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I’m confused? #ObsessiveCompulsiveDisorder #MentalHealth

So lately i've been resisting the urge to fight a video that OCD wants me to see and every time I see it, the urge doesn't leave and only gets stronger. I saw a post from someone saying a technique they use before they do a compulsion is to delay it and then do it and constantly delay it more every time until they don't do it anymore. OCD is using this against me so it gives me a reason to watch it and it's telling me that it's the only way l'll get over it.
Do listen to it or do I still resist and fight it because I know i'll get over it if i do that. #GettingHelp

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Is anyone else experiencing this when posting in groups?

Hi all,

Something weird is happening with the daily post in the type 2 diabetes community. Last week, I’ve written several posts that were for this community and it’s showing up on my personal account. This also happened yesterday when I thought I’ve posted the Tuesday question here.

So if you’ve noticed that there is a lag in the daily posts, this is likely the reason.

I’m not sure why this is happening, but I attend to reach out later today about this.

Has anyone else experienced this when posting in various groups?



Back for a break up rant

!!!! Trigger warning !!!! Self harm !!!!

Got drunk, eight big 60mls, two joints and a blunt later, my thumb's muscle memory dialled him up. Remembering your ex's number is a tough thing. He came over to talk. Told me about everything he did! What he hid from, what he was feeling, why he pushed me all over again, his family issues..... his self harm and suicide ideation. And that he's getting help and is two sessions down. A lot more of those for him to go. He kept apologising, kept asking me to be mad at him. I already forgive him. Maybe I'm just too understanding (People pleaser tendencies? Savior complex?)

He told me around the lines of "I'm not healthy for you. And i don't want to hurt you again. So i left, pushed you away and didn't contact you."
Is it wrong for me to contact him? Have hopes? I care about him but i don't love him. Every time he told me he still loves me, i would cry out of guilt because i can't reciprocate his feelings. Why is it that every time i finally start get better he starts to get worse? And when he's getting better taking help, and steps I'm already gone, boundaries concrete thick.

I went over to his place so we could talk more. I opened the door to broken wine glasses with dried blood on a few shards. Puke on the side of his bed, cut up beer cans and bottles of wine. He cut himself. On his thighs and stomach, they did not seem deep enough to have caused too much blood loss, but still!

I still care about him. Could this be my savior complex? Because i don't love him the way i used to. But at the back of my head i have hope, not for us to get together, but for his recovery. He hasn't told anyone when or whom he's going to for therapy. I suggested to go with him, so it can maybe speed it up? Ik they call the clients family, friends etc to get a better understanding. I'm all up for it!
But i don't want to get together with him. I need to put myself first. But will time-limited-text-only be okay? Will it give him the wrong idea? What if he puts his entire direction to healing and growing enough so he doesn't hurt me. But will contact during this process hurt him? When he clearly has feeling for me. But i don't..... Not romantically at least.

Guide me Mighty! PLEASE!

#Relationships #relationshipanxiety #Anxiety #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Selfharm #GettingHelp #Loneliness #Anxiousattachment

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Just a little help

I’m not sure which would be better medication for BPD or just therapy. I was given antidepressants and anxiety meds and mood stabilizers… years ago and they only made me worse. But now I’m so emotional I can’t even make to job interviews or dr appointments. I feel like I’ve overwhelmed myself but I’m not sure how, and idk how to fix it or make it better. I just want to be a functioning member of society but I can’t even function or feel like a part of society.

#BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #treatment #Therapy #Medication #help #PTSD #BipolarDisorder #Anxiety #Depression #notme

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My mom was told she doesn’t qualify for shoulder replacement because she is in a wheelchair. #Advice #GettingHelp #CharcotMarieToothDisease

My mom just has X-rays taken of her shoulders because they have been causing extreme pain in her arms. The doctors basically said her shoulders are so bad from arthritis that she’d need to have replacement surgery. The recovery stage involves not leaning on her shoulders so they told her that she does not qualify to get surgery because she is chair bound. In other words she is going to have to live with the pain for the rest of her life. Has anyone experienced this before? I just find it crazy that in today’s world, they haven’t figured out a way to be inclusive when it comes to helping people like my mom. Anyone have any thoughts or any advice on where to go from here?

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The article below is full of great ideas on how to find a good new doctor…please add your own experiences, tips and suggestions

Great article that talks about the importance of good bedside manner, doctors that listen, checking your insurance at the start of your search, asking good questions and do your homework of course! It has lots of good ideas especially at the end under “Finding a good fit”…like…

“…During that first visit, think about how the doctor and office staff make you feel, HHS advises. If the doctor doesn’t make you feel comfortable, show respect for what you have to say, know your medical history, and spend enough time with you, then they might not be the one for you.”

Castle Connolly Survey Asks What Patients Want Most From Their Doctors

#MentalHealth #Depression #Anxiety #Disability #PTSD #Selflove #Selfcare #ChronicIlless #ChronicPain #BipolarDisorder #Bipolar2Disorder #Bipolar1Disorder #BipolarDepression #COVID19 #Migraine #Headache #PeripheralNeuropathy #Concussion #BrainFog #ParkinsonsDisease #balance #EssentialTremors #Memory #Addiction #AddictionRecovery #HIVAIDS #longtermsurvivor #ADHD #RareDisease #ChronicFatigue #IfYouFeelHopeless #Hope #Faith #FuriouslyHappy #Belief #Love #help #GettingHelp #InsideTheMighty #TheMighty #MightyTogether #DistractMe

Castle Connolly Survey Asks What Patients Want Most From Their Doctors

Finding a doctor seems to be harder than ever, but it’s still a top priority for the majority of people, according to a recent survey.
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Manic Crash or Depression? #BipolarDisorder

Coming down from a manic episode, feel so tired. Is this just a crash from the manic "up period" or am I going into a depressed episode? Is it inevitable or can I have a period of stability? That would be nice. LOL. I feel like everything is going so slow now. I'm doin g my best to practice self-care, for example I let myself sleep in (when I usually wake up super early). Anyone else with Bipolar suddenly come down from their manic episodes or is it gradual? Thanks for your input. It is appreciated.

#BipolarDisorder #GettingHelp #Depression #down #laughter #CheckInWithMe

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It Just Hits

Perhaps listening to music about child abuse isn't the most helpful but it did remind me of something. When the #SexualAbuse started I was a child. It is easier for me to say that I was sexually assaulted an adult than it is for me to say I was abused as a child. Child abuse just makes me cringe as it would with anyone. Sometimes it just hits you all over again. Those same emotions that I felt as a child, I feel again as an adult. Experiencing #EmotionalAbuse didn't help either. I now understand the effects it has had on me, not only was I diagnosed with #PTSD but it has taken a toll on my emotions (#BipolarDisorder and my personality #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder ) I understand that some of these disorders are inherited but I can't help but think that some of them are caused by my trauma. I know I am a survivor but that doesn't make it any easier. I've come far in my healing journey but I still stall and fall apart some days. I guess I shouldn't be so harsh on myself, after all it wasn't my fault but it still hits hard. What do you do on days like this?

#Abuse #AbuseSurvivors #PTSD #SexualAbuse #EmotionalAbuse #Childhoodtrauma #sad #GettingHelp #CheckInWithMe

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Sometimes I’m done…Sometimes I keep going #MentalHealthAwareness

Sometimes I think I’m so done with everything. My anxiety gets in the way of what I want and need to do. It’s begun to take a toll on my physical health. Sometimes I think I’m so done with healing from years of trauma and abuse. I’ve been in therapy for years and while I’ve done well, I sometimes feel like I’m stalling. Sometimes the Bipolar Disorder gets in the way too and having Borderline Personality doesn’t help either. People think I have multiple personalities and I’m tired of explaining that I don’t. Sometimes I’m so done with the mania and depression that I curse myself for having Bipolar. Sometimes I’m so done with the little things, like how mania makes me anxious and how depression makes me borderline suicidal. Sometimes I’m so done with people not listening and not caring (not including my fiancé and his family) just more in general. And sometimes I keep going. I don’t know how or why but I do. I keep getting up and trying to stay active. I try to appear normal. Whatever that means. I try to heal so I don’t mistreat someone else. I try to stay emotionally stable so I don’t appear unbridled. I try to attend therapy so that I can learn skills that will help me. I try to keep up with my meds because apparently if someone with mental illness isn’t medicated, they’re crazy or dangerous. (I personally don’t believe this). So I keep going. And so should you.

#BipolarDisorder #PTSD #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Anxiety #SexualTrauma #EmotionalAbuse #GettingHelp #CheckInWithMe #Asthma #physicalhealth #Motivation

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