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I am a person, I am Fjolla and I am me because of all the people with disability I met during my life and I love me because of them.
But makes no sense if I love me and I will let people judge, discriminate and offend people with disability just because they can.
Imagine people using a diagnosis that USED TO BE a medical term for people with disabilities to offend someone these days, I am talking about the r*tarded word.
It really bothers me to hear people say the R-word but I do listen to how they use it and always speak up to explain why they
shouldn't use it.
Because:

1. R-word means you are not “normal” .
And who decided the norm of normal and why people with disabilities are labeled less human as long as they don't fit their community's social norms?

2. R-word is used to demean; it's used to make someone feel less than human.
People with disability have their diagnosis which is part of them but not their whole life.
Using the wrong label before the person is disrespectful.
We should emphasize they abilities not limitations.

3. R-word is a hate speech; it’s meant to be hurtful.
These days are people who are plain mean and use it with the means to hurt.
People with disability are people with different human abilities, why it's so hard for us to understand that?
They are people first.

4. R-word it’s meant to degrade someone with a learning disability.
People who use the R-word today they forgot that when they used to diagnose people with "mental r*tadion" on early 90s they limited their abilities, people who have no social life and spend thier days within the same walls every single day and by saying that it meant that they are slow, have low intelligence, incapable on their daily basics and back on time that's all parents expected from their kids that time.
If we want people to have higher expectation of people with disability, we can’t allow the world unlicensed to perceive them as stupid, less, delayed, ohh... how cruel and limiting that word is!

5.R- word it’s used when they want to make fun of someone of offend them for acting weird.
Our understanding moves on so should our expectation of language that is linked to people with disabilities.
If someone acts funny or looks funny to you there are a lot of words that you can used it: looks ridiculous, that's silly, that's foolish..

6.R-word it’s disgusting, it is basically saying "you are as bad as a person with disabilities" .
We say that people with disability have their own way of thinking, have thier own self-stimulating behaviors, sometimes a different way of showing thier feelings, being non-verbal, have they own world and imagination, walk a certain way or not walking at all, speak and get things very literally, need more time to understand things or a situation. but what is bad in all of these things and why we should compare their own being with something or someone who is or does bad things ??

Quite often when I feel stuck and unable to get anywhere in my mind (just like I was in my driveway the other day😅), I come to the Mighty.
It is like there are people pushing me out of the snow or shovel the way so I am able to go somewhere else in my mind again.
And also being able to share my experience with others and commenting on their posts makes me feel worthy and seen.
Thank you all so very very much for this experience! And it is only happening because of you! You are awesome, wonderful, loved and worthy!
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That is enough

Most, if not all of us believe what I call the beautiful lie.
The lie says this is what really counts: to be wealthy, powerful, influential, attractive, admired, talented, popular, and, above all, valuable. We must make a life that is worth something to others. Worth more than others. The world screams at us to hurry up and matter. Our lives become a reaction to this lie.
According to the lie, we must not be nothings. To be good for nothing is to be as good as dead. And death is what we fear most. The death that says our lives have no value.
So we thrash about in a pool of comparison and one-upmanship. Our lives become burdened by the heaviness of getting it right. Our joy becomes brittle, and our hearts slowly break. The only possible outcome of this hurry-up-and-matter hustle is the slow crushing of our souls.
But God offers real life, where our brokenness is redeemed. He says we can abandon society’s beautiful lie and allow him to breathe new life into us, his beloved.
I think of the passage in Ezekiel where the Lord leads the prophet through a valley. Ezekiel wrote: “God’s Spirit took me up and set me down in the middle of an open plain strewn with bones. He led me around and among them—a lot of bones! There were bone all over the plain—dry bones, bleached by the sun” (37:1-2, msg). That’s our condition. We’re like dead, dry bones.
And yet God tells Ezekiel to prophesy—to reveal something by divine inspiration—over these bleached and broken things. The prophet does. And in the story the bones come alive. Broken things are made beautiful.
Here’s the point: God breathes life into our dead and imperfect things. So if we feel that we don’t measure up, that doesn’t mean we have to climb onto the build-your-worth treadmill. We already have worth. In God’s eyes. By his doing. And our worth is permanent, lasting far longer than any worldly attempt to uphold the beautiful lie could ever last.
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