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How do you ask your friends for support? #CPTSD

I've told a handful of friends that I am undergoing #emdr for my #ComplexPosttraumaticStressDisorder and find it disappointing that no one checks in on me to ask me how it's going. I understand that they may not know what to say or that they don't know what that means--but I don't have to know what it's like to have a mom with breast cancer or Hashimoto's Disease or a mean mother-in-law to ask any of them about their struggles.

I do my best to show up for my friends, to listen to their down days and celebrate their good ones. All I ask is to be acknowledged for my reality and maybe a phone call or text to check in and see how I'm doing. That would go a long way. Instead, I get idle chit chat about what "activities" I'm doing, how my worklife is, general blah blah blah about nothing of import.

Living with CPTSD is a daily challenge and I wish people could not ignore my experience. If you can relate, what are some things you've tried to get support from your friends?

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Don’t Tolerate Abuse # # #Abuse

I respond to abuse hyper aggressively & uncontrollably. I can’t stop myself from viciously telling someone what I deeply feel negatively about them when I feel I’m being abused. Told my selfish 76 year old father off in a voice message, bc he’s selfish & manipulative, and had the nerve to complain to me about his Netflix account & $900 car repair needs (he’s stuck in this pattern over 10 years). He knows my cousin is trying to recover from breast cancer & her husband is having heart surgery tomorrow. I’m personally way worse off than my father on top of it. I exploded via voice message. I then blocked him in every way and warned my sister he’s tripping. I don’t think I can talk to him again until my life/health improves. If that’s months & he passes, I refuse to feel guilty. I’m 55 and he’s been a bastard all my life. All his children are doing him a kindness by even speaking to him. Praying he gets so sick he will have no choice but to move back to America. Get on Medicaid & go to a senior home, where he should be. Otherwise he can go be a burden to his sister. I’ve had enough abuse for 10 lifetimes and I’m not letting anyone kill me, regardless if they’re unwell and unconsciously doing it.

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I'm new here!

Hi, my name is ResistFascism. I'm here because 20 years of battling cancer has worn me down. I need time with my tribe of others dealing with the same.

#MightyTogether #BreastCancer

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I have a question!

How could I best support my mom who has breast cancer? (I’d especially like to know from people who have gone through something similar)

#BreastCancer #Support

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The shot vs the implant birth control?

Yesterday I met with my gynecologist to discuss different birth control methods. She wants me to stop taking estrogen due to hypertension and interactions with certain meds I’m on. We discussed the iud, implant, shot, and proestrogen only pill. I’m use to having periods only every 3 months and their lighter. Don’t want periods every month nor intermittent spotting. I got put on birth control for my pmdd and to help with bad cramping 20 years ago. I get yeast infections easily espically in the summer with excessive sweating. I don’t want weight gain. I’m already obese and having hard time losing. I already have depression and anxiety along with other health conditions including pots. Don’t want increased risk of breast cancer. It runs in my family. My pots is always worse when I’m on my period making me more dizzy and feeling like I’m going to faint more along with worse nausea. I have back pain but it’s worse when on my period along with bloating. I’m torn between the shot and implant. I have been doing research and both sound good except the weight gain with the shot. I have pain management procedures every couple of months besides other procedures, bloodwork, scans, etc. please help me decide between the shot and implant! #MajorDepressiveDisorder #GeneralizedAnxietyDisorder #PremenstrualDysphoricDisorder #POTS #ReflexSympatheticDystrophySyndrome

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What Am I Supposed To Do?

The last two months have been the hardest of my life.
My mother has fought stage 4 metastatic colon cancer for the last five years. She has two nephrostomy bags, a colostomy bag, and a JP Drain (for an abscess in her abdomen that leaks horrible smelling infection from her stomach) hanging out of her body. She can’t walk due to DVT blood clots in both legs that are dangerously close to reaching her Vena Cava, with one blood clot being the size of an apple. She was in the hospital for four weeks, then hospice ipu for two. Hospice made me put her in a nursing home, because she isn’t dying fast enough. She was only there for two days and then right back to the hospital. Spent two more days in the hospital and is now back in hospice where I’ve been told that we HAVE to have two new facilities picked out by Monday.
Cancer is taking over her body. There are more cancer cells than blood cells at this point. She is dying. We placed her with hospice at the recommendation of five different doctors. Yet hospice is saying they can’t keep her because the ipu is intended for short term stays, yet on the website says up to six months. My aunt just passed in February from breast cancer and she was with hospice for over a month before she passed.
I just don’t understand how they can do this to people. My mom needs 24/7 medical care. She needs medication administered that I nor my family know how to give her and don’t even have access/qualifications to administer. What in the hell are we supposed to do?
I am so distraught and extremely angry and disappointed in our healthcare system here in the states. I adore my mother. Life hasn’t been too kind to her and now she can’t even die in a beautiful place because it’s all just about having money. Well, we don’t come from much. But the true measure and worth of a person’s life isn’t about the money in their wallet or the balance in their bank accounts. It’s about the love they give and the people that surrounds them.
Just trying to vent. These social workers don’t give a damn and have been just awful at communicating. We just need some peace.

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Skin care for cancer patient.

I have chronic fibromyalgia. Fortunately I have a wonderful doctor who does reckonize this as a real condition and gives me pain meds to help with the pain. Thank God for him. I also am receiving chemotherapy for breast cancer. My skin has wrinkled so much under treatment. Treatment drys the skin out badly. Does anyone know of a good product for getting rid of wrinkles or at least minimizing ? Angela
#Fibromyalgia

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I'm new here!

Hi, my name is Healthy2025. I'm here because I am assisting someone just diagnosed with breast cancer who needs alternative treatment because the regular medical treatment is not possible in this case. Thanks for sharing anything you have tried successfully or know through other means that it is helpful. I wish you all the best of health and much happiness always!

#MightyTogether

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