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Living through Narcistic Behavior

#TraumaSurvivors Hi I am trying to find the right group to join, I'm not sure if this is it, but I have been seeing a therapist for a few weeks and need support. I actually went there because I thought I was being like my Mother who is a severe narcissist, I have a husband who I have been with for 37 years, and he tries to be a good person and wants to be liked, I told him in the beginning of our marriage if I act like my mom at all, please stop me in my tracks, so I have not had much respect for my husband, which is what my Mom was like with my Father, the reason I don't respect my husband is because he lies all the time, and tells stories that are really over the top, and I just never felt he respected me either, with my work, I am a professional that works a lot, only because I need to make sure the bills are paid, so he has always made it easy for us to get a head, he lost money with his own business, and now has been off for nearly 2 years because of an illness, he has had so many ailments over the years, it never stops, but he also will not help himself to get better, so it frustrates me to no end, I have told him many times over that people would like him if he was just real, and don't need to make yourself more then you are, but he doesn't change, he now is in a fulltime treatment facility, and going through all kinds of therapy, he is starting to see his ways, and really opening up, which I have never experienced in our whole marriage, so now I am living alone struggling with blame on myself, every time I see him, I have a setback, he said I was really controlling with where we go who we see and when, the reason I did that was I was embarrassed, that he would start with the stories and lies, he doesn't have a lot of male friends, and flocks to the females all the time, he has cheated on me over and over, I am not sure if physically, but has been on dating sites with many ladies that he says treat him better than I do, he said that he was emancipated by me, because I make more money than him and that is not how he is raised, and so unconsciously did these things because of that. I know this sounds crazy, but I honestly, pick things out to blame myself, I definitely raised my children completely different then the way my Mom did, so I am proud of the relationship we have, but I am not sure if I was the same with my relationship with my husband, did I push him this way?

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Family Abandonment

How do you cope when those closest to you end up reaffirming everything you learnt as a child?

I was abandoned by all my adult children last November after a suicide attempt. It has reinforced all those things I learnt as a child such as everyone I love abandons me. I’m not worthy of love. I deserve to be treated like this. I am the problem.#TraumaSurvivors

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Emotional incest

My husband is leaving me for his daughter. Actually, I hit rock bottom in this insanity. I am throwing in the towel. Before I knew this was a ‘thing’, emotional incest, I started to feel and to describe my husband’s rage and defense of his daughter as that of a man defending his wife and I (the wife) feels like I am the other woman. I was losing my mind with the extreme sides of my husband.

We had an amazing textbook marriage, But he constantly trying to crowd our lives with his girls and sharing every areas of our relationship unbeknownst to me initially. One in particular. She is his goddess. The sun, moon and stars shines from her. After 2.0.0.5 years of bitter fighting and not willing to hand my life over to my husband queen/goddess. After, Months of therapy where he acted changed, 2 mental breakdown. I was in the middle of a mental breakdown and my husband thought it was funny to send a text to his emotional incest wife about me fucking up. It pushed me over the edge. Now my first suicide attempt.

There were at least 10 police, emt etc in my home to save me and my husband has not apologize. Asked how I am. Just like my first breakdown his daughters took him to the range.

God, I sure know how to pick them,

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Does anyone else read their therapy session notes and, if so, do you find them accurate?

I happened upon my session notes, one day, while looking up information on MyChart. I found the notes to inaccurately describe what I was trying to portray to my therapist. Since then, I have looked up additional notes just to see how accurate they are. I feel like my therapist may be trying to make our sessions sound more productive than they actually are. It feels very invalidating.

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Wedding

I just wanted to enjoy my son's wedding. I took all the necessary steps, I crossed all the t's dotted all the I's and she / I still stole most of the the
Day from me. Why did I expect, protect, beg and expect differently 😔

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Who is someone you consider to be your "safe" person? #CheckInWithMe

Do you have a "safe" person?

Mighty contributor Jessica Glass describes what a safe person means to them: "She is the one person who knows my whole story. She’s been with me through many tough firsts over the last year and a half, and still shows me unconditional love on a daily basis."

I have been really lucky to have a few safe people throughout my life who I can trust to love me unconditionally on a daily basis. One of them I have known for decades – since I was 7 years old – and another I have only known for seven years. It doesn't matter how long you've known someone that makes them qualify, it's how they treat you through the good, the bad, and the in between.

Who is someone like that for you? I'd love to know (without any super identifiable info being given out, of course, to protect their privacy!) if you feel safe and comfy enough to share with me. 💜

P.S. You can read Jessica’s story here: To My 'Safe Person': Thank You For Supporting Me Through Depression

#MentalHealth #ChronicIllness #Disability #ADHD #Autism #Anxiety #BipolarDisorder #Depression #Trauma #TraumaSurvivors #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #DistractMe #52SmallThings #CPTSD

To My 'Safe Person': Thank You For Supporting Me Through Depression

Who's your safe person?
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What 'little' things bring you comfort and joy?

Let's face it: The last however many years have been pretty darn rotten, but the last 36 or so hours have been even more stressful on a macro- and micro-level in so many ways. Without even touching things going on at the federal level in the United States and the multiple crises both nationally and globally, I have been dealing with some personal things that have been putting me through the ringer.

Thankfully, I am incredibly blessed to have an AMAZING support crew who I can call on when I need them the most. But even then, it's not always enough... or what's needed. Or they live too far away and I can't get that physical touch I need to calm the nerves that feel like they're vibrating from all the stress I'm under. What's a person to do?

Here are some things I have been doing as part of my self-care that have brought me a great deal of comfort and joy:

💜 - I bought a new Squishmallow (not pictured). It's a watermelon one.

💜 - I have been working while wrapped in my Pusheen throw blanket and holding my heated Shiba Inu plush (both pictured). The plush - when heated - is incredibly comforting and an amazing sensory feel for me.

💜 - I have been listening to music recommended to me by one of my close friends.

💜 - I made plans with my eldest nephew to get ice cream after work. I also have plans to hang out with my friends over the weekend, depending on how I'm feeling.

What brings you comfort and joy in your time of need? Let me know in the comments below.

P.S. And in case you needed permission, it's OK to feel happy when everything's "on fire." Check out this story by Brittany: This Is Your Permission to Chase Joy in Times of Crisis

#MentalHealth #ChronicIllness #Disability #ADHD #Autism #AutisticAdults #actuallyautistic #CheckInWithMe #neurodivergent #neurodiverse #RheumatoidArthritis #BipolarDisorder #Trauma #TraumaSurvivors #CPTSD #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Anxiety #Depression #Migraine #selfcare #DistractMe #52SmallThings

This Is Your Permission to Chase Joy in Times of Crisis

"Laugh, dance, sing, paint — continue to do the things that remind you hope is out there and life is still worth living."
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My bf is coming home today from the inpatient mental health unit.

#TraumaSurvivors feeling anxious . I’ve actually enjoyed this time( one week) that he’s been gone. I’ve slept through the night for the first time in a long time. I didn’t realize how lonely and also harassed I’ve been. I wanted him to move out and even said I would help him find a place. His response was to put himself in the unit under the guise of being suicdal. I just know he would never do that or even feel that way. It’s emotional manipulation, but fortunately it’s not working. But he won’t budge. My therapist talked to me about radical acceptance. I’m going to move on in my life, doing therapy, meditating, making new friends with healthy boundaries and positive vibes. Going to pick him up now. Wish me luck.

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#TraumaSurvivors

As l read the different stories on splitting l realized that some of the issues l dealt with in my relationships may have been a direct result of the negative ways in which l looked at what was being done or said to me. In times past l wouldn't have wanted to share this because of the shame l always attach to myself when l make a mistake but not anymore. I'm owning where l have gotten wrong and at the same time affirming that l am still worthy of being loved.

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I am always few empty…alone. I have survived two very abusive relationships and rape. At 47 I just want to have a normal relationship and a friend.

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