in the way I need and deserve.
I’ve come to understand that life rarely unfolds as imagined, and I’ve struggled with this. No matter how much effort I put in, the outcome is never guaranteed. Society pressures us with expectations—marriage, kids, homeownership, financial stability. Not everything ends like a Disney movie.
For a long time, I believed these expectations would come true. When they didn’t, I felt worthless and disappointed in myself. I fought an uphill battle, chasing aspirations just out of reach. The fear of never measuring up weighed heavily on me. I spiraled into depression and self-loathing, feeling broken, disconnected, and as if I were merely existing rather than living.
Now, I’m learning to sit with uncertainty instead of letting it consume me. I’m unraveling my layers, putting the puzzle together piece by piece. I’m confronting the pain of being overlooked and misunderstood. I wasted too much time focusing on what I felt was wrong with me that I lost touch with knowing the real me. Healing isn’t about erasing the past—it’s about embracing it.
I believed independence meant handling everything alone, and I preferred it that way. Stubborn, yes, but I disliked asking for help. I took pride in doing things on my own. When I couldn’t, I got frustrated. I thought relying on others was weakness, but I’ve realized that asking for help is necessary. Some of our greatest strengths come from vulnerability, and I’m working on that.
I’m still the shy, reserved person I’ve always been, but I no longer see it as something to be ashamed of. Being quiet and awkward doesn’t make me less worthy of being seen. Slowly, I’m letting my guard down, chiseling at the concrete wall I built around myself. Every day is a challenge, but it’s worth fighting for. Because at the end of the day, I only have myself to rely on. The greatest gift I can give myself is acceptance, and I’m finally ready to receive it.
I want to leave my mark, make an impression, and show the world I exist—that my voice matters. My diagnoses have given me the courage to stand tall and be proud of who I am. I am uniquely different, and that makes me special. My journey is ongoing, and I will continue to grow. I no longer wish to hide in the shadows. Instead, I will step into the light and claim my space in this world.
"I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become." — Carl Jung
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