Hi new here but not to the Mighty #HSP #ADHD #Anxiety #Depression #CPTSD #PTSD
I”m only recently learning to understand my innate neurodivergent processing styles of being an extremely empathic highly sensory person (HSP) with ADHD. I have a disorganized insecure attachment style and struggle with C-PTSD. I grew up with so many unconscious strategies to dissociate and be emotionally disconnected.
It had been so challenging to understand how the early developmental trauma/emotional neglect/abuse from being raised by narcissistic emotionally unavailable parents impacted my ability to connect to my emotions. That I now know meant they were emotionally immature parents incapable of showing, modeling, and expressing emotions in healthy ways. This messed with being innate empathic. While I could rarely connect to my own emotions. I was like an emotional sponge to everyone and everything around me.
I noticed this group today. I have not been on the Mighty in a long time. I have grown so much since first posting on this app in 2018. Tracking emotions is still very difficult for me.
I only discovered this week that when multiple life challenges overlap and overwhelm me at the same time makes me extremely resentful. I only recently learned that resentments is stored anger. Think of built up anger of decades of being emotionally dismissed by those who are supposed to love you the most. I became so counter dependent. Growing up thinking I have only myself to count on. That I do not expect help from anyone. I don’t expect anyone to love me. So when faced with challenges I automatically feel completely abandoned, alone and unlovable.
So today I can say I am feeling angry, hurt, isolated, alone, abandoned, dismissed, resentful, sad, uncertain. I’m actually allowing myself to sit with this discomfort. Oddly with this clarity also has me feeling some acceptance of just being in my present experience. Surprisingly the clarity is bringing a sense of peace. Well I think it’s peace. It is new for me to recognize I can experience both pleasant and unpleasant emotions at the same time.