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I’m really in need of a therapist in the Salt Lake City, Utah USA area.

I haven’t had any psych help since I moved across the country alone 2 years ago and I’m realizing that I’m in desperate need of assistance in my healing my deeper, more “subtle” issues.

Any recommendations would be so greatly appreciated ❤️ PS I’m agnostic, so ideally not looking for a provider that focuses on god/religion. Pic for attention - my cutie who helps keeps me emotionally grounded.

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Hey to everyone 👋🏼

My #BPD loved one and I decided to begin a couples therapy. He breaks up with me in February, but we are still in contact and want to try to have a balanced and romantic relationship again.
In 2 weeks we have our first interview…🍀
I decided this way because we are struggling with a “closeness and distance” theme and I have no idea how we or I can deal with it. ☹️
My loved one is reflected, knows about his strugglings and agreed to this therapy. 💝

So my question:
Has anybody of you experience with a couple therapy? ☺️

Thank you for reading & lots of hugs 🤗💝

Hey Mightys,

today I was struggling and crying so hard.
I’ve met my #bpd loved one yesterday and suddenly he told me that he had no longing for me - he loves me, but he doesn’t feel anything, if he holds my hands.
I was just listening while he was talking. I thought it was his pattern. “He pushes me away”, but yesterday it was so hurtful 😫
He told me that he had a huge desire but not for me. Its like he’s searching for something but it’s also paradox: he wishes body contact, but if I’m holding his hand he cannot deal with it and wants to end the situation.
At the first time I have no idea what I can do.
I’m afraid of losing him. 😔

Looking forward for some advise.

Thanks for reading.

Was a great husband. Dedicated and lovong dad. This I know. Generally try and be the best person I can be each and every day. It takes effort, intention and work. Living with weight of BPD I've learned to simply stay in the light by being the light. It keeps the struggles manageable after my journey, and keeps me focused on my number one priority of being a dad.

But...

Learning to date again. Learning to trust again. Learning and hoping to love again someday.

Spent 20 years with someone. 6 months after she found out I had BPD, she was gone. About a year later, I tried again and fell hard, she did as well. Everything was great, until I told her I had BPD. She was gone pretty quick thereafter. Dated casually since, but whenever it gets real and we start speaking truth... in that moment of vulnerability, I let them know that I have BPD. It's clear when I connect with a gal we always fall hard fast, but once they found out about the BPD within a week they're usually gone. I thought it might have been something I was doing or saying but realized that it truly is linked with that piece of info. Patterns are hard to ignore with repeated experience now.

When is the right time to disclose that little nugget, or is that something that just stays locked away forever in a relationship if I hope to bond and love again?

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Hello community,

I’m Cosy and I’m struggling with a #BPD relationship. My loved one was diagnosed with bpd nearly 20 years ago. After the diagnostic he was for 6 month in-patient stay therapy where he learned different skills from #dbt. He is very reflected and controlled, but tow month ago he broke up with me, because he was triggered. 😞
He said, that he didn’t know who he is and that’s difficult for him to accept love.
While our relationship, he also started a new therapy again... after 18 years.
Now we are still in contact. It was his wish to stay in touch. He asked if we could call once a week and i agreed. Currently we call 2-3 times a week and meet every 2 weeks for 1-2 hours for a walk. 🙏🏼
I want to be supportive and give him his space. I’m not judging and listening. I love him with my full heart and hope we can make it. He’s worth it. 🥰

But of course, sometimes the situation is energy-sapping for me. 😕 I’m missing him so deeply and from time to time I’m very sad, overwhelmed and exhausted. 🥺
Sometimes I don’t know what to do or how I can help or support him. 😩

Does someone have any advice for me? What can I do or what’s helpful for him?
I will leave nothing untried. He’s my man.

Thank you for reading.
Stay safe! 🙏🏼🌷

Regards,
Cosy

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