It can be said that abuse survivors often find their voice in speaking up. Some may speak up right away, others don't speak up for years after. For me, I didn't speak up until a few years ago. The abuse started when I was a child and carried on into adulthood. I am not sure why I didn't speak up sooner, I think maybe it's because I didn't know I was being abused. Now, after being out of the situation and working towards processing the trauma and my experiences I can say that speaking up has been one of the best things I could have done. It gave me a voice to my story and it gives me the motivation to keep healing. I am not saying that speaking up is for everyone, only that it has helped me. If you don't want to go to the authorities then tell a trusted friend or family member if you can. Telling anyone lifts the burden off your shoulders and you no longer have to carry the secret of the abuse with you. Guilt and shame are not yours to carry around. It took me a long time to reach a point where I can put the blame on my abusers. My hope is that I can be a voice for others and show them that they are in charge of their lives. You can live a happy and fulfilling life despite what was done to you. The trauma was not your responsibility but now you must take charge of your own healing. *Disclaimer: If you are in a physically unsafe situation then please seek help. No one deserves to be abused, ever.* Use your voice for your healing, even just writing it out can be liberating. I use writing all the time and it has helped tremendously. Whatever works for you, do it. Give a voice to your pain and allow yourself the grace to heal. There is no shame in speaking up. But only do so if you are safe. Stay thankful and blessed my friends:)
The best choice of letting something go I've made was my previous two workplaces. They taught me invaluable life lessons, but it was time to go after a year or a year and a half, and I am thankful I did. If I had stayed, I would have missed out on the current wonderful opportunities I have. #thankful #Opportunity #Reflection #encouragement
It's amazing what our brains can do. If we feed it something positive it can change our whole outlook. I recently typed up some affirmations revolving round trauma healing. But affirmations can be anything that motivates you and makes you feel good about yourself. They say it's important to recite them as much as possible. Repeating my affirmations affirms in me that the abuse wasn't my fault and that healing is possible. What do affirmations mean to you? Blessings friends:)
Last night, I was taught a harsh truth. One that I was't prepared to hear but a truth nonetheless. I know I wrote about the sadness of coming from a broken family, but after much thought that truth struck a chord with me. Why cry over someone that wouldn't cry over you? What is there to miss about an abusive situation? I really had to think about these questions. My conclusion is that there is nothing to miss. Though I do miss a particular sibling I know that I will see him again some day. It's just a matter of time. Which brings me to my next point, mentality. I learned to turn my sadness into motivation to make myself better. Instead of wallowing in sadness I have decided to better myself. So you see? You can wallow in negativity or turn it into motivation for something else. It really is about how you look at life. I am so thankful for learning this truth. I am not sad anymore as I have turned it into motivation and determination. So if you are struggling, think about the lesson the emotion is teaching you. Then convert that emotion into something else. It is possible. I am so thankful for my family and all their love for me. I really am. So this thanksgiving, let's be thankful for the positives in our lives and spread this positivity. Wishing you all a safe and happy Thanksgiving. Blessings my friends:)
Thank you all for your words of encouragement. I really appreciate them, they lifted my spirits. I am feeling much better. Like the depression is lifting. I just hope I don't go into a manic episode. I am thankful for having a wonderful support system like this and my family. Combined with your encouragement and lifestyle changes I overcame the darkest part of the depression. Thank you all again. Healing is possible and the PTSD didn't get triggered today:) I'm sharing this to let you know that you can come out of your darkest times. Keep shining:) Also much love to my fiancé.
How do you cope with sadness during the holidays? I love the holidays but the sadness of coming from a broken family still makes me sad, especially around this time of year. Don't get me wrong, I love my fiancé's family. They're wonderful and they love me. However, for some reason seeing all these happy families makes me sad. Perhaps it's a trigger but nonetheless it is still upsetting. Even though I am part of an awesome family now there is a sadness that lingers. It makes me realize how broken my family really was. I appreciate your feedback. Thank you.
Depression is really getting to me. Could use some words of encouragement. I love inspiring others but I could use some inspiration right now. Please leave a message of encouragement and or inspiration. I want to see how many people will respond. Thank you all in advance.
I enjoy self-reflection because it allows me the opportunity to really look at what I have been through. I wrote earlier about how outlook can change things. While I cannot say I am thankful for having been abused, I am thankful for the lessons it has taught me. It has taught me many things about people and about life. But it has also shown me that I am not the things they said I was. That I can use the experiences of the abuse to heal and thrive despite what they did. I am thankful for the lessons it has taught me because without it I may not be where I am today. I might not be in the loving relationship I am in now, be living where I am or be surrounded by a loving family if I had not spoken up about the abuse. Speaking up was scary but that too taught me things-that I am brave. If I had not spoken up I do not want to think about what my life might be like. I do know however that I can be thankful even in the midst of hardship. I am thankful for the life I have now and those in it. So while I did not appreciate the abuse, I appreciate what it taught me. You see? You can even be grateful for the lessons the hard things in life teaches you. Life can be a cruel teacher sometimes but a teacher nonetheless. I am pushing forward each day while reminding myself of this new revelation. And so can you. No matter what you have been through- there is a lesson to be grateful for.
New here :) I’m happy to join, hope everyone is doing well, I struggle with General Anxiety Disorder mainly but Depression as well, I’m happy I’m not alone, and able to seek help here and other resources
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