Someone’s reality of you does not have to be your reality. You are just a person. Be your own hero! You are worth it! #MentalHealthHero
We are currently looking for a new Co-Leader for the Multiple Health Challenges group. We have grown quite a bit and just passed 1,500 members. In the past co-leaders have been golden, really helpful for me when I got sick or burnt out and had to step away for a few days. I am looking for someone to welcome new members, comment or respond to most posts or other comments, make new posts to the group every once and a while, and preferably someone who has physical and emotional health challenges so they can best relate to and understand where other members are coming from when they post or comment.
It is important for the group to have two distinctly different voices to support people because people might relate more to one of us. What is a really good situation is if we both respond to the same posts, welcome new members from different perspectives and provide voices for people that are accessible and relatable. There is a commitment needed that you monitor activities on the group regularly and can respond pretty quickly.
Offering your own posts provides more content for the group…and when posts pose a question they keep things moving forward. I can assist and support by offering to look at your new posts for feedback and editing before you post if you would like it, comment on your posts to get the responses going to best support your efforts, help finding memes or images, and support you if we are dealing with someone struggling …. Like sounding suicidal or being manic…and I will check in to make sure you are happy and comfortable!
I look at potential leaders' history of posts and/or comments that have helped and supported others in the past. Willingness to be honest and open about your own health challenges is crucial to best support people. A co-leader works together with me for some new posts and drafting new questions and is concerned about the well being of all members and can empathize with their paths.
You will get access to the Community Leaders group and your name will have a “Group Leader” tab next to it up top on your comments and responses so I think people pay attention especially to your activity and wisdom shared from personal experience. Would you consider joining me on this journey? Let’s have a DM chat to discuss this! Thanks for considering taking on this role!
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Rock climbing saved my life. When I am on the side of that mountain, I feel more grounded, more alive, and more connected to the Universe. For me, it’s a holy place. This is my church. In my 32 short years on this planet, I have found climbing to be a beautiful metaphor for overcoming the difficulties life throws our way, sometimes.
In the rock climbing community as in everyday life, we refer to the obstacles we’re working through as “problems”. Although I am tired, hurting, and feel I can’t go on...I don’t give up. I continue pushing through the pain, doubt, and exhaustion until I finally reach the summit. At which point, I can reflect back on all the problems I overcame, the path I took, and what technique I used to get through it. Then, I can feel an overwhelming sense of pride and accomplishment for all my hard work. The next time I encounter a similar problem, I'll know what to do to get past it.
No one pushed or pulled me up the mountain. All that hard work was mine. The person on the ground belaying me is merely there to provide me with safety, support, and ensure I do not fall, should I stumble. Everything else is up to me. The more I work through my problems, with my friend supporting me on the ground, the stronger I become.
You see, therapy is a lot like rock climbing. In this allegory or metaphor, you (the climber) are the patient, the mountain is your crisis, the "problems" are all the obstacles that stand between you and overcoming the crisis such as the loss of a job or the death of a loved one or an illness, the summit is mental wellness, and the person belaying you is the therapist.
While your therapist doesn't tell you how to feel, what to think, or what conclusions to come to, they are there as a constant support to figuratively catch you should you have any setbacks during your journey. They keep you safe and secure by "holding the rope" so that you do not plummet, and so you can resume where you left off whenever you are ready.
You can absolutely achieve wellness on your own, or "free climb", but the trek will be significantly more difficult, and there will be no one "on the ground" to spot an easier path or remind you of different techniques you can implement to overcome those problem areas. So even though you are the one doing all the work, your therapist is an integral part of your team, who spots the problem areas ahead of time and assists in identifying the various tools you can use to get past them. In essence, they help you work through the problems in this way, without actually pulling or pushing you up the side of the "mountain". This is how you gain the strength and coping tools needed to persevere toward this summit and all future summits. Thus, rock climbing has taught me that when you replace "I" with "we", mental illness truly does become mental wellness❤
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Being gentle with ourselves can be really tough especially when we reflect back and judge ourselves. It is so easy to be mad at ourselves for not knowing things when we were younger. But it has to be that way. If we already knew everything, there would be no room for us to grow in this life. Please share something helpful or useful you have learned along the way. We can learn so much from each other!
Thanks to you all. Thanks for how you have been working to support each other!
Speaking of thanks for all, I was hoping we could acknowledge everyone who comments below in this post and others. I know it seems like a small gesture, but many people here have never opened up to anyone before and being open and honest with strangers can be quite scary. So, if we could show our gratitude by giving their comment or new post a simple ❤️or reply I’m sure they would really appreciate your support.
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Ever gotten something you wanted, and it didn't give you the happiness you were expecting? Or you got something you didn't want, and you loved it? We assume we know what is good for us but life has a way of surprising us all the time. Does anyone have a story where this sort of unexpected result happened?
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I believe in our society there are awful expectations and perceptions for how men should carry themselves and act. I believe that this is not helpful at all, but actually harmful and it can leave permanent scars. Do you cry? Do you let yourself show emotions? Do you talk about your feelings? Do you believe it’s ok to not be ok?
When my father died and we scattered his ashes, and then later when we had a ritual ceremony when we planted a tree in his honor, I found that I couldn’t cry (in public.) I consider myself very in touch with my emotions, spiritual, and connected with other’s energy and experiences… and different than my father, my grandfather, his father and so on, but yet at these moments I found a part of me holding back tears…not intentionally in the moment, but it just happened.
Later in therapy I talked about, and tried to work through, these scenarios. He reminded me that when I left my parent’s house, having just seen my Dad in his last days, or after he died, that I usually broke down in tears on the road home and often had to pull over, just so I could actually see…and he reminded me that when I was watching sports by myself after he died I turned to high five him after our teams scored like we always did, but he wasn’t there and I broke down in tears; and that many times sporadically out of nowhere I broke down in tears…in private moments, alone (where no one could see) We discussed that in some ways this was ok…that I was just a private person.
But I couldn’t accept this, I delved deeper. I talked to my Aunt (his sister) and I realized I had never seen my Dad cry, and she explained that my family lineage on his side was very patriarchal, stoic and strong, and that she never saw her father cry too. I learned from her that it just wasn’t acceptable for these men to show emotions. She said this might explain why I didn’t cry…that is just what men in my family didn’t do for decades. This deeply saddened me and I felt ashamed that I was like this too, didn’t show emotions and was stoic and strong.
But I didn’t see it as being strong. I saw it as a sign of weakness…a sign that they were unable to connect with their emotions and in holding back became more hardened and became so unemotional that they weren’t actually strong in my judgement. So for now I can’t let myself cry, can’t make myself cry, but… I can say it’s ok to have the feelings that come up for me. It might be that I am so conditioned that I can’t do this in public, but I am ok that these are more private emotions…for now … but I hope over time this will shift.
However I do talk about my feelings, I do make myself vulnerable at times and I do ask for help when I go to therapy, work with my Life Coach, and go to my Men’s Group. In these spaces I do go deep exploring my nature, my make up, what makes me tick…challenging myself with difficult questions. I also do challenge & support others and hopefully help them get in touch with their emotions too. I may not cry in public but I do know for sure that I have done more “work” on myself than other men in my family, and mostly not been afraid to see what comes up! It’s ok to not be ok. It’s ok to cry.
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We love reading your posts, seeing your smiling faces and hearing your stories. Good or bad, what we share with each other is vital to making a difference as this community was designed to find others who are living with multiple health challenges like we all do. These combined together can make our lives unmanageable, and Moshe started the group to create a community so we can empathize and support each other. It started with a modest goal of finding 20-30 people who walk similar paths of the same or different physical and/or mental problems. But now we are excited to have had all of you join us and feel very blessed that so many of you have found us here!!! We’re honored to now be a part of a group that is growing rapidly, and having new people post and follow our posts.
Over this time we have made over 100 posts ourselves with memes and images, sharing our stories: what we’ve been through, how we have struggled, what we have learned, and what has helped us along the way. Some of our posts have new writing pieces that are pretty deep and we try to be as open and honest as we can be. Other posts simply have a few sentences reflecting on the meme or the image. And we’ve offered a number of questions which have encouraged great discussions. We would be honored if you were to scroll down and find the posts, which all have an image or meme.
Many current and new members have also shared their stories, struggles, frustration, worry, fear, and lessons learned & successes. We all try to acknowledge, relate, empathize and support each other. It takes courage to share with strangers but we are non-judging, accepting and supportive of each other. We would love to see more posts from all of you so we can get to know each other, and/or please respond to each other's posts with a ❤️or a comment. When you create a new post sharing your picture or adding an image at the top attracts more attention, and then hashtags at the end reach other groups with members who share similar challenges like you do!
We look forward to learning more about you all. We commit to respond to as many posts as we can, always ❤️new ones and try to be there for you. And we will keep making new posts to share and also post questions for you all to engage in conversations.
Sending blessings for great health & healing, peace & serenity and connection & support.
(This collage of pictures shows only Moshe & Chris - Neeta is shy😉)
**Before posting this one of us had all memes and images disappear, but the other said they are all there. If you too can’t see the images please comment or DM one of us as soon as you can! Thanx…**
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Typically when people think self-care hobbies, they think: going to a spa or taking a nap. But what if a rock concert is more your speed? Or bowling? Or deep cleaning? Good news: We are each our own person. Even better news: There is no “right” answer as to what hobbies can and do improve our mental health.
I like listening to or making music on my drum…but recently I’ve found sometimes listening to podcasts can be as enthralling. At the beginning of Covid Stay at home I got some Legos and making things with them was fun and a great distraction…so it was a new artistic one…plus using colored pencils filling in mandalas and tattoo flash was surprisingly therapuetc and calming! What have you found works for you?
Here’s a quick check-in for when you’re feeling self-conscious about your preferences…
Q: Does [insert hobby here] help you when you’re down?
Conclusion: Then you’re doing it right, my friends! (No matter what anyone else believes.)
Share those unexpected hobbies below — we know you got ’em!
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Cheer each other on, lift each other up, and push each other to keep giving our bests! When you reach out to support others the strength you gain can help with depression and/or anxiety you yourself feel. Lend a hand when you think you need one the most. We all have something to offer, we all have been on different journeys, but may have more things in common than you think. What you have gained from holding on in your journey may help someone else when they need it the most and potentially put your situation in different perspective!
We lost my Dad 18 months ago and my Mom is very down, depressed, feeling weak and looking frail and very lonely in the big house they shared together for over 45 years. I want to help and feel a need to make her feel better … sometimes I know what to say and can be there for her, even when I am struggling…but it is important for me to also realize what I’m going through myself is valid and real, and it is ok to focus on my self care, step back and trust that others will be there for her.
In working with my life coach she reminded me how so much of the emotional energy I am spending on supporting her (and a best friend who is also deeply struggling with his addiction) could be spent on taking care of myself…then I can reach out and be that loving supportive person I want to be again. She reminded me of the old story that you are on a plane, it’s about to crash and the masks fall down. For me I then would immediately want to put the mask on my loved one next to be but in reality I can only truly be helpful if I put the mask on myself first! So I have a lot to offer my mom and others but right now I have to make my own self care the priority. There’s a balance between reaching out to support others or knowing when self care has to come first.
Yes, my Mom is really hurting and my first instinct is to rush to her aid, to be there 100% no matter how much time and energy it takes. But I am really struggling myself right now and the most important thing for me is to focus on my own self care! Today was my fifth day in a row with a migraine. They can be brutal, debilitating, not just the pounding headaches, but the incredible sensitivity to light and sound and the vertigo/dizzyness…and I feel weak & fatigued and can even feel worse the day AFTER a migraine; and I have been up at night with other health problems; have tweaked my back; and my Neuropathy has my feet and legs burning as always. These layers of physical health problems have created a window for my depression and emotional weakness to come in. I have to admit that it’s hard to not feel sorry for myself. Yet I have been calling and texting my Mom and my friend and expending time and energy I really don’t have to offer. This is my nature, as usual I have put others needs in front of my own☹️
I ask that if you feel comfortable can you please send me prayers or good energy while I negotiate this time. Today I’m the one needing the support…it is a time I am humbly trying to step back and ask for help…
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To qualify for Disability (SSDI) every few years it's actually my psychiatrist who signs me off. My being Bipolar is what continues to make me eligible. Living as someone who is Bipolar has affected my regular day to day, and week to week functioning and sometimes in the past it has made it very hard to keep a full time job. When I worked with seniors a few years ago I found things had shifted and my stress and anxiety levels were almost unbearable. Trying to lead the events felt like torture many of the times as I prepared to lead the group. This happened more and more often as I've gotten older. I have lost jobs and closed business ventures over the years due to physical or mental health challenges...BUT … my rising up to stay alive by getting (relatively) balanced mentally/emotionally, dealing w/ being HIV+ (37 years) and staying sober (10.5 years) has taken decades of dealing w/ many difficulties, much worry and fear, lack of confidence, very low lows and very high highs and sometimes deep pain & suffering.
I don’t talk, or even write, about my mental health challenges very much. I often judge myself very harshly and beat myself up over things I cannot control. I was born with a chemical imbalance and have struggled with being Bipolar since High School; I don’t talk about being hospitalized during manic episodes or being suicidally depressed; I don’t talk about my successful battles to overcome these past struggles, and working my whole life to get my meds balanced; I don’t talk about my successes because of doing this...not having had a episode and not having been really deeply depressed for decades; I don’t talk about how challenging it was to tweak and adjust my Bipolar medicine cocktail; and I don't talk about living through this and how treating one side can make the other much more pronounced and can make it hard to function.
They are just things I’ve not felt comfortable sharing in the past. I’ve feared judgement and dismissal… but the person who has been judging me the most is ME. Sometimes it’s very hard to be proud and confident. These days sometimes I still struggle with some depressive cycling that can make life difficult and can seem overwhelming. But I’m here today living a full, productive, enjoyable life because of my successes along this path and these days I’m making a choice to be more transparent…to tell my story…partially because it’s NOT JUST MY STORY!
An estimated 1 in 4 adults in America ages 18+ suffer from a diagnosable mental disorder…But it’s when we rise up and conquer them that we can benefit from the growth that has happened along the way. I write to support and help others who are struggling and I hope by sharing about my experiences people with similar paths will feel less alone.
Living with a disability is only part of my story. I also succeed in spite of these challenges. I am just one of millions of success stories of those of us who found a way to survive, to fight, to brave dealing with our challenges and to accomplish more than we first thought was possible. I have a disability but it doesn’t define who I am.
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