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    Coping mechanisms

    I almost dated a guy who found my relentless foot boucing really annoying. Its a coping mechanism I adopted from my Mom. I do it even when I don't necessarily feel anxious, its just comforting. My current boyfriend actually finds it just as comforting as I do. Keep surrounding yourself with people who care. He knows it helps me and he put in the effort to try to understand. Just very thankful for my support system.

    #AnxietyCoping #restless #encouragement #supportsystem


    I'm new here!

    Just wanted to say hello. I was just diagnosed with fibromyalgia in February. I'm pretty new to all of this. I'm happy to finally have some answers. I don't have a support system at home. My husband refuses to believe anything is wrong with me. According to him, "I don't know what real pain feels like." "I'm just lazy." So I'm hoping you all can help me with a support system. #FibromyalgiaDiagnosis #supportsystem

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    Bipolar Steals My Credibility

    Change the language. End the stigma around bipolar.

    Something about buying one of the cars I always dreamed of owning, but having to go through a support system is when each one just flat out asks “are you manic?” It begins to chip away my autonomy. I begin to second guess myself, I begin to doubt that I am capable of living on my own and make grown-up decisions on my own.

    So I sat at the dealer for 6 hours, calling my support system and hearing them say “are you manic?” “you really are crazy.”

    But the thing is- I have admired the WRX for many years, I knew I could get into the same year car as my current with 10k less miles and I could do it while lowering my monthly payment, and finance it on my own without a co-signer.

    It was no longer enjoyable-because now I had to explain my adult choices to the jury.

    And I am automatically guilty because I am Bipolar with no autonomy of my own. My choices are not my own.

    Change the language. End the stigma around bipolar.

    In the end, I got the car. I trusted my instinct to lower my payments, get out from a co-sign, and hear that turbo whistle.

    I agree bipolar should have support. But change the language. Know yourself. Trust your instinct.
    #wrx #Bipolar1 #Bipolar #supportsystem

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    How to ‘be there’ for someone with an anxiety friend/ other half #Anxiety #supportsystem

    Most articles that I’ve read when dealing with anxiety issues’ support system is to ‘be there’ and listen. But how to be a good listener and better support companion for them? #Anxiety #supportsystem

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    When the situation is delicate, how do you grow your support system ?

    My illness induced PTSD has gotten bad lately and my support system is very small ( 3 people total, 1 being my psychologist ). As much as I want to tell some of my friends, I’m afraid to because the things involved with my PTSD are some of the worst days of my life and I can’t have those things just blown over in conversation or become common knowledge to others outside my circle.
    #supportsystem #illnessinducedptsd


    Lack of emotional support

    Every single hospitalization I can remember, my mom didn’t really show emotion, so when I was in pain, going or something traumatic , there was no emotional support. She was always the one to stay overnight in the hospital with me . If you can relate, what did you do? Im thinking that maybe I should just try to find people I’m close to who can provide the emotional support during those times.


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    Does anyone ever worry about overwhelming you’re support system ?

    I’m in the middle of some pretty tough stuff and I worry that those who make up my support system will leave if I contact them too much.



    Reaching out to friends after a depressive episode advice?

    I'll try to keep this as short and to the point as I can. A little over a month ago I stopped trazodone cold turkey (shouldn't have, I know but I couldn't get more due to outside circumstances) and had to deal with nearly 3 weeks of withdrawl symptoms. In addition to this, my depression symptoms came back stronger, the main one being a strong need to isolate myself from everyone and everything. During that time I was fortunate to have 3 friends message me concerned that I hadn't replied to them and wondering if I was ok. Now that I have a little more energy I want to reach out and tell them I'm back and apologize for not talking to them sooner. But the problem is, I'm afraid to tell them why. I'm afraid to tell them about my depression and how bad it can get. One is skeptical of antidepressants in general, one knows I take them but doesn't know a lot of details, and one has trouble "seeing me as" someone with mental illness because apparently I hide it well. I can't just use the "things got busy" excuse. I don't know what to tell them or how much. Any ideas? #Depression #trazodone #selfisolating #supportsystem #Friends #DepressiveEpisodes

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    Unhealthy Weight Loss & Struggling To Recognize It

    It took me a long time to adjust to my body after my medications added on some weight. I never liked my image growing up, a normal thing to deal with, though made worse by back handed compliments and forward insults about what I looked like from my family and bullies. I cared a bit less after having kids, as my priorities changed from myself to family needs, but I was always close to 130lbs in all those years.

    I got on a multitude of prescriptions and my high activity level decreased as my health declined, and my weight plateaued at about 200lbs. My clothes didn't fit right anymore, any toning was gone, and my diet made no difference. This was also the time I was "put" back on the dating market.

    With poor health, kids, and being on the heavier size, I didn't see myself as anything useful or valuable. But my new/current SO has spent the past years helping to fix that, and I have settled into being mostly comfortable in my skin...until now.

    My medications were altered, my exercise has been cautiously upped, and my diet heavily restricted all due to my health taking a plunge off the deep end. My weight going down with it.

    It's wrecking havoc on my mental state in terms of my self-image and, honestly, my pain levels. The more it drops, the more my pain has flared. It isn't a health weight loss, it adds weakness, dizziness and nausea more than usual to my days. I just adjusted to my size, now I'm changing shape again and don't recognize it in the mirror correctly. I'm so hungry.

    Yet I've gotten more comments on my appearance than I have in years.
    "Are you losing weight? You look great!"
    "Look at you! Someone needs to go out on a date!"
    "This is good for your health, you're going to feel better!"

    And every time I well up with tears. I am not trying to look this way. I may lose more food from my diet if not entirely soon. I'm missing out on family dinners and feel like I'm being teased when everyone in the car can order food but I have to take a pill and drink my water and endure the smells. I don't feel good, I hurt and want my food back. I don't feel like me.

    Once so far, at someone I knew, and she knew I was in declining health, I snapped back, "Thanks, it's called not eating!" And yet her reply was to smile, nod, and say she should try some of that then. Already upset, and with family with an anorexic past, it made me angry.

    Stop complimenting my smaller size. I know it's meant in kindness, but the way I am losing it is not healthy, and it's left me in a mess trying to recognize my changing body.

    #WeightLoss #Unhealthy #bodydismorphia #Depression #DietChange #confused #stressed #supportsystem #ChronicIllness #gastrointestinal #Vent


    support system #supportsystem

    feeling so grateful for the support of my husband... his love for me never ceases even in difficult times!! I wanted to post something positive for once!!