I'm divorced with 2 boys (about to be 14 and 9), and am dating a divorced man with a teenage daughter who is about to turn 16. I think she is amazing, and she and I really get along well. We've been dating for a little over 2 years, live separately, but less than 2 mins away from each other, and we are in a serious relationship. We've talked about moving in together, etc. I love him very, very much, but I also need to ensure that moving in together would be the right move for ALL of us, not just me or him. Here's where the things started to get sticky, and I started to notice some "things." He very recently got full custody of his daughter (long story). Now that she is at his house 7 days/week, I am noticing more how they interact with one another, and it's striking me as a bit...strange. I have kids. myself, so I am familiar with parent/child relationships. Suddenly, we can't seem to make ANY plans until he checks in with his daughter to see what her plans are...but she sleeps ALL day and awakes late afternoon; she's in a vicious cycle of staying up till 4am and FaceTiming with her boyfriend (that's another story). He will not plan anything until he knows her plans. Recently, another couple made dinner reservations for 4 (2 couples date night, fancy restaurant), and a few hours before the dinner, he texts me to see if she can come. On our date night. A 16 year old with 2 other couples. I thought that was a bit odd, so I said I would check if we could get another seat added to the table (this is during Phase 1 of Covid). It was getting difficult to change the reservation at that point, so I asked him if it would be a big deal if she didn't come this time. Well, he ended up NOT going, at all. I went alone, 3rd wheel. When the 3 of us are together (either his house or out), I feel like I'm the 3rd wheel. It's the strangest feeling, and I've never experienced it before. Here's the REALLY, REALLY uncomfortable part for me...he tells her everything. I mean everything. If we have an argument (we don't scream and yell/fight; I feel like we really listen to one another and take turns talking, so we can each hear what we're saying), or a disagreement...he will go home and then talk it out with her. Get her advice. And I'm talking deep, adult type of relationship issues...like divorce issues, dealing with exes, my kids and him. I'm just not comfortable with that because I feel like it's violating the sanctity of our romantic relationship. I just became aware, or in-touch, with my feelings over the past few days. I went with them to visit his parents and brother (and was the first time I met them), and over the course of the weekend, I started to notice how he babies her. I'm actually worried about her, too. This can't be healthy for a developing teen who, at this age, should be becoming more independent and breaking away from parents than displaying this type of weirdness. This is all new to me. Any thoughts/advice/comments? AM I CRAZY???