I'm raising 2 grown men. One is 19. One is 39. 😵💫🤷 #Anxiety #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #PTSD
I'm tired. Restless, tired, frustrated, and possibly more than a little crazy.
First thing first, my husband is 39 and refuses to properly care for himself. He can do basic daily activities and go to work, but his ability to actually Care about himself outside of that is non-existent. He's a diabetic and an alcoholic. He eats fast food every day if I let him. He can't take care of animals and he doesn't know how to pay bills. He's always been like this. His entire life. I'm trying to teach him to be independent. He doesn't care to learn. His only goal in life is to stay drunk as long as possible. (Please don't ask me why I married him or stay with him, as it's not your concern.)
Second, I took in someone I love dearly who is 19. He was in a very bad spot and needed a place to go. He's also #schizoaffective , has #BPD , #Anxiety , and #PTSD . He has no manners and is very aggressive towards my husband.
I am stuck in the middle of the war between the two of them, always trying to find the compromise and explain each side to the other. My husband understands that #BPD is challenging to say the least and that he sometimes needs to tread lightly or be more understanding than usual from dealing with me. The #schizoaffective though, he doesn't understand and, despite my best efforts, I cannot get him to grasp.
The situation is just making me tired. Neither of them will grow up and TRY to understand the other. I don't know what to do.
Meh. Thanks for letting me vent.