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A Therapists Shares Why Talk Therapy Mostly Fails in Treating Panic Attacks and Disorder

As a therapist, I was trained and educated in the healing power of talk therapy, so now, 10 years later, I have flipped that paradigm to say, "Well, not exactly. Some pesky conditions, like panic disorder, require a treatment that is just as bullheaded."

That is where Exposure Response Prevention (ERP) treatment differentiates itself as the gold standard for reducing symptoms of panic attacks.

When I first got trained in this robust treatment method, I remember thinking, "This feels too structured. I don't think my clients will like it. It is too methodical. Where is the space to vent? To connect? How can healing happen without open-ended talk therapy? And they have to do homework? - Well, then it's DOA because my clients hate in-between session assignments."

My hunch was right. Many of my clients did not like the process, but they disliked -- or hated -- panic attacks even more.

What I learned—through training, experience, and watching clients reclaim their lives—is this: The process is what heals.

ERP doesn’t just reduce stress; it retrains the brain and body. Instead of avoiding panic symptoms or organizing life around preventing them, clients learn—step by step—how to face panic safely, until the fear loses its grip. In many cases, panic attacks are extinguished altogether. In others, they become truly manageable, no longer dictating choices or limiting relationships.

I am so glad I did not scoff at this evidence-based treatment. Instead, I dove in headfirst to help my clients, because now I can say that every client who has engaged in ERP treatment reports feeling "normal" once again.

Before ERP, my clients said their solution was to stay home, but then staying home became a bigger problem with friends and family. After they did ERP, they were able to reclaim their lives and go out once again.

I am writing this because I know many people with anxiety disorders give up on therapy because they say it didn't work. True, certain treatments don't work for all conditions. But if an MD gave you a pill to treat a disorder, but you experienced severe side effects, would you say all medications don't work? Or would you say that the treatment medication did not work? Maybe that's why talk therapy did not work for your anxiety condition - it was not the right pill.

#panicattacksaretreatable #stoppanicattacks

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Help Conquering My Mind

I am feeling so overwhelmed to the point of tears! I struggle with anxiety, PTSD, OCD thoughts, etc.
I’ve been a toxic relationship that has created a vicious cycle for me. I struggle to talk to people for fear they know what occurred and are judging. This relationship took my self esteem, self worth, etc.
They still go through my phone. They read messages from my therapist, my siblings, they track my location and take screenshots of all this. They were in the wrong with everything they did, but it’s like they see I’m thawing out and they do things to keep me in that space.
On top of that, there are just constant worries and stressors about where I live. I’m a single parent so all of that falls on me. My child is incredible and doing amazing things.
I’m just so overwhelmed by everything and for fear of messing up. I don’t want to mess up.
Ugh!😩

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For the first time in 5 months, I managed to mow my lawns. #Depression #Anxiety #Relationships #FamilyAndFriends #MentalHealth

First the first time in 5 months I managed to mow my lawns. It’s been a long recovery after shattering my tibia. A wonderful couple from church have been doing a great job of looking after the whole garden. I am very grateful for their help but it’s good to be back doing it myself.

I was in a huge amount of pain last night. I knew it would be taxing but I am glad to be another step closer to life getting back to normal.

There is hope.

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Update to previous post #Update #Love #FictionalCharacter

Update to my previous post
I was struggling to let go of my favorite character for almost three years now. Today is the first night I actually feel better. I realized- l am not cheating on him. I am growing. Making room to have a real, meaningful relationship. Knowing he can always have a place in my heart and that he truly made me feel loved. I'm taking the steps I need to take, actually getting out more to meet my forever. My partner. My mate. I want to meet someone and have a baby. And possibly move to either Alaska, or back to my beloved native lands of Washington state and raise my babies and have a life with my lover. Tomorrow I am going to go to the park, have a picnic alone to relax and reminisce about my feelings for my future. Who knows? Maybe I'll end up seeing a potential mate. 🩷 If anyone has more advice where to go to meet that someone or anything thoughts about this, please let me know!

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Who really is my authentic self?

I’ve been thinking lately a lot about the very question that is the title of this post. Am I really at my core the girl who feels lost and confused about almost every single aspect of her life? Or am I that positive thinking funny girl who really doesn’t care if she fits the mold of what so many people consider normal? Part of me thinks that I can exist being both, but that just doesn’t sit right with me. How can the same person essentially be someone who feels and exhibits completely polar opposite traits and actually go throughout life with any sort of meaning and sense of direction? Another part of me tries to make sense of it and says that yes, the two can coexist along a sort of spectrum of personality traits that kind of wax and wane throughout life. But that explanation only frustrates me and saddens me because I am so tired of having to navigate the world not knowing which one will present itself when I wake up every day. It’s exhausting for me and I feel like that is the source as to why I can never really keep the close relationships I crave from others. I feel once others get to know me and we move beyond the superficial level of knowing someone, things inevitable start to go downhill and decline. I try to keep myself level and at some sort of a baseline, but then I don’t feel anything at all. I just turned 45 and feel like I should have a better grasp and understanding of myself at this point, but then again I also may never accomplish that.

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False Promises

My therapist of 7 years retired at the end of last year. I chose not to see his replacement. I’ve been going it alone. Before he left, he told me that, starting in February, he wanted to have lunch with me once a month to see how I’m doing. I told him to please not say that if he didn’t mean it. He assured me it would happen. Well, it’s almost the middle of April and nothing. Nothing. I want to get angry but I can’t. Because of my past, anger terrifies me. Also, my emotions were constantly stifled by adults. Plus, I grew up denigrating relationships. I have to leave someone before they leave me. Abandonment hurts too much.
I should have gotten to leave Dr. G. It’s not fair and it hurts. It hurts that I’m not enough.
I also realize I can’t depend on anyone else. They’ll only leave. Will God stick? Will my mighty friends leave? Maybe I’m not angry. Maybe I’m afraid. C-PTSD never fully leaves.

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Age

Does wisdom come with age

What or Who opens doors

What rules does a good relationship hold?

What damages us

IS IT LOVE

IS IT UNCONCERN

IS IT STANDARDS

HOW COULD SOMEONE CHERISH SOMETHING BENEATH THEM

HOW COULD SOMEONE CHERISH SOMETHING SOMETHING ABOVE THEM

WHAT IS AN EGALITARIAN SOCIETY

WHAT ARE THE GOALS FOR PEACE

IF EVERY ARTIST HAS AN EXTREME SAY

AND EACH GENERATION CONQUERS ITS OWN CONFUSION

AS IT GROWS WISER

NOT MORE STUPID

DO EVERYDAY HABITS MAKE US BLIND

BLIND TO OVERCONSUMERISM

BLIND TO OUR DISTINCT IDENTITIES

WHEN SEARCHING FOR SOUL MAKES US LOST

CAUSE ITS NOT EVERYONE

AND YOUR WORDS ARE JUST WORDS

UNLESS YOU PUT ACTION IN THEM

LIKE CONSERVATION

ACCEPTANCE OF SOME AS SAME

AND SOME AS TEACHERS

SOME AS THWARTED WITHOUT DUTY

SOME AS GRATEFUL FOR THEIRS AND THOSE

SOME AS INJURED

SOME AS LIVING LIFE FILLED AND SATISFIED

CONTENT AT STATUS AND STATUS QUO

CONTENT TO GIVE THEIR KIDS A GOOD WORLD THEY STILL BELIEVE IN

CONTENT TO PROTECT

UNLESS YOU LEAVE THE PROTECT BELIEF

AND AFFECT CHANGE THROUGH NON VIOLENCE

WHEN DO YOU SAY ENUF

WHEN DO YOU SERVE THE WORTHY

WHEN YOU ALWAYS THOUGHT YOU ARE SERVING THE WORTHY

IF YOU WERE HERE DAY IN DAY OUT

YOU"D KNOW

WE MEET

WE BELIEVE IN OUR ESTEEMED MUSICS MUSES AND INDUSTRY

AND OUR PATRIOT'S LOVE

WHERE TRADITIONS DON'T LEAVE US

FOR EVERYONE'S TEARING APART AND OPINION ON A TOO FREE INTERNET

I don't know

Ok

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How can you strengthen the connection you have with yourself?

Yes, the connections we have with others are super important, but so is the connection we have with ourselves!

We do spend the most time with ourselves, after all, and we deserve to have the best relationship we can. 💌

How can you improve the connection you have with yourself? What are some ways you can strengthen it?

Mighty staffer @sparklywartanks says she can strengthen her relationship with herself by doing the activities she enjoys more consistently.

#52SmallThings #CheckInWithMe #Selfcare #MentalHealth #Disability #ChronicIllness #ChronicPain #RareDisease #Anxiety #Depression
#Autism #Parenting #PTSD #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #BipolarDisorder #Fibromyalgia #Lupus #MultipleSclerosis #Migraine #Spoonie

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