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I just had to state this..I thought this was a safe site? I’ve had a couple of men trying to contact me on here and it’s with a initial “hello,” want to chat or whatever..One asked to be my counselor/therapist. I have a therapist I’m quite happy with. She’s my true self-help, and my guide, at this current time in my life.

I’m leery of men contacting me. It could be because I have this radar that says: they’re trying trying to “get” with me? Is that an unfair assesment,maybe, but it’s happened to me many times in life. It could be because of my past trauma.? It could be because they think I’m weak or vulnerable? I’m not..I’ve survived a lot in life; I’ve been on the planet quite awhile.

I’ve been happily married to the same man for over 40 years! We’re great! I don’t need another relationship!

If your intentions had some underlying motive or aim, here isn’t the place to sow that. Please, go to a dating site or somewhere else and do that..#stop #Abuse #lonely

I’m suffering! I’m avoiding going to sleep, or taking a lot of sleeping meds with muscle relaxers. I’m not an addic but I’m afraid I will get addicted. It runs in my family big time. What do you do to combat? Thinking I can win or rewriting the story isn’t working. I have all kinds of sensory things to comfort me. The trauma terrors still rage! #stop night terrors #Night terror #nightterrors

I’m suffering! I’m avoiding going to sleep, or taking a lot of sleeping meds with muscle relaxers. I’m not an addic but I’m afraid I will get addicted. It runs in my family big time. What do you do to combat? Thinking I can win or rewriting the story isn’t working. I have all kinds of sensory things to comfort me. The trauma terrors still rage! #stop night terrors #Night terror #nightterrors

Does anyone suddenly spiral out of control fly off the handle and feel like they can’t control it?
Do you know how many ideas of how to get yourself to #stop doing that??

Since two or three days, I don’t feel so good. Is it my fibromyalgia, my BPD or simply the fact that my children chose to be estranged to their father and me?

I can’t say for sure but I decided to go on strike and say to the rest of the world: “fudge you, you are nothing to me!” Which of course is not true as my heart is full of hurt from the loss of my parents when I was young and the “loss” of my children by their choice of life.

So strike it is, with my husband of 23 years, who knows me very well, taking care of my physical needs and emotional ones, as much as he can.

I decided to stay in bed. Not to lay and cry although I gave myself permission too, but to lick my wounds, take care of myself with lot of sleep, reading, funny movies, tele series, animal documentaries, biographies, light food ( junk food does not appeal to me)and coffee.

It’s been 3 days now and I am recovering from that dark hole that was trying to swallow me.
I kept contact with my sisters and best friends but did not talk about what I was going through: they heard me retell the same ole story over and over. I try to give them a break and also be there for them. And I am a good friend. One good point for me!

Oh! And I was not alone: beside God who is always with me, He made sure that my dog and at least one of my cats staying with me in bed, close to me. So I am in good company.
I don’t know how much longer I’ll be here and it doesn’t matter: I’m getting better by doing what I’m doing right now.

Will it work if it happens in the future again? I don’t know as I live a day at a time.
Why? I can’t do nothing about the past but learn from it and I have no power over the future neither. All I can do is CARPE DIEM.

DORA

It greatly saddens me when I read how some parents of adult children take on all their child’s pain and sometimes selfish tendencies. Parents please stop saying that no one understands your adult child like you do. You will be suprised and relieved when you give said choices to your child making them more personally responsible. It can be touch and go but your mental health is at issue if you don’t.