ADHD in girls

I came here to share something, I’ve always noticed that I get over things fairly quickly, things most people would not tolerate, let alone, sweep under the rug. I learned that’s a trauma response. When I was little, and someone hurt me, there was not enough space for me to cry or rage. So my little brain found the safest route “If it’s my fault I can fix it, let it go and I’ll feel safe again”. It was safer to blame myself than to face the reality that the people who were supposed to protect me didn’t always do it, which is too painful for a child to sit with. Right now I’m going through something awful with my partner who I love so much, and I catch myself willing to carry the blame of something that is 1,000 percent not my fault, and it’s destroying my heart. I HAVE BPD, this is my FP. I want to so badly just comfort him and fix it, believing somehow I did something to deserve it. He is relying on my emotional labor. I can feel it by the way he’s “sulking” in a sense. I’m not holding the responsibility this time. It’s ok if the space feels unusually quiet, silence is sacred and I am relieving myself of filling the gap with fake comfort . So now I’m journaling, about things I’ve let go that deserved my voice. And although I’m still crushed with the circumstances, I’m so proud I was able to recognize what was happening, and show up for my present and my younger self. I shared this because if you are dealing with blaming yourself in order to feel safe, please stop. You are not responsible for the the discomfort or silence after soemone has done something to you! #Trauma #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #ADHDInGirls #MentalHealth

Roughly two years ago, I relapsed after five solid years in recovery.

It was a hard hit—not just because of the relapse itself, but because of how quickly shame tried to take over the narrative. I kept quiet at first, worried that everything I had built would be erased. That people would see the relapse instead of the growth that came before it—or the strength it took to come back from it.

But recovery isn’t linear. And relapse doesn’t erase progress.

Since then, I’ve come back with a deeper understanding of myself, my needs, and what sustainable recovery actually looks like for me. I’ve learned how to ask for support in a way that’s honest and self-compassionate, not fear-driven.

I’m not sharing this for sympathy—I’m sharing it because if you’re in this space too, I want you to know you’re not alone. Growth can still happen in the messy middle. Relapse isn’t the end. Sometimes, it’s the moment we get to rebuild with even more intention. #ADHD #ADHDInGirls #Addiction #MentalHealth #Depression #neurodiversity #MightyTogether #Anxiety Learning To Redefine My Recovery