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Moving across states for family left me homeless, isolated, and completely unsupported

Hi everyone, I really just need a safe space to vent and maybe hear from others who understand what it's like to feel totally alone.

The last six months have been the hardest of my life. I am currently experiencing homelessness and living out of my car. I made the move to get a fresh start, but the main reason I moved was to be closer to my family, especially my mom.

Before I moved, she told me she had a job and a place lined up for me. None of that happened; those plans completely fell through. Instead of helping me figure it out, she left me to sleep in my car.

To make matters worse, I rely on her for my employee hotel discount when I can afford to pay for a room. But she constantly puts it off until the very last minute, waiting until the hotel is completely booked out, which forces me back into my car. When I get anxious and keep asking her for updates ("Is it done yet?"), she gets upset with me. But if I don't ask, it simply doesn't happen.

We used to have such a close relationship and fun car rides together. Now, she barely speaks to me when we're in the car, and I have no one else to talk to or socialize with since I'm isolated out here. When I am in a severe mental health crisis and overwhelmed from living in my car, I eventually snapped on her once. Now, she treats me like an absolute burden, says I'm mentally abusing her, and blames me for moving out here in the first place, even though I came here for her.

I feel so placed on the back burner, like my safety and urgency don't matter at all, and I wish so badly that I didn't need her help or support. It hurts so much to feel like your own mother wants nothing to do with you.

If anyone has been through family betrayal, housing instability, or just knows how to cope with this deep kind of loneliness, I could really use a kind word or advice right now. Thanks for listening.

#MentalHealthSupport #MentalHealthAwareness #Loneliness #Burnout

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When you’re struggling with depression or low self-worth, it’s easy to start looking outside yourself for proof that you matter. A compliment, a relationship, success, attention, or someone choosing you can make you feel better for a while. But when your sense of worth depends entirely on what comes back from other people, it can disappear just as quickly.

There’s nothing wrong with wanting love, connection, or reassurance. We all need those things. The goal isn’t to stop needing people. It’s to stop believing that other people get to decide your value.

You deserve to experience love from others without needing it as evidence that you are worthy of love in the first place.

What is one quality you value in yourself that has nothing to do with anyone else’s opinion?

Also, if you're going through a tough time right now, I want you to know that I post daily mental health videos about how to deal with painful thoughts. So if you or anyone you know is struggling and wants help, click on one of the links below or write me if you have any questions you want me to answer:

www.instagram.com/thomas_of_copenhagen

www.tiktok.com/@thomas_of_copenhagen

~ Thanks to all. Thanks for all. ~

#MentalHealth #MentalHealth #Depression #Anxiety #BipolarDisorder #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Addiction #dissociativedisorders #ObsessiveCompulsiveDisorder #ADHD #Fibromyalgia #EhlersDanlosSyndrome #PTSD #Cancer #RareDisease #Disability #Autism #Diabetes #EatingDisorders #ChronicIllness #ChronicPain #RheumatoidArthritis #Suicide #MightyTogether

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The Grief That Comes After the Grief

Everyone talks about grieving the narcissist relationship that ended. Almost nobody talks about grieving the relationship that was never actually going to happen in the first place.

I'm not talking about mourning what you lost. I'm talking about mourning what you were still, quietly, hoping for. The version of them that finally saw it. The apology that finally came. The moment they became who you needed them to be, before it was too late. That hope doesn't die when the relationship ends. It dies slowly, on its own timeline, sometimes years later, and when it finally goes, it can hit harder than the breakup ever did.

This shows up in strange ways. Relief when they get older or weaker, followed immediately by guilt about the relief. Grief that arrives out of nowhere when you realise a certain conversation is now never going to happen. A strange flatness when the fantasy finally, quietly, dies.

None of that means you're not healed. It means you're grieving something real, a possibility, not just a person. And possibilities deserve their own grief, separate from everything else you've already worked through.

If you've ever felt confused by grief that shows up long after you thought you were done grieving, this might be why. It's not a setback. It's just a different loss finally getting its turn.

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The Trauma Response Nobody Warns You About

Most people know fight, flight, and freeze. Almost nobody talks about fawn, and it might be the most misunderstood one of all.#Trauma #PTSD #ChronicPain #fawn #Anxiety #MentalHealth #Healing #MightyTogether Fawn is when your survival strategy becomes disappearing into whoever you're with. Less noise. Fewer needs expressed. More agreement. More performance of contentment. Not because you wanted to, but because compliance had the best historical record of reducing harm.That's not weakness. That's a sophisticated survival strategy built by someone with no other tools available. But here's what fawn does that the others don't. Fight leaves your sense of self intact, you resisted. Flight leaves it intact, you moved. Even freeze leaves it intact, something in you went elsewhere while your body waited it out. Fawn dismantles the self in the process of deploying it, because when your survival strategy is becoming what the threat needs, you spend years being not yourself.

And it doesn't stay in childhood. It comes with you. Into relationships, workplaces, friendships, every room where someone has the power to hurt you or withdraw approval. Someone raises their voice and you're already smiling before you've thought anything. Someone expresses displeasure and you're already apologising before you've asked whether it was even your responsibility.

If you've ever wondered why you can't tell where the performance ends and you begin, this might be why.

#Trauma #PTSD #MentalHealth #Healing #MightyTogether

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ADHD vs Depression: Understanding the Key Differences

ADHD and depression are two different mental health conditions, but their symptoms can sometimes look similar. Difficulty concentrating, low motivation, problems completing tasks, and changes in daily routines may occur with either condition. Because of this overlap, it can sometimes be difficult to understand what is actually causing these experiences.

The important difference is that ADHD is a neurodevelopmental condition that typically begins during childhood, while depression is a mood disorder that can develop at different stages of life. Understanding the differences between ADHD and depression can help people recognize symptoms and seek appropriate professional support.

What Is ADHD?

Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a neurodevelopmental condition that can affect attention, organization, impulse control, and activity levels. Although ADHD is often associated with children, symptoms can continue into adolescence and adulthood.

ADHD can affect many areas of everyday life, including work, school, relationships, time management, and responsibilities. Symptoms may vary from person to person, and not everyone with ADHD experiences the same combination of difficulties.

Common Symptoms of ADHD

ADHD symptoms are generally grouped into inattentive and hyperactive-impulsive patterns. Some people mainly experience difficulties with attention, while others experience both inattentive and hyperactive-impulsive symptoms.

Common signs may include difficulty staying focused, frequently losing things, forgetting responsibilities, struggling with organization, interrupting others, restlessness, or acting without thinking. These symptoms are typically persistent rather than appearing only during a short period of low mood.

What Is Depression?

Depression is a mood disorder that can affect emotions, thinking, physical health, and everyday functioning. A person experiencing depression may feel persistently sad, empty, hopeless, or lose interest in activities they previously enjoyed.

Depression can affect sleep, appetite, energy, concentration, motivation, and self-esteem. Symptoms can vary in severity and may interfere with relationships, work, education, and other areas of life.

Common Symptoms of Depression

Depression may involve persistent sadness, loss of interest or pleasure, low energy, feelings of worthlessness or excessive guilt, changes in sleep or appetite, difficulty concentrating, and thoughts about death or suicide.

Not everyone experiences depression in the same way. Some people may primarily notice physical fatigue or loss of motivation, while others may experience significant emotional changes.

ADHD vs Depression: Key Differences

Although ADHD and depression can share certain symptoms, there are important differences between them. Looking at the pattern, duration, and history of symptoms can help distinguish one from the other.

Differences in Attention and Concentration

People with ADHD may have difficulty maintaining attention even when they want to focus. They may become distracted easily, struggle with organization, or have trouble completing tasks that feel repetitive or uninteresting.

With depression, concentration problems are often connected with low mood, reduced energy, loss of interest, or slowed thinking. A person who normally has good concentration may notice that their ability to focus has declined after depressive symptoms develop.

Differences in Motivation

Low motivation can occur with both conditions, but the experience may be different. Someone with ADHD may want to complete a task but struggle to begin it, organize the steps, or maintain attention long enough to finish it.

With depression, a person may lose interest in activities they previously enjoyed and feel that everyday tasks require significant effort. Lack of motivation may be closely connected to low mood, fatigue, or reduced pleasure.

Differences in Mood

ADHD can involve frustration, impatience, emotional impulsivity, or rapid changes in feelings. However, these emotional experiences are not the same as the persistent low mood or loss of interest commonly associated with depression.

Depression generally involves a noticeable change in mood and emotional functioning that continues over time. Feelings of hopelessness, sadness, emptiness, or worthlessness may become prominent.

Can ADHD and Depression Occur Together?

Yes. A person can experience both ADHD and depression. When the two conditions occur together, symptoms may overlap and make daily functioning more difficult.

For example, ADHD-related difficulties with organization or completing responsibilities may contribute to frustration or stress. At the same time, depression can further reduce energy, motivation, and concentration. This combination can make it harder to determine which symptoms are connected to ADHD and which may be related to depression.

Why Proper Evaluation Matters

Because ADHD and depression can look similar in certain situations, professional evaluation is important. A mental health provider may consider the person's symptoms, their history, when symptoms began, how long they have continued, and how they affect daily life.

A diagnosis should not be based on one symptom alone. Looking at the overall pattern can help a provider determine whether someone may have ADHD, depression, both conditions, or another mental health condition that may produce similar symptoms.

How ADHD Can Affect Daily Life

ADHD may affect organization, time management, relationships, school, work, and household responsibilities. A person may frequently start tasks without finishing them, forget appointments, underestimate how long activities will take, or become overwhelmed by several responsibilities at once.

These difficulties can sometimes lead to frustration and low confidence. When challenges continue without appropriate support, they may also contribute to stress and emotional difficulties.

How Depression Can Affect Daily Life

Depression can make ordinary responsibilities feel much harder. Getting out of bed, working, studying, socializing, exercising, or maintaining personal routines may require more effort than usual.

People experiencing depression may also withdraw from friends and family or stop participating in activities they once enjoyed. These changes can further affect relationships and overall quality of life.

Treatment and Support for ADHD and Depression

Treatment depends on the condition, severity of symptoms, personal history, and individual needs. ADHD may be addressed through behavioral strategies, therapy, medication management, or a combination of approaches when appropriate.

Depression may also be treated through psychotherapy, medication management, lifestyle support, or other clinically appropriate approaches. When someone experiences both ADHD and depression, a mental health professional can help identify which symptoms need attention and develop a personalized approach.

Telepsychiatry can provide convenient access to psychiatric support from home, while in-person office visits remain an option for people who prefer face-to-face care. Having access to both options can make it easier for individuals to stay connected with ongoing mental health services.

#MentalHealth

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Expectations versus reality #Depression #Anxiety #Hope #Relationships #MentalHealth

Sometimes we are our own worst critics. Sometimes the kindest thing we can do for ourselves is to adjust, lower, our expectations. Last night I was talking with a friend who is newly retired. He said he might start learning how to play the piano.

I told him many years ago I started having piano lessons. One day the teacher said to me, “I cannot in good conscience take your money anymore”. You see I have weird little fingers on both hands. I was born with them that way. The tendons are too short so they can’t move at all.

However, when no one is at home, I have started learning some piano technique through YouTube. I know I will never be proficient, but, it’s still a bit of fun.

What do you need to let go? What reality do you have to accept? Don’t beat yourself up so easily. Sometimes “having a go” is the best we can do. Self love is a great investment!!!

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Love seeking and relationships

Hello, in online i always feel like that i want to be loved or have a partner or someone that does care to me, i have no idea why but when i try to get a kind one or some relation i always fail and that feeling gets me lonely or that no one loves me or likes me or i am the worst, so yeah i am very bad and i have anxiety when people choose someone else to like not me or they're taken or they get the care they wanted or they basically don't care, i always expect people to treat me well and gentle instead even by advice they just being mean or they put the blame to me, i feel i am a bad person that no one likes

#Anxiety #Advice #Love #MentalHealth

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"If it were possible, I think I’d tell my past self not to be caught off guard by #depression."

"It was about a year [after diagnosis] I had my first brush with depression. I tried to make peace with my illness as quickly as I could, but when I took stock of time lost and damage to relationships, my mental health worsened, and that wasn’t as easy to recover from."

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#depression #MultipleSclerosis #ChronicIllness #Disability #MightyTogether

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