Histrionic Personality Disorder

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    HPD !

    A man walks into your house wearing a heavy gold chain around his neck and a Rolex watch. He tells you he is the mayor’s closest friend. He has come to your house to introduce himself because he has heard that you are the president of the local chamber of commerce.

    A woman walks up to you on the street and says she loves your purse. She has just bought a Chanel on her most recent trip to Paris.

    In either instance, chances are that you have encountered the classic histrionic personality disorder.

    This person exhibits a chronic pattern of attention seeking and excessive emotionality consisting of at least five of the following:

    Discomfort when not the center of attention

    Exhibition of seductive or provocative behavior

    Shallow expression of emotions

    Drawing attention to self through physical appearance

    Speech that is excessively impressionistic, and lacking in detail

    Overly dramatic presentation

    Easily influenced

    Relatively shallow relationships

    These individuals may be described as requiring “high maintenance.”

    This person will often change his/her mind and requires you to abide by their changing decisions. He/she is swayed by the latest fad so that all within their sphere of influence are required to keep up with the Jones. They can embarrass you with their attention-seeking mode of dress e.g., plunging necklines or too tight pants. He/she is fickle and shallow and needs to be calmed down at times. Flattery must be constant.

    These individuals are too insecure to carry on an adult relationship. They play head games. Life is one big soap opera. As a partner, you will need to instruct them as to how to display appropriate behavior and keep them calm.

    I find the histrionic personality a sad person to treat. I perceive that they have an un-fillable hole of attention deficit. There is a never-ending need for attention and psychological stroking. It probably is rooted in extreme insecurity related to a past in which a parental figure either was not physically or psychologically present. This may also be that the person was raised on the shallow principle of you are what you own.

    These individuals come to my office after a romantic disappointment or a financial set back. They have either alienated a significant other through inordinate demands for attention or have spent too much money to support an ostentatious lifestyle.

    It is not difficult to establish a therapeutic relationship because of this client’s need for attention. They love talking about themselves. What is more difficult to do is to determine the source(s) of their insecurities. These are painful memories difficult to discuss. The therapist must also help the client to reestablish appropriate priorities.

    Like most other personality disorders, the histrionic personality client may require depth therapy for two or three years. It will be a difficult task even if the therapist is experienced and empathetic. Also like other personality disorders, the histrionic personality disordered client requires the most artful of therapists to walk the line between breaking down defenses and being emotionally supportive.

    For Those Recovering From HPD

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    #HistrionicPersonalityDisorder #Histrionic #PersonalityDisorders


    My Life As A Borderline: The Stigma, Hate, and How I Found The Light

    Part 1 of 2 I was diagnosed as a #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder personality in my early 30s, but I had been experiencing “symptoms” since age 12. After telling me about BPD, and going through the criteria, the therapist told me he wouldn’t treat me. I lived with seven of the nine criteria of BPD for nearly 30 years before I found someone willing to help me.

    My mom was a borderline, as was her mom. Grandma Dorie was abandoned as a baby and adopted by my great-grandparents. She didn’t find out about any of this until a few years before she died. My grandmother beat my mom, while my grandfather abused Mom psychologically. Oh, right, Grandpa John. His mom died when he was a toddler, his father remarried, and pretty much ignored my grandfather for the majority of his life. So both my mom’s parents were abandoned as children.

    When my mom was about six, my grandparents dropped her off at an orphanage as “punishment.” They left her there for a few hours, then came back and picked her up. Later in life, my grandfather would tell that story as a joke. I truly believe this was the event that broke my mother.

    Both my mom and grandmother were borderline mothers. Grandma Dorie was the witch and the queen, while my mom was the witch, the queen, and the waif. My mother was narcissistic, manipulative, cruel, and incapable of unconditional love. Unlike my grandmother, though, my mother could also appear helpless and in constant need of the love she was unable to give. It was a horrible way to grow up.

    Let’s skip over the three decades I spent self-harming, the two suicide attempts, the #EatingDisorders , the #Trauma I’ve survived, and fast forward to the moment I found Bert. Bert was a therapist in Vermont who specialized in treating borderlines. I began individual therapy, group therapy, and dialectical behavior therapy or DBT. My husband would help me with my DBT workbooks, he went to therapy with me, he listened and learned and supported me. And I got better.

    I graduated from therapy and DBT, but life happens, so I needed another therapist after we moved to Minnesota. Eventually, I found Dave. Dave helped me through the residual effects of my mother’s death, he helped me with the Children’s Theatre lawsuit, and he’s still available if I need a refresher.

    The clinical term for my status with BPD is “borderline in remission.” I cannot stand this term, because it implies that all my criteria can come back at any moment, destroy my life, and I have no control over any of it. Which, frankly, is bullshit. But I think I know why mental health professionals use this language.

    Earlier this year, I was watching a documentary about a psychiatric hospital. At one point, the filmmaker speaks with a woman who is either a psychiatrist or a psychiatric nurse. He asks her about BPD, to which she responds (and this is verbatim), “Borderline Personality Disorder is the only fatal mental illness.”

    There it is. Borderlines can never recover, we are only in remission. BPD is fatal. This also explains the stigma attached to BPD from so many mental health professionals. Why should they treat people with BPD when we’re just going to kill ourselves? Therapists who refuse to treat borderlines are actively creating scenarios where people with BPD will experience thoughts of self-harm and/or suicidal ideation. Just food for thought.

    And now we come to Depp v Heard, the defamation trial currently taking place in Virginia. Johnny Depp is suing his ex-wife, Amber Heard, and last week, Depp’s attorneys called a psychologist to the stand. The psychologist revealed she had administered psychological tests to Heard, including the MMPI-2 and tests for PTSD. After evaluating the results and speaking with Heard, the psychologist determined Heard has #HistrionicPersonalityDisorder (which I had to look up), and that Heard is a borderline.

    The second the psychologist stated Amber Heard has BPD, I looked up at the ceiling, sighed, and said “Well, here we go.” Suddenly, drama channel hosts had somehow gotten a PhD in psychology overnight, social media was rife with misinformation about BPD, the stigma flowed like a goddamn river, and borderlines were the most evil, destructive people on the planet.

    This is the eighth criteria for borderline personality disorder:

    “Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights).”

    I want to make something crystal clear. What Amber Heard allegedly did to Johnny Depp is horrible. Physically assaulting a loved one, spouse, or partner, is never accepted behavior, no matter what me


    My Life As A Borderline: The Stigma, Hate, and How I Found The Light

    Part 2 of 2 ntal health issue you may have.

    I did not have the eighth criteria. I was never violent or physically abusive toward a partner or spouse. I did defend myself from an abuser, however I was never the abusive person in a relationship. So it’s difficult for me to understand what Amber Heard allegedly did to Johnny Depp.

    If Amber Heard is a borderline, I hope she gets help. I hope she finds her own Bert or Dave, and really does the work so she won’t ever harm another person the way I believe she harmed Johnny Depp. I hope she looks down that long tunnel and sees a glimmer of light.

    I staggered through a very dark, scary tunnel for over ten years, because I wanted to reach that light. I wanted to be a better mom to my son than my mom was to me. I wanted to be able to accept and give love. I wanted to stop hurting myself, I wanted to stop believing the only way to end the pain was to die. And here I am. A little damaged, with a slightly broken brain, scars on my skin and on my soul, but here I am.

    I found the light, and it was worth the work to get here.

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    Anxiety and Fears Of Abandonment

    I keep posting about these things a lot, but I'm having a low level feeling of anxiety again.

    I've been mostly able to keep it at bay today as long as I don't dwell on it, but I seem to be having worries about being abandoned.

    That's become more pronounced for me recently.

    I have to admit I sometimes seek attention too, and I know it's unhealthy.

    I don't mean in terms of being loud or obnoxious, but I seem to want to be cared for emotionally a lot.

    My current goal is to learn to do that myself. I try to think of my inner child, and work on protecting him instead of handing the task over to others who actually have no intention of caring for him, despite saying otherwise.

    I'm just slightly on edge again today.
    #Anxiety #AnxietyAttack #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #HistrionicPersonalityDisorder


    Triggered Episode Last Night

    I spoke too soon about my mental health improving.

    I had a bit of an episode where I lashed out at my parents again.

    It was to do with me not having time to process some things I had talked about in my therapy session yesterday (emotional abuse).

    I felt emotionally overwhelmed and lashed out where I shouldn't have.

    I feel resentful because I was ousted out of a group elsewhere for talking about BPD despite being diagnosed as dependent at the time.

    I was accused of lying and faking there.

    I've since left that group. I am now officially diagnosed with BPD, but I'm really having trouble coping with the emotional abuse and invalidation I felt there.

    I don't want to go back because I do feel like I was emotionally abused.
    #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #MentalHealth #HistrionicPersonalityDisorder

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    Finally Getting Into My Treatment/Changing Core Beliefs

    I had a great psychiatrist appointment earlier in the day!

    I've just started seeing her a few weeks ago, and she has been fantastic!!!

    We are finally starting on my treatment plan properly!

    The first order of business is to change my core beliefs. My BPD core beliefs are also what is driving my HPD (my main diagnosis).

    I felt good about today's appointment!!!
    #HistrionicPersonalityDisorder #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder


    Being A Reactive Jerk Lately - Why?

    I have recently been very reactive towards a couple of friends lately.

    I'm not making excuses, but I thought one kept trying to diagnose me and wouldn't let the subject drop, and the other one accused me of ignoring her and said I wasn't a friend, when that wasn't even close to the case.

    Both times I absolutely exploded on them. I said some extremely hurtful things and I feel badly.

    I'm not trying to make excuses, but it could be a trauma reaction. I was ousted out of a mental health space elsewhere. The people involved deliberately tried to trigger me to do something drastic... that's how badly they wanted me out.

    One of the people involved is someone I still care for very much and can't bring myself to say an unkind word about. I'm sorry I made her feel left out of my life. I cared for her a lot. I often tried to hide it because I didn't want to seem creepy, but I still do care for her a great deal.

    My psychiatrist saw my messages to that other friend I got so reactive with, and it could affect my diagnosis in a bad way. I'm not someone who prays often, but I literally pray that doesn't happen. 😞😞😞

    I can't continue being so explosive. This has been twice in the last couple of weeks.

    #HistrionicPersonalityDisorder #anger

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    Trying To Sleep - Anxiety & Remorse

    I'm troubled because I was extremely reactive with a friend earlier in the day.

    The person was accusing me of ignoring them when I wasn't, but I got far too reactive. It's the second time I've done that.

    I feel badly.

    I had a psychiatrist appointment too, and I'm troubled by some things about it based on my little episode.

    I often feel abused, but I know the people involved will tell me I'm playing victim.

    I want to apologize to two of them. I wasn't particularly reactive towards them, though.

    I'm sorry I caused so much hurt. 😞

    I'm just having trouble sleeping. 😞 #Anxiety #Insomnia #HistrionicPersonalityDisorder


    Newly Diagnosed #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #GeneralAnxietyDisorder #HistrionicPersonalityDisorder #MajorDepressiveDisorder

    I'm newly officially diagnosed.

    My primary diagnosis is histrionic personality disorder (appeasement) with secondary diagnoses of borderline personality disorder (4 traits), general anxiety disorder, and major depressive disorder.

    I knew I was somewhere on the BPD spectrum!