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The appointment was great

As soon as I got in her car she asked if I wanted to go anywhere so I said yeah how about 7-Eleven. She said not a problem. So we went there and I got a cappuccino and a donut.

I kinda have been having a panic attack for the last hour but I don't know why. I have been trying to ignore my hands but I cut off the tips of my nails. I'm getting ingrown nails again. Or still. I don't know at what point it's healed.

My caseworker is going to take me and my caregiver to Aldi next month. She said she has been worried about me getting groceries cuz she used to take me to Aldi and Meijer. She knows I have been getting my groceries through Instacart for the last year and she knows I'm on a limited income. So we are going to get some food for the holidays after I get my food stamps.

I've got a nasty bleeding fissure again. I should probably go see my GI doctor. But I never got my labs done for her last year. I'll just keep an eye on symptoms and if it gets worse I will go to urgent care.

#Caregiving #behavioralhealthhome #PanicAttacks #MentalHealth

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Good morning

My hips feel great. My back not so much. And my butt cheeks feel like it got kicked. My doctor explained my butt hurts cuz I've been walking like a penguin for 3 weeks. Makes sense. Said it's musculoskeletal pain.

I've got a 10am appointment with my BHH nutritionist today. I'm gonna see if she'll take me to 7 eleven. I want to get a special drink and a bag of puff corn. I might get a cappuccino.

I reconnected with a friend who blocked me for a few years yesterday. She's only 10 minutes away from me. We're gonna go to a stitch and bitch next week. I'm gonna bring my sketch book and pens. I'm gonna try to draw a Krampus. It's at an espresso and tea shop. After we get back, I'm gonna cook dinner for us.

My caregiver used to be anorexic. When she got here in May, she was under 110lbs. Now she's around 133lb and she's much more happy with her curves. She's got more fat in the right place. I'm very proud of her.

#Relationships #Caregiving #Friendship

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Well we made dinner for each other but didn't eat at the same time.

She made me a big pot of noodles and I made her 2 cheddar brats. We're still doing parallel play while she works on her computer. I'm just happy to be close to her.

I'm going to a stitch and bitch next week with a friend who lives 10 minutes away. Then when it's done we're gonna come back to my apartment and I'll make a nice dinner for us. I'm probably gonna make garlic Parmesan chicken with noodles. I told her about my recipe and she said it sounds delicious. I've made it for my caregiver and she said it was one of my best chicken recipes. I might do a veggie to balance the dinner.

There's a witches market on the 30th. One of my favorite metaphysical shops moved a few years ago and I haven't seen it's new spot. They serve complimentary tea. They're gonna have a krampus available for pictures! I'm really excited.

December 21st is my winter solstice and a really nice holiday. Its called Yule. I'm gonna get a gift for my caregiver. I'm also planning to make peanut butter haystacks for all my friends. And I can't forget to make some for me!

I'm gonna send a bottle of chicken shit seasoning blend to my mom for Christmas. It's delicious. I think she'll like it. But just in case she doesn't, I'm gonna send her a box of cookies.

#Caregiving #Relationships #Holidays

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Placing the power in your hands to practice how to improve your wellbeing

Since this is a Practice, and in a practice, we must build upon our knowledge—here, I am going to expand upon my 1st post about the Beginner’s Mind, the first post of this new group - click to join and not miss the interconnected 9 attitudes of the wellbeing mindset of Mindfulness.

There is an emphasis on the importance of cultivating this mindset in all aspects of life.

Has anyone practiced this Beginner’s Mind or think that you will give it a try?
Any thoughts about this particular part of the whole?

Let’s break it down again:

Holding onto a particular belief limits the mind.
We accumulate a lot of conditioning along the way.
We tend to create a world where our opinions and beliefs are fixed.
As soon as we are attached to that one side, we shut off the other side-we don’t see it or hear it.

Only when we are willing to show up in each moment with a fresh, curious mind, willing to listen, knowing that possibly everything we believed and thought -that perhaps that’s not true. And, if we can maintain that freshness of mind, called a beginner’s mind—

then we can create a space where the mind can absorb, can respect the way other people think— take in new perspectives, and all of a sudden, we start to see not only a transformation in our mind, but a greater sense of calm, of clarity, and also a positive change in our relationships.

By letting go of preconceived ideas, expectations, and attachments, we can fully engage with each moment, experiencing life as it truly is, rather than through the filter of our thoughts and beliefs.

Key concepts:

Openness to possibilities:
The mind of the beginner is empty, free of the habits of the expert, ready to accept, to doubt, and open to all the possibilities.

No attachment to outcomes:
By approaching situations with a beginner's mind, one is less likely to be fixated on achieving a specific result, allowing for greater flexibility and adaptability.

And, the extremely critical skill of learning How to focus on the present moment:
This mindset encourages a deep awareness of the current experience, without getting caught up in past regrets or future anxieties; which we all know the negative consequences this has on our mental health.

We have to help ourselves to not be stuck dwelling on either the "what could have been" or the "what might happen", so that we can instead stay living in and fully enjoying the actual present moment. This is all a part of our role in managing our depression and anxiety and not letting these win and take from us and our potential and our lives that we can have.

It’s important to remember that all of this is not an achievement to be attained but rather a continuous process of self-discovery and self-transformation.

#MentalHealth #ChronicIllness #Mindfulness #MajorDepressiveDisorder #BipolarDisorder #BipolarDepression #MoodDisorders #Depression #Anxiety #GeneralizedAnxietyDisorder #Cancers #ChronicFatigue #AnorexiaNervosa #Selfcare #Addiction #Fibromyalgia #ChronicPain #Selfharm #Grief #SuicideAttemptSurvivors #SuicidalIdeation #SuicidalThoughts #Suicide #Trauma #Agoraphobia #ADHD #SocialAnxiety #SocialAnxietyDisorder #PTSDSupportAndRecovery #PTSD #ComplexPosttraumaticStressDisorder #Headache #Migraine #ChronicFatigueSyndrome #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Disability #IfYouFeelHopeless #EatingDisorders #ObsessiveCompulsiveDisorder #MightyTogether #Caregiving #CheckInWithMe #DistractMe

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You are what you eat

I don't know anything about the science behind it but food cooked by someone I love just tastes amazing. Food cooked with love feeds the soul. My caregiver made me noodles for dinner tonight. I got to play with the sauce and seasoning but she made perfect noodles. I'm a happy puppy.

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I've never felt this secure in a relationship before

We're growing together and getting stronger. We do journal prompts at least once per week and then sit with my therapist to go over the answers. We're learning so much about each other. She knows everything about me and still loves me unconditionally. She takes excellent care of me and I'm exploring more about autism and ADHD so I can care for her. She actually told me last night that I saved her life. Everyone that sees us together thinks we're a really strong couple . My therapist said we're lucky to have each other.

#Caregiving #Relationships

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Trying again

So I'm overdue for another Norco and she is washing dishes but she said she's almost done. She made me a big pot of noodles for dinner. I put some Alfredo sauce on it and some garlic Parmesan seasoning blend that I got from Amazon. Unfortunately I ran out of grated Parmesan but It was delicious. I love when she makes me noodles. It's such a little gesture of love and I appreciate her efforts. She knows how to make me happy. I'm easy to please. I love it when she makes me coffee or simple food. For lunch today she warmed up a German sausage and brought me the jar of sauerkraut and a slice of bread so I could make my sandwich how I like it. She's so thoughtful.

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Spent most of the day with my caregiver and it was lovely

We spent 2 hours organizing my bedroom and cleaning. Then we had dinner together while we watched Inside Out 2. Then she decided to clean the living room. When she was done we sat together on the couch just chatting. Then my phone got down to 5 percent so I'm back in my bedroom charging my phone. I've been trying to find events for us to do. We're going to a cocoa crawl tomorrow morning. I'm gonna take my meds an hour before we go. It's a lot of walking. Then I think coming up in about a week there's a cuddle party. We're really excited. It's gonna help us learn how to cuddle with each other. Then a few days after that is a crafting get together that I want to go to. My caregiver doesn't want to go and I'm not sure I'll feel comfortable going alone. I found a few other events next month. I am so glad I found the app I'm using for finding local events.

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My caregiver is so much more than just the one that manages my meds. She does so much around the apartment and she picks up the slack when I'm nonfunctional. She's my QPP, my partner and I love her dearly. Id do just about anything for her.

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Today

My caregiver slept till 2pm. She decided today she was gonna organize and clean my room. I directed her from my bed. I hadn't touched my suitcase since I got home from con in September. She unpacked it, put away my clothes, and helped me process my emotions. Now she's vacuuming.

My right side from just above my butt cheek all the way to my toes hurts like hell. The pain meds helped with my back pain and migraine but it doesn't help with my right hip. We're starting to worry cuz it's been really bad for about 3 weeks. I remember my hips popped out of joint a few weeks ago. Like really loud POP. It's been hurting since.

I have bilateral acetabular impingement, bursitis, osteoarthritis and rheumatoid arthritis in both hips. I've also got bone spurs in my hip joints. So I've got pretty intense pain.

#Caregiving #Relationships #hippain #BackPain #bilateralacetabularimpingement #Bursitis #Osteoarthritis #ChronicPain

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