Kids aren’t conducive to scrupulous living...
I’m a 40 year old father-of-3-boys — working through a fresh OCD diagnosis...which for me shows up in Moral OCD, Tourettic OCD and generalized anxiety. It’s a journey that started with my oldest son’s diagnosis and treatment, and increasing self-realization that led me to seek professional help.
As I processed through how Moral OCD in particular affects me as a father each day, and this common sign (with a funny twist above) came to mind. For me OCD doesn’t show up typically in cleanliness...so I can generally deal with their mess. What I realized I find extremely difficult, and to the detriment of my mental health and my parenting...is their behavioral mess.
I have a strong faith/moral component to my life, so I’m seeking to raise healthy, vibrant, loving and connected boys. But wondering what people think of me, think of them, think of how I’m parenting them...and then my own self-critical thoughts for not doing/thinking/feeling the right things...reminds me of the funny twist in the sign above.
Modeling learning from failure, and grace towards one’s own failings, feels like a calling for the next half of my life. For me, modeling that for my boys is a key motivation — and also to deal with what seems to be unnecessary mental suffering from mistakes.
So...I’m new to The Mighty, and hopeful to learn from others. I’m already thinking copiously about how my words are coming across to others...but for now I’ll post, and look forward to reading and hearing from others.