Recently I decided to make Brunswick stew. My best buddy of 53 years and I subscribe to the New York Times Cooking. I bounced their recipe and a couple of others off of him. He’d ask me every now and then over text if I’d made it. As is common with Bipolar Disorder I don’t sleep well. So after it was clear that I was not going to sleep regardless of what I did one night, I got up and finished up the stew. I took a few photos of different stages of the process. I didn’t send them because I didn’t want to interrupt his sleep. Later in the day I sent him 2 or 3 photos of the process and told him I had done it.
It may seem small but bipolar depression took one of my passions away from me. I don’t get much joy out of cooking or anything else now. I was a little pumped that I had done something in the kitchen. I pushed through and made a big pot of New York Times Brunswick Stew.
My friend’s response to my sending him the text was caustic. He told me that I just needed to stop it about the damn stew. I was manic over the stew “had been for 2 weeks” I pushed back reminding him that he had asked me multiple times if I’d made it. I mistakenly assumed that he was interested. I also suggested that he brush up on his diagnostics especially as it relates to mania.
He fired back with something even more offensive about my mental illness. I chose not to react in anger. I just ignored it. The next afternoon, I received a text from him that was clearly his attempt to test the waters. He was drunk when he sent the other texts. I knew when he sent them he was drunk. It was during the NFL playoffs and he’d gotten sloppy drunk at someone’s home and was impaired when he sent the texts. I’ve seen him do the same thing to others but it’s never been directed at me. Especially with regard to my bipolar disorder. I didn’t respond for 4 or 5 hours. When I did, it was usually 1 syllable words. No humor or banter as usual.
Normally, I would remove myself from anyone who unprovoked intentionally sought to hurt me. I’ve been dealing with this monster for 20 years now. I let very few people get as close to my problem as he did.
So my question is do I do what I normally do and cut him out or do I attempt to mend fences. I’m leaning toward cutting him out. I’m not going to try to harm him or make him feel guilty. I’m just going to have as little to do with him as possible. We live 100 miles apart. It won’t be hard. I just need to be consistent. Thoughts?