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Grief, Struggles, Depression (Wash Cycle Doesn’t End)

I started my #Recovery journey in 2014 and I found a new way of life immediately. No one warned me the NEW was NEW Chapters of Life, Chapters which would not finish before the next starts….
In 2014 I had to have a #lumpectomy from my right #breast .
In the beginning of 2015 I was served #Divorce papers. By the end of the year we reconciled.
In 2016 when I should be excited my eldest is graduating from High School, simultaneously my second born had to have #OpenHeartSurgery .
In 2017 second born lost his first grandmother and I got to fly him from CA to ME to see her take her last breath.
In 2019 I was the proud #homeowner with my #husband of 10 years. We were finally making the #americandream .
In April 2020 I get a phonecall my father has had a #brainstemstroke I had to come home to Maine to assist with #lifeendingchoices .
In May 2020 my Mother is diagnosed with #OvarianCancer .
I am now temporarily living with my mother, being a #Caregiver , yet my #husband #mycaregiver #Abandoned me and then requested to take #fullcustody of #ourdaughter via the #Divorce .
In July 2021 my Mother sadly passed away. I have become an #Orphan too quickly. #Grief and #Depression is all too real now.
In March 2022, My second son has now come down sick. Doctors spend months trying to figure out why. It takes until July 2022 to diagnose him with #Sepsis #Endocarditis he spends 2 weeks #hospitalized and another 8 weeks on a #PiccLine at home.
In Dec 2022 he is given a clean bill of health and decides to come live with me in #Maine .
In Feb 2023 he starts to become tired easily, slight cough, and finally passed out in March.
March 10th he passed out at home. We called #911 and the #localer #Misdiagnosed him.
March 13th I took him to #mainemedicalcenter where he was hospitalized for 7 days with #Pneumonia and possible #Endocarditis where he was then transferred to #boston .
March 19th upon arriving to #brighamwomanhospital - #shapirocardiovascularcenter he underwent dozens more blood testing, procedures, exams, etc.
Today March 27th he is having #OpenHeartSurgery Number 2 to replace the pulmonary valve, pulmonary conduit, remove large vegetation.
In a couple of days as scheduled I am also supposed to exchange visitation with my daughter so I can visit with her for Spring Vacation. However my ex is trying to knit pick about my schedule and if I have ample time to spend with our daughter while my adult son is in ICU. Our daughter is 11 years old.
I really feel in the last multiple years I have had one catastrophic event after another without time to process.
I have other things like major moves, loss of therapists, and other medical mental health issues. I am so exhausted today scared sick for my son.
I am so annoyed how some people enjoy kicking others while they are down.
I don’t even know when I am going to sleep again right now. I have so many thoughts, concerns, to do’s in my head - I can’t sleep it is going to drive me crazy.
I am so sick of being in a chapter book that doesn’t let the chapters end.

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Dealing with grief and depression

#Depression #Grief #Anxiety #Orphan

It’s been three years since I lost my mom and dad and not a day gets easier. Every day I think of my mom and wish she was here. I’m only 21, and feel so alone and no one relate to me. All my friends and everyone I know has their parents and I don’t. It’s make me feel angry, remorse towards them, but I don’t wan to feel that way. It’s not their fault I don’t have my parents. But that’s how I feel. When I see a mom and a daughter together and parents I think of mine and feel anger and sadness, however never act on it. Therefore, I never speak on it because no one understands me. Everyone takes advantage of their parents. Today I was talking to my best friend, which can’t relate at all. States she cried at lion king because “in the future she’s going to be like simba when her mom dies and going to cry because she has no siblings” and made a joke out of it. While I know she didn’t mean to hurt me. It’s just things people say sometimes. And I hate that I take offense to this but I miss my parents and would take anything to have them. Especially when are unappreciative of them


#Grief #Depression #Orphan

I have been severely depressed for over 3 years and even my “best friends” wouldn’t be able to tell. When I lost both of my parent at 18, it has effected me tremendously especially the death of my mom. My life will never be the same. I don’t talk to any one about this because no one can relate because they have there parents. I feel alone and depressed all the time. I miss my mom more than ever. Constantly thinking of suicude but won’t ever do it to myself but not afraid of death. I’m just tried of being sad, but can’t fight this constant sadness everyday. I feel said when I see an mom or daughter or even hear the words, “mom”. No one understands or get it’s and I wouldn’t want them to because it’s the worse feeling in the world and I had to go through it at only 18. Everyone has everything handed down to them from their parent but I have to bust my butt for every single thing.

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