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nighttime.

Tonight is rough, #arguments stringing throughout my house, yelling in one ear and out the other, glass breaking, harsh things no one means being said, so i locked myself in my room. my #Anxiety is through the roof right now, i want to go get in the middle of the #Argument but i know it will only make matters worse. Getting #high is the only escape i have now.

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Help. My parents want to force me going over my limits! #help #GettingHelp #Parents #LifelimitingIllness #limits #JuvenileIdiopathicArthritis #Pain

My parents and I recently had a pretty heavy discussion about me not doing enough exercise. They think I should just go through the pain and it will get better and I could do more without being exhausted or in unbearable pain. I know that it won't and I also know that I already do more than I should every day to just live a nearly normal life. But it doesn't matter what I say, they think they are always right. Now I convinced them to discuss it with my therapist, kinda because I don't want to face my parents alone.
Nobody needs to tell me that exercising with a chronic disease is good. I know that, I hear it everyday. But I also now that I can't take it for long to ignore my limitations. I will just pass out at one point. It will be too much pain and exhaustion.
I really need your help. You can just comment things from your experience, from others or what you read or heard about this topic (pls no "exercise is good" comments) and I would be pretty thankful. The best would be links (articles or videos) that could help. I just need more things (coming from others) that I can say to my parents because apparently it doesn't matter what I say. #ChronicHealthConditions #Exercise #Pain condition #arguments

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Relationship Advice?

How do you resolve and find closure after an argument with your significant other? Let’s say, for example — you both identified the cause of the argument. Lack of communication and not expressing how you felt altered your mood, which your loved one noticed... asked what was wrong. You stubbornly claim nothing is wrong, as you fear saying “you doing _____ made me feel upset” will provoke an argument. So, you choose your battles. Ultimately, after five hours of shoving your emotions down — the very argument you dreaded in the first place ensues. Only, it’s intensified because you waited so long to say anything. Twenty minutes after arguing, your SO goes downstairs in the house. You remain upstairs because you fear going downstairs will precipitate further arguing — or worse, he will return upstairs just to get away from you. You have difficulty handling rejection, due to your abandonment issues. So, you text instead. You sit in the same house as your partner but you’re communicating through text as if you were miles away. Metaphorically, he does feel miles away. Your email text says something along the lines of, “I see we failed at communication today and it led to this series of events. Let’s not let it ruin our entire day, why don’t we chalk it up to a learning experience? In the future, we will remember how awful today was as a direct result of not communicating — and it will inspire us to express ourselves better. We can’t change the past but we are responsible for how we handle the present. I love you.” He responds and says something like “My days fucked. Going to sleep.” You glare at the clock, it’s 3pm. You text repeatedly with kind, encouraging words — desperately seeking closure. Failing over and over. An hour has passed. He is still downstairs. You are on the upstairs couch, the same spot the argument occurred. You have yet to move.

How would you all handle this? #Relationships #arguments #fighting #Depression #lackofcommunication #Anxiety #help

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How do I tell my Austic roommate/ best friend that I don’t know if we can be roommates?

My best friend and college roommate has #Autism . I wanted to move off campus with her because I thought it would solve all our #Problems . Now, we’ve been getting into #arguments . I’ve been yelled at as I walked out my dorm room. In lots of ways I’ve even become her parent. I’ve cleaned up after her, turned in all her paper work to the apartment company, and accommodated so much. I’ve been there for her when she breaks down in tears. But it’s becoming exhausting for me. There isn’t any reciprocity either. How do I tell her I dont want to be roommates but remain friends without hurting her?

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