Can you Help me please ?
I need some Advice...level of urgency:IMMEDIATE
Well ..my best friend...rather my closest to heart friend ..from my diagnosis she is suffering from severe anxiety and histrionic personality disorder which she is positively unaware of ...some common sources I have identified from observing her is...
Her family relation ...her relationship with her father is imbalanced and often get into fits...she has a hatred towards her father.
She is way dominant towards her mother and often uses her voice and physice to dominate her .
Her only loved one was her grandmother and she would often go to her house to stay...she was brought up mostly by her grandmother but due to unknown reasons she hasn't been visiting as she would .
Her relationship with me is of open and depth...she often and rather always calls me up during her emotional unstabilitys
But whenever she has to face some challenges or any sort of work or assessment she resorts to writing a message bidding farewell and how her surrounding is the cause of her current mental status.
She expects her decisions to be the sole decision ...
Currently board examination and college admissions too have taken a toll.
She often ends up writing messages of long lengths to seek attention and sympathy by referring to her trying to attempt suicide ...take pills etc.
She has a real bad mouth as in ...her respect towards authoritative figures or anyone is really low.
She feels the more she acts the rude and foul mouthed the more attention she would get
She even has started assorting to taking and also continuing to intake alcohol and smoke...she has developed an excessive need to try any and every thing that might affect her health .
She has become adamant and suspicious of her own parents.
She cannot think of situations practically but often go outside her practical and comfort thinking to wierd and really impossible thought.
She highlights anything and everything as a triggering element ... including me ...Me helping her in studies ... correcting her rude and arrogant behaviour ..any thing i try to do
Any opinion or well wishing from me or her closed ones makes her feel that we are going against her thoughts and trying to prevent her from achieving what she wants ... What do you think ? How should I comfort her through whatsapp chat or message ...because I am not a person who can console somebody well through calls..and often have my practical reality checks saying out loud while talking...
She has become obsessively insecure about her body ..so and so that she is yapping constantly about how surgries would help
she feels everyone is agaiinst her and relies more on the social media world ..the fake standards put up by it...
i cant even stop... like i am seeing a gradual decrease in her lifetsyle every day and i really need to make her aware that what I or her family is trying to tell or do is not bad ... its just ... i really want my old best friend ..my sister back !!
Please help me . I know helpline numbers exist but I don't want those...as a sister to her how should I approach and change her and tell her it's her who can change herself..and that it's all she who is preventing herself from achieving greatness.
I REALLY NEED SOME GUIDANCE BECAUSE I AM ALSO JUST 18 .. AND TO ...TO HELP AND GUIDE HER PROFFESSIONALLY I AM DEFINITELY NOT SO PROFFICIENT . ..AND SHE ALSO DOESNT WANT PROFFESIONAL HELP ..BUT I WANT HER TO ACHIEVE HER GOALS ..SEE HER IMPROVING IN HEALTH BOTH MIND AND BODY...