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How does one get over a break up?

I am just really sad. I loved my ex a whole lot. He was my first boyfriend (at the age of 25) and my first many things. He broke up with on the 1st of February, we were only together 5 months. But it hurts so much. He said he loved me quite early on, I took my time saying it back. He then realised that he didn't really mean that he loved me, and he took what he said back. I saw him yesterday to get back a stupid game he borrowed from me. When I found out he wanted to see me again, I was so happy! I was hoping to get my boyfriend back, I missed him so dearly. I had so much to tell him about the time we were apart. I saw him for about 5 minutes. He returned my game and left. And all it did was reopen the wounds which were slowly healing... I think. Does this hurt ever get better? Will I be able to find someone to love again? I have so much love to give, I would just like to find someone to give it to. #Breakups #sad #toomanyfeelings #Depression

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My long distance breakup

I had a close relationship with someone for almost 2 years now, but it was long distance due to the pandemic and the fact that she lives in Canada. We met on TalkLife, which is another mental health app. She opened up to me with an issue regarding her ex-bf, and I was able to empathize with her really well. I even shared my insecurities with social anxiety to her and she was so supportive. Over time, we got really close, and I was so happy to find someone like her. She felt the same way. Everything felt so real and authentic for both of us even if it was online. It was for the first time that we both experienced a deep emotional bond. We started chatting on WhatsApp. We called each other almost every day, and even video chatted several times later on. We talked about many topics ranging from the things we liked and how our day went to deep philosophical subjects. We sent gifts to each other. She even wanted to meet me in person, but due to the pandemic's travel restrictions and me being at university, it was hard to do all these years.

This summer I finally worked up a plan to fly and visit her in Vancouver. But she told me a few days ago that unfortunately, we are not really right for each other because she wanted to find more local people. She also was occupied with making a move to another province. Yet, she also told me that I was the most genuine friend she's ever had. I guess, in a way she's right because even if I did visit her in person, things would still stay the same between us because we would still be long distance and in 2 different countries. Seems like she wanted to get deeper with me, but couldn't.

Still, I just miss her so much, and have been in so much grief and depression because of that. I want to share this because it is a prime example of how everything could feel so real and right in a relationship, but circumstances like distance and location just get in the way.

#Breakups #Grief #Depression #Relationships #COVID #longdistance #pandemic


Do I tell her?

My ex and I were together for 6 years and about 8 months ago he dumped me for someone else. He’s been coming back to me to continue to hook up. I know that makes me a shitty person because I’m doing exactly what she was doing.
About 2 days after hooking up with him I find out that they’re engaged. I told him that he needs to tell her the truth or I will, because she deserves to know the truth before going into a marriage.
The only thing he replied to me when I texted him that was “what the fuck is wrong with you, stop being so bitter.”
He has now blocked my phone number as well.
I have the girls phone number and I am really debating on telling her/sending her proof that we’ve still been seeing each other. On one hand I want to tell her because she deserves to know what she’s getting into, and on another hand my anger and hurt make me want to hurt both of them by telling her.
Do I tell her? Do I just walk away and let karma run it’s course?
#Breakups #heartbreak #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder

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Hi everyone, today is my ex’s bday.

Above is my breakdown of my attachment results. As you can see I’ve come far to convert to a Secure after months of therapy. However, if you know anything about ambivalent/anxious type you know he have huge fright of abandonment and we want to smooth our feelings so badly we are trying hard to close the gap between us and an ex. I’ve been skillful. Like beyond skillful. And I knew today was coming so I booked things to do today to be comforting and skillful. I’m about to go into a Float. A epsom salt float at those Float therapy places. Prior to this I tried a new cafe. It was nifty. Loved it. However, I saw a guy walked in who reminded me physically of my ex. Ofcourse right? 🤭 and I found myself starting at him to take in the whole image so I could stop starring longer. I journaled how I felt. That helped. I spoke about the day and even used my ex’s name instead of just “ex” or “him” because trying to hold back his name was just going to explode in the wrong way. So I wrote it all down. Then I struggled to decide if I should message him… wishing him happy bday. Ugh, madness. It’s only been 3 weeks since we broke off. It feels like forever because I’ve done sooo much but holy cow it’s been recent too. 😮‍💨
I just wanted to share with everyone my feelings. I am looking for support and validation. Not feeling alone with my day. #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #CPTSD #DBT #Breakups

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Getting over you

It's been months since me and the girl I loved broke up, it became long distance when I had to leave America but I really thought it could work but I was wrong. Today she messaged saying she missed me after seeing something I shared and it just made me feel so confused about everything, I want to be able to move on but in her I saw everything I ever wanted, I saw a friend, a number one supporter, an adventure buddy. With her I saw a future and I lost it. We are now in completely different hemispheres and talk about as much as you do with old acquaintances, I want our spark back but I don't know how. Last month at my birthday I was stupid and slept with a friend I was into hoping something might come from it but no just got told she wanted to be friends and now she's stuck in my head "what did I do wrong, she said all those nice things about me, why talk about being into me if you wanted to stay friends". She now has a boyfriend and this shouldn't hurt me because we were never a thing but why can't I get over her when I'm still in love with my ex. I've been talking to this girl for ages and recently invited her round a few times in the past week just so i don't sleep alone and i feel so trashy just having her as a distraction and fun but I just don't see the point in trying, i either fuck it up or doomed from the start so might as well have someone there that makes it feel like I'm wanted even though I'm not interested in them at all and just want the attention. I feel awful doing it to her but she knows i don't want anything serious. I just ruin everything by always rushing it and now i can hardly sleep on my own or have the energy to do anything. I don't understand myself.

#Depression #Breakups #Anxiety #Relationships #Emotions #trash

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Alternative, body-focused treatment for BPD and PTSD

This morning I reached out to a center to learn about their somatic therapy treatment and healing the vicious symptoms of BPD. This is what I shared:


I am a 28 y/o woman who was officially diagnosed with Borderline Personality disorder, PTSD and Major depressive disorder last August. I have struggled with mental illness for most of my life. My biggest barriers are with maintaining romantic relationships with men due to past traumas, and with my family. I am desperate to receive help, and have been actively working with my psychologist, and completed two rounds of DBT. I am also a licensed therapist, so I have pretty good awareness and insight, and I'm familiar with most skills, however in moments where I find myself getting hijacked by my emotions, I feel helpless.

I know what I need to do, but feel overwhelmed by my body's trauma responses. I found this site when looking for somatic or alternative therapies for BPD. I don't want to live my life where i'm scared to form relationships because I don't know how I'll react the minute I don't feel safe. I do benefit from DBT, but I think I also need to add a more body-focused modality to deal with my whatever I'm holding inside me."

Last night my ex called the cops after I had another bpd rage and began to knock things down and made a huge mess in our apartment. We broke up last week, and I am in the process of looking for a new place. I keep moving from feelings of heart ache to extreme anger to numbing sadness to intense resentment. As I wrote in the message, I can feel the weight in my body, and know I'm storing a lot of trauma. Curious if anyone has experience with alternative therapies and healing for their BPD.#BPD #Depression #Breakups #Art

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Je t’ai dans la peau #Breakups #Depression #DiabetesType1

Implose ma vie
Mes organes
Ma peau, brûle
Mes rêves
Sans retour .
Mon cœur, en mille miettes
Qui va le ramasser ?
Et le vide . Si lourd .
Ton silence . Si bruyant.
Explose ma douleur


I am not enough #Depression #Breakups

You might fall in love with me
But when you’ll really get to know me
You’ll fall out of love
I’m not enough to keep you
I have to much restriction
Life with me is just too dull
So you’ll go living your life
To your full potential
While I’ll be alone , just waiting for this fucking hell to end .
It’s not fair
Buts it’s life
I got unlucky
I just wish it will end soon


Don't understand why #Borderlinerelationships #BPD #Breakups

Ok so I decided to start a little book of memories of us that bring me joy, quotes and poems so if it pops into her head while thinking lowly of herself she can open it to any page for either a poems, inspiration or what joy she brought to me by just being her.

So far I've written the description/explanation of what it is and why I did it but whenever I go to start the bulk pages "BOOM" like a tone of bricks heart palpitations , short sharp breathing and anxiety through the roof and I have no clue why I was also getting them in bed this morning.

Any thoughts would be helpful.