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    What's one thing you can do outside your comfort zone that will benefit you in your health journey this month?

    As I walk in my recovery journey, I often find myself at a crossroads with my comfort zone. On one hand, I find myself choosing what’s most familiar to me because it easier to access, but on the other hand I know that change and new habits can benefit my growth, especially when it comes to self-care and consistency 🤔.

    Something I’m trying that I know will benefit me and my mental health —and is out of my comfort zone — is reaching out and talking to someone when I catch myself overthinking. It’s so easy for me to go hours feeling overwhelmed when I know it would be helpful to talk out my concerns with someone else.

    What about you? What can you do outside your comfort zone that will benefit your journey?

    #Selfcare #CheckInWithMe #Grief #MentalHealth #Anxiety #Depression #BipolarDisorder #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #ObsessiveCompulsiveDisorder #PTSD #EatingDisorders #ChronicIllness #RareDisease #ChronicPain #Spoonie #EhlersDanlosSyndrome #CrohnsDisease #Cancer #Migraine #Fibromyalgia #MultipleSclerosis

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    Anger

    Anger is a tricky one because it makes so much sense to be angry at those who have trespassed against us or our loved ones. It's so easy to hold onto anger because it seems justifiable and rational. But even though you have every reason to be angry at someone, please see that all you are doing is hurting yourself. There is nothing to gain except for more contempt for the world, more stress, more sleepless nights, and more mental health challenges. Please give yourself a break from fighting the world. You're way better off letting them go, letting go of the anger, and loving yourself instead. Does anyone have any insights to help those who are facing this very common challenge?

    ~ Thanks to all. Thanks for all. ~

    Speaking of thanks for all, I was hoping we could acknowledge everyone who comments below. I know it seems like a small gesture, but many people here have never opened up to anyone before and being open and honest with strangers can be quite scary. So, if we could show our gratitude by giving their comment a simple reply or heart, I’m sure they would really appreciate your team support. What do you say?

    #MentalHealth #Depression #Suicide #Anxiety #BipolarDisorder #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Addiction #dissociativedisorders #OCD #ADHD #Fibromyalgia #EhlersDanlosSyndrome #POTS #PTSD #Cancer #RareDisease #Disability #Autism #Diabetes #EatingDisorders #ChronicIllness #ChronicPain #RheumatoidArthritis #MentalHealth

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    An emotional day

    #Fibromyalgia

    Just needed a safe place to vent… woke up today already knowing it was going to be a little challenging. I lost my mom to cancer 9 years ago. Today would’ve been her 73rd birthday. The past few years I’ve handled it ok, but for some reason this year is hitting me hard.
    Then I get a phone call from my stepmom that there’s a family matter that I have to deal with (it’s a very, very long story for another day). No one was sick or anything like that, but as anyone with a chronic illness knows, one little thing off schedule or the slightest bit of stress can throw your entire body out of whack. It took server hours and all of my energy and self control to handle it, but I think I did ok.
    I had planned on grieving for and “talking to” my mom, but I’m now too worn out. I’m afraid to cry cuz crying triggers migraines (anyone else?!) but I know holding it in isn’t good for me either. I’m sorry this is really long. The only people I can really talk to right now are my boyfriend, my sis-in-law, and my stepmom.
    Thank you for letting me vent. I hope everyone else is well and is having an awesome day! Lots of love to all!

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    Leave the past behind you

    Please remember that every day is an opportunity to be your best self. You don't have to hold onto the past or let it define you. You have the ability to use what you went through and learned to grow. After all, if it were not for the gift of experiencing weakness, we would never know the beauty of experiencing strength. What are some things from your past that you have used to lift yourself up and become your best self?

    ~ Thanks to all. Thanks for all. ~

    Speaking of thanks for all, I was hoping we could acknowledge everyone who comments below. I know it seems like a small gesture, but many people here have never opened up to anyone before and being open and honest with strangers can be quite scary. So, if we could show our gratitude by giving their comment a simple reply or heart, I’m sure they would really appreciate your team support. What do you say?

    #MentalHealth #Depression #Suicide #Anxiety #BipolarDisorder #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Addiction #dissociativedisorders #OCD #ADHD #Fibromyalgia #EhlersDanlosSyndrome #POTS #PTSD #Cancer #RareDisease #Disability #Autism #Diabetes #EatingDisorders #ChronicIllness #ChronicPain #RheumatoidArthritis #MentalHealth

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    What’s something you have to consistently rely on others for?

    When you live with a disability or have a chronic health condition, sometimes it’s necessary to ask for help. Whether it’s to assist with chores or other everyday activities or errands, relying on others is how the task gets done and thats totally OK, we definitely can relate 🙋.

    What do you have to rely on others for? How does that make you feel?

    P.S. There’s no shame at all in asking for the help you need.

    ❤️ If you’re looking for something Mighty to read on the topic, check out Larissa Martin’s experiences here:
    themighty.com/topic/cerebral-palsy/personal-care-needs-bathr...

    #ChronicPain #ChronicIllness #MentalHealth #Disability #Caregiving #RareDisease #Migraine #Stroke #CardiovascularDisease #AutonomicDysfunction #PosturalOrthostaticTachycardiaSyndrome #Spoonie #Lupus #Endometriosis #Hospital #Cancer #Anxiety #PTSD #CheckInWithMe

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    My mom has stage 4 cancer and I need help. #Melanoma #SkinCancer #Singlemom

    My mom has been diagnosed with stage 4 Melanoma cancer. She is a single mom and takes care of me and my older brother. She went from working 6 days a week, to having no energy to do much. we are now at a point where we can’t afford rent, so my brother is moving to Missouri at the end of the month where his dad lives and he is gonna take all of our fruniture, beds, boxes and what not. Me and my mom are gonna go to florida, and live with my great aunt for 3/2 months, then go to Missouri when her disability and unemployment kicks in. We will be driving to Florida. The problem is we don’t have the money for the truck, or to fix my moms car. We have called so many places, have asked everyone we can think of for help. My mom is just nonstop constantly trying to find a solution but it’s all just a dead end. We have asked family and friends but no one can help. So if anyone who reads this knows someone or knows a place to call please let me know. Anything helps!

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    Not doing well

    Health issues and work issues. I am mentally not great. I feel myself slipping away and I don't know what to do. I am trying to hold on and get through the rough times. But I want to give up. When I say give up I don't know what I mean. I have a husband a 13 year old twins. I feel like my health issues are killing me. I am failing at my job. I am on a performance plan at work. If I wouldn't financially cripple my family I would quit. I was in therapy for years but I stopped when it just felt like whining. I need help. I need something but I don't know what I need. My whole life I have always felt alone and a failure. My family was shit. My father died when I was 12, my mother when I was 22. I had cancer the first time at 19. My life got upended by the first cancer dx. I tried for years to get my feet back under me. Then I got married and had kids. Fast forward to 2010 I had my twins, found out I had heart failure and a week heart. Seven years later I had colon cancer and lung cancer. Rectum removed and lung. Now my heart is failing again. I just had mitral valve repair in January. Then all the chaos in my health is now making me fail at my job. I feel like a piece of shit that cannot do anything right. Part of me just wants to die from all of this. I have been fighting for so long. I just want to stop.

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    Internal speech

    It's pretty easy to speak to people kindly and respectfully. We all know how the power of our words can make others feel good. But when it comes to what we say to ourselves, we are so quick to give in to cruelty and insult. We are so quick to say terrible things about ourselves based on fear, insecurity, judgment, and sadness. Please remember that mindful internal speech is so important for your mental health. So what are some positive things you can say about yourself today?

    ~ Thanks to all. Thanks for all. ~

    Speaking of thanks for all, I was hoping we could acknowledge everyone who comments below. I know it seems like a small gesture, but many people here have never opened up to anyone before and being open and honest with strangers can be quite scary. So, if we could show our gratitude by giving their comment a simple reply or heart, I’m sure they would really appreciate your team support. What do you say?

    #MentalHealth #Depression #Suicide #Anxiety #BipolarDisorder #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Addiction #dissociativedisorders #OCD #ADHD #Fibromyalgia #EhlersDanlosSyndrome #POTS #PTSD #Cancer #RareDisease #Disability #Autism #Diabetes #EatingDisorders #ChronicIllness #ChronicPain #RheumatoidArthritis #MentalHealth

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    Excuses…

    I think that my daughter has made up excuses as to why she’s estranged us. I wrote her a letter which was positive, with many of her good qualities listed in it. I told her I wanted to reconcile whatever differences we had and that I was willing to listen to her. Yesterday on Instagram in a stories post she puts this..I’m not sure how to view this. Maybe on a couple of the points, I could see myself there, but she’s far more negative than I or my husband are. I tried to be supportive of her illness and she as a person and as my daughter. The last time we talked, it will be a year the end of April! She was so very ill everyday until they changed her cancer meds..She was sick everyday and would ask if she could call me. I’d just listen and talk and try to cheer her up while she wreched on the phone! Then I’d let her go. It was too difficult for me to listen to her be ill on the phone anyway. Then a short while after those last calls she shut me out completely, and her dad also. She’s now in a N.E.D. for over a year, so I’m grateful, and she’s no longer nauseous everyday, so that’s all good. I pray for a reconciliation, but it hasn’t happen and may never happen.

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    Letting go

    So often when something is hurting us, it is our resistance to change or changing ourselves that makes us hurt. The idea of letting go can either be so scary or foreign that we don't give it a chance. But when you look at these three perspectives, do any of them resonate with you? What is your experience with letting go and how has it helped you?

    ~ Thanks to all. Thanks for all. ~

    Speaking of thanks for all, I was hoping we could acknowledge everyone who comments below. I know it seems like a small gesture, but many people here have never opened up to anyone before and being open and honest with strangers can be quite scary. So, if we could show our gratitude by giving their comment a simple reply or heart, I’m sure they would really appreciate your team support. What do you say?

    #MentalHealth #Depression #Suicide #Anxiety #BipolarDisorder #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Addiction #dissociativedisorders #OCD #ADHD #Fibromyalgia #EhlersDanlosSyndrome #POTS #PTSD #Cancer #RareDisease #Disability #Autism #Diabetes #EatingDisorders #ChronicIllness #ChronicPain #RheumatoidArthritis #MentalHealth

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