We talk a lot about strained relationships on The Mighty and trust me when I say that I have a few of those myself. But today I want to tell you a happy story, about my partner Mike who truly props me up through life so I can have some quality of it.
Mike and I met when we were kids. Before I was sick, before I was fragile. We stayed good friends until high school when we started dating (again, pre-chronic illness). Eventually we broke up and I can’t even remember why, and then we reunited 11 years ago (post-chronic illness) and have been together ever since. Here are a few things he does for me:
📝 He leaves me small (or big) notes in secret places. I had an absolutely terrible week last week and he hid a piece of paper in my laptop that reminded me I was doing a good job.
🤗 He never, ever pressures me to go out, to run errands, to go to social gatherings. He trusts me when I say I can’t, and is always grateful when I do.
⚔️ He never weaponizes my health against me. Do we get frustrated by my limitations? Oh yes. Do we fight about certain aspects of this reality we’re living in? 100%. But he never uses it as a reason to tear me down. He doesn’t place blame.
I tell you this happy story because I like to hear them when I’m flooded by darkness. It’s important to know that not all relationships are bad. And I also want to acknowledge that a lot of strength (and the reason why I’m even able to work at The Mighty) is because of people in my life who accept me and help me and cheer me on.
If nothing else, just know that you’re worthy of love. Your health struggles do not make you inherently unlovable. You are loved, you are loved, you are loved.
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