ADHD in girls

Something inside me has shifted. I don’t know if it was a switch flipping on or off—but suddenly I’m aware of things I’ve never seen clearly before. It’s like I’m meeting myself for the first time, but also investigating a long-abandoned version of me. Sometimes I feel like a detective, a survivor, and a witness all at once—dusting off forgotten memories and buried emotions that have been quietly running the show.

I feel like the whole cast and crew of Inside Out live in my head—and I’m not just Riley. I’m watching the control panel, the islands, the memory storage, even the monitor that shows what Riley sees. I’m the observer, the critic, the rescuer, the fixer, and the confused child—all living inside the same system, trying to speak over each other. Sometimes I don’t know whose voice is talking, or if what I’m saying is fully true when I say it. I catch myself adjusting my words in real time, as if I’ve spent my whole life making sure I say what others want to hear. Not out of malice—out of survival.

This level of awareness is both fascinating and exhausting. I’m constantly aware of my thoughts and the fact that I’m aware. It feels like I’m running the control tower of a giant airport—watching the weather, scanning radar, managing signals, and trying not to crash—while also being the plane flying through the storm. It’s a lot.

And yet, I’m still functioning. I still show up. I still smile. But it’s getting harder to fake it now that I’ve started unmasking. I don’t want to go back to hiding, but I also don’t know what moving forward looks like. I feel like I’m standing at the edge of a massive canyon where my younger self got lost. Now I’m walking back in with a flashlight—trying to find her.

I know people might think I’m overanalyzing or being dramatic. But this is just how my brain works. I speak in metaphors because they’re the only way I can explain what’s too complex to put plainly. I feel like I have a thousand tabs open in my mind, and I’m finally starting to look at what’s on each one. This might be some combination of autism, ADHD, trauma, or something else—I don’t know yet. But I know it’s real. And I know I’m trying.

#MentalHealth #DiffuseIdentity #AutismSpectrum #ADHD #mentalwellness #ADHDInGirls #Anxiety #Depression #Neurodiversity

There’s an episode where she wakes up and she’s hearing/singing/humming “I will survive.” I believe the episode is called the song remains the same (go figure) anyway I had this terrible nightmare that would probably have officials knocking at my door if I spoke about it (yes it was that level bad.) but the song I keep hearing, and it’s weird because there’s an email in my inbox about it too, are “The dog days are over.” Specifically the parts, ‘run fast for your mother, run fast for your sisters and your brothers, leave all your love and your longing behind, you can’t carry it with you if you want to survive.’ The last part especially, on a loop, ‘you can’t carry it with you if you want to survive.’ And that’s how my morning is going! Happy Sunday everyone! Love, light and happiness. #dogdaysareover #ADHD #ADHDInGirls #imjustagirl #happysunday #medium

One behavior I’ve stopped tolerating is when people weaponize my growth or recovery journey while refusing to own their own actions. It’s even worse when they sabotage my progress and play innocent. “Nice” without accountability isn’t kindness—it’s manipulation. Avoiding conflict doesn’t make someone safe, and being “low-drama” doesn’t mean they’re not draining your peace.

The biggest thing we gain when we stop tolerating these patterns? Our energy. What we once spent managing other people’s egos now goes into healing, creating, and showing up for ourselves. I’ve also learned not to delay calling it out—especially when someone shows zero effort to take responsibility. You don’t have to feel bad for protecting your peace.

Here are five simple but powerful ways to stop tolerating harmful behaviors:
1. Name it clearly—don’t downplay what hurt you.
2. Use boundaries, not guilt—you’re allowed to say no without explanation.
3. Leave the door open for accountability—but not excuses.
4. Remember: silence doesn’t mean grace if it costs your peace.
5. Seek support that doesn’t require you to shrink to be accepted.

#ADHD #ADHDInGirls #Autism #Neurodiversity #Anxiety
#MightyTogether #Depression #Addiction #MentalHealth

What Therapy Taught Me About No Longer Tolerating Certain Behaviors
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So tonight, I finally made the decision to walk away from someone I once considered a close friend. They basically started an argument over my so-called “anxious communication style”—which honestly isn’t even an issue for me anymore—while acting like I had no right to call out the toxic things they’ve done. This is someone who has literally stolen my medication, crossed countless boundaries, and made everything about what I could give them—whether it was money, time, or emotional support—without giving anything real back.

For years, I kept trying to have adult conversations, to make things work, but it was always one-sided. Meanwhile, they’re out here doing drugs while working in a mental health facility, and I just kept letting it slide. But I’ve realized that if I want to grow, to heal, and to build a better life, I need to surround myself with people who respect me and bring out the best in me. So I let the friendship go they started to use my mental health challenges against me, and I was like I’m not gonna tolerate that this time and it felt good. #MentalHealth #Addiction #ADHD #AddictionRecovery #Neurodiversity #Addiction #Autism #Depression #ADHDInGirls #MightyTogether